Unplanned pregnancy #6

[Blue127]

So we was together for 11 years,
he told me last week his been un happy for a while and he’s moving out and we will co parent the children. We have 5 kids.

well I just done a pregnancy test and it’s bloody positive. I have the coil in.
so I’m lost.
my youngest is only 1 then I have a 4 year old son that is Sen. It’s hard work.

I have told him and he said I should get rid. And it’s easy to do.
he said if I keep the baby he won’t be involved in the labour pregnancy or help with appointments. Also won’t help with baby.

I know deep down I shouldn’t keep this baby. But I feel so guilty .

I do all the child care he’s always working or out.

I am so sorry for you, OP. You have been to hell and back. Give yourself some time to come to terms with everything and you will come back from this stronger than ever.

❤

So sorry for your loss. Try not to rush into big changes. Although I suppose if all that’s changing is that he’s not there it won’t be all that different as you do everything in the house anyway. Hard for the kids though.
The only advice I can properly give you is that no matter how awful he is never badmouth him in front of the children. And if you can get him to agree to the same you will have made a good start to co parenting amicably.
Sending hugs, it’s horrible when you split up but it does get better in the long run.

Up date still not sign of him! I have applied for uc and dla for my Sen Child.

I never bad mouth him, I have sent him a message asking if he would like to see kids and nothing I’m broken for them just keep saying his working for a min

What a waste of space he is! You sound exhausted but getting through it.
Please don’t make excuses for this pos. You don’t have to bad mouth him but if he’s not coming back, telling the kids the truth might be better all round. It’s just crap that he’s taken no responsibility for his actions and treated you all like you are disposable 😔

Up date he came and seen the kids today. 4-8 and then asked what I was doing… I never replied.. just asked him to leave,
I have just got a message to say he can’t see the kids for another week as he needs to me a friend like the one I just meet ( I was walking around for 4 hrs on the phone to my sis) but he doesn’t need to know that,

I just replied saying ok. Now my phone is blowing up from him.

im just tired I don’t care what he is doing

Meet

Does he think you’re seeing another man or am I misunderstanding?

I think because he’s so used to me staying home, his gas lighting me.