Anyone have experience of having a fling with a MUCH younger guy?

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So I decided to change the age settings on Hinge and got messaged by a guy who’s a lot younger than me. I’ll be honest, he’s 21 and I’m 49. I’m not looking for anything serious and neither is he. We find each other very attractive and have really hit it off. Should I go there??? Have you been there???

Yea I can see 43 and 30.

That’s reasonable but 49 and 21 is gross to me and that applies to if the man was the older one too.

I’m late 30s and have friends who are as young as 30 but I don’t see myself having anything in common with a 21 year old other than as a big sister/parental figure.

I used to teach 6th graders and even my former students are way older than that 😂

Fair enough - each to their own I guess lol

That’s my thoughts as well. The photo in a suit is an alarm bell for me - almost no one wears a suit to work these days. And his story about buying a house sounds a bit too much like a script

For context I work for one of the UK’s largest wealth management companies very corporate and other than the board if someone turned up to the office in a suit, they’d stand out like a sore thumb.

When you need to ask to see your lover/partners ID to double check they’re 18 or above you know they’re too young! 😂😂

I’m in my 50’s and one of our close friends recently dated a woman 20 years younger. Very nice lady and obviously a grown adult but even in her 30’s, the age gap between her and the whole group was really noticeable.

Yeah it would stick out in my social circle too. Everyone I know married men/women their age or for a few there are age gaps of 10-ish years in either direction.

I feel way more out of place in groups of my age peers than amongst DH’s friends and other older people, but that’s not to say anything about how they see me, tbf

No problem with age gaps per se but 21/49 is a bit stomach churning (I’d say the same with an older bloke/younger woman). I’m mid 40s with an almost 20 year old son so maybe that’s why. I can recognise that young fellas are attractive but their age/differences in our life stages/knowing I’m old enough to be their mother/vast difference in sexual experience just cuts dead any sexual attraction for me. For me personally mid 30s would be the lowest.

If he’s trying to pull the wool over my eyes then he’s going to great lengths to do so. He was at work when he sent the photo 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm younger than you and have a ds around that age .Thinking of someone in their 20's in a sexual way - my brain wouldn't do it. Grim 🤢.

Do you not see them as adults who are generally having sex with other people?

A woman ( or man) who's almost 50 having sex with a 21 year old gives me
the ick. Fancying someone so young, viewing them in a sexual way. No, I don't get it and it creeps me out. What's the 21 year old even thinking. Probably some sort of bet with his mates - we'll all shag a granny and whoever bags the oldest, wins.

Look, everyone has their preferences. But they’re adults, and even if you don’t view them as sexually attractive or as options, they’re having sex. They’re in their 20s; they’re not 14.

He very well may be into older women, or OP could be an exceptionally attractive older woman. Who knows. Personally I stopped feeling attracted to men under 35 or so (and generally preferred them between 40-60ish) around the age of 18. People are all different.

Will have to agree to disagree on this. Nothing anyone says will change my mind about 20+ year age gaps. Make my skin crawl.

You can certainly have your feelings about it. There’s just not logical backing to it. That’s okay.

If it feels right, you’re both single and just looking for fun then go for it! God knows it happens enough the other way round! Enjoy!

49 and 21? I just couldn't!

The photo in a suit is an alarm bell for me - almost no one wears a suit to work these days. And his story about buying a house sounds a bit too much like a script

Yep, me too.

If my 8 year old had to write a list of all the impressive big boy things he'd do as a grown up, I'm pretty sure buying a house and wearing a suit to work would make that list 😂😂

I would never sleep with anybody young enough to be my son. Honestly, I am not really keen of big age gaps (10 years).

What's the betting he's going to need a temporary loan to cover house buying costs?
He's not after you for a fling or to win a grab a granny contest. He's after your money.

Or maybe he just wants sex? Young men like sex

I met a guy on my recent solo holiday, he was 35, I'm 53 so not quite the same but we spent a bit of time together over the week, he was a total gentlemen and on my last night I went back to his place and had THE best night ever. He's messaged quite a bit since I've been back but it was just a holiday romance for me, albeit a bloody great time and a massive confidence boost

Yeah.

But 'normal' men don't often want sex with women who are old enough to be their grandma.

If you're a 40's/50's woman that kids yourself that you would be generally desirable to men in their 20's then tbph that's just kind of sad.

Swap the gender roles around and this would be obviously creepy.

I’m loving some of these comments! 😂