Would your partner have an opinion on your choice of underwear

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Feel like im going insane on this topic of underwear choice with my dh.
I wore a thong yesterday so i wouldnt have a knicker line and sometimes embarassingly they make me feel a bit more nicer about myself. But my dh thinks women wear thongs to gain other male attention.
The point he tried to make to me yesterday was that my trousers (which were dark green linen wide leg trousers) gathered round my bum at times because i was wearing a thong and that suggested i wore a thong because i wanted this effect to impress other males essentially.
I feel like im having to lower myself to explain that i just felt like wearing one with those trousers because it felt nice and as stupid as it sounds, it felt a bit more breezy in the hot sunshine wearing a thong with the throusers. It wasnt done for attention of other men but this is the type of crap said to me and i feel like i can never justify dressing up nice or wearing certain underwear because it suggests im wanting other men to check me out basically. When i explain im dressing up for myself or to impress him it falls on deaf ears....
When i say i was dressed nice yesterday i was wearing a black tshirt and khaki wide leg linen trousers and flip flops... im not out in tight skimpy clothes with loads of skin or my body on show.
I feel like i cant get this through to him. That my choice of underwear shouldnt suggest im doing it for other men to look at me.

Is this a normal thing?? Would your partner look at it that a thong is meant to be worn because youre trying to be sexual etc
Is it normal that he thinks in this context? I dont understand why theres an issue that sometimes i like to wear one. Feel like im even trying to justify this to myself now because prehaps hes right that it looks like im trying to be sexual or something??? But if that was the case id be wearing skimpy tight clothing etc... i purposely dont because of issues like this

Yes DH would have an opinion. He’d love me to wear thongs. But I don’t because I love a granny pant and it’s none of his business so he quite rightly keeps his opinions to himself.

He sounds massively insecure. Either that or he thinks he owns you. Do you actually like this man?

My husband doesn’t wear my pants, so has absolutely no opinion on them.

He's controlling. This is not ok. Does he demonstrate other jealous and controlling behaviours?

My fiancé loves when I wear thongs and is obviously pleased to see them, but would not dream of telling me what kind of undergarments to wear.

I mostly wear the granny pants too, im not running about wearing thongs every day of the week because they can be uncomfortable... but with the hot weather yesterday it felt a bit more airy with the thong.. thats simply it...

I ĺove this man, ive been with him for 20 years and kids together.

Male perspective here. He sounds insecure. He should support you being yourself and dressing how you want. The idea that you are wearing that so other men are looking at you is in his head and he’s either afraid you are looking for male attention or he knows that men (meaning him) look at that sort of thing.

My husband has never expressed any opinion about my underwear. I can only imagine my response if he told me that I was picking underwear to attract other men. But my husband likes me to look attractive. He is confident enough to understand that another man finding me attractive is utterly irrelevant.

But thats the thing he loves it when i wear one when its just him that knows im wearing one. Its me wearing one outside of the home means i must be doing it for other men to oggle what is his and that im being disrespectful by doing that... that basically me wearing one when out and about means i must be doing it to impress other men! Thats how im making sense of it all from him

Exactly DH can have an opinion on anything and everything but it’s mine, and only mine decision as to what I wear and when. This also includes what my hair looks like . In 30 years there has never been an issue.

This.

WTAF.

How can it be to impress other men? They can’t see the thong can they?

Ridiculous anyway.

DH does have an opinion/preference about type of underwear I wear, as do I with him, but neither of us would ever push this on the other person. Especially not out of insecurity & in a controlling way, completely out of order from your DH.

And you have been together for twenty years? Has it come up before?

Mine asked me why I wear flesh coloured bras and knickers as he doesn’t like the colour and thinks it looks ugly and what was wrong with white. I pointed out that flesh colour doesn’t show through clothes and white does. We were shopping and i showed him all the flesh coloured underwear and he conceded he got it. It wasn’t anything about being controlling or wanting me to wear different he just thought it was a horrible colour

My OH wouldn't have the remotest interest, far less comment on, my undergarments.
Mind you, I don't think anyone would find my old M and S knickers and bra a turn-on,

My husband might compliment me on my underwear but this is completely different. Your husband sounds jealous and controlling.

My dh has an opinion & he'd like me to wear sexy undies but I don't like them, so I don't 😆 I can't stand thongs or any of the silky lacey underwear, it's uncomfortable for me and I don't feel sexy in it.I feel ridiculous, but that's just me.Give me sports bras and big pants every time. We laugh about it though it's not a serious issue.
I decide what I want to wear, so should you OP

My husband likes me to wear undoes I am comfortable in. he'd love mw to wear lacy things but knows I don;t because I can;t stand the feel of lace and I like to wear shaping underwear that smoothes out my lumps and bumps.

He loves it when I wear a certain style of Levi jeans as he says my bum looks great in them.

Everyone has told you that this is controlling of your H. Non-controlling men would never accuse their partners of wearing underwear to attract other men.

Does he say the same if you wear a short dress or revealing top? Or do you think he would?

My dp loves me to wear a thong and he knows it’s for him, myself and no one else.

He’s being insecure, jealous and controlling.

25 years in and DH has never once expressed an opinion my knickers nor me on his choice of underwear.

The only time DH would have any interest in my underwear would be if we were going hill walking in the winter or in wet weather. We would possibly have a conversation about thermal vests and longjohns.

Very happily married for 35 years but I doubt if he even knows what a thong is.

OP your husband sounds a bit insecure, is he like that about other things?

My husband couldn’t care less what underwear I wear, just as I don’t care what he wears.