Unplanned pregnancy #6

[Blue127]

So we was together for 11 years,
he told me last week his been un happy for a while and he’s moving out and we will co parent the children. We have 5 kids.

well I just done a pregnancy test and it’s bloody positive. I have the coil in.
so I’m lost.
my youngest is only 1 then I have a 4 year old son that is Sen. It’s hard work.

I have told him and he said I should get rid. And it’s easy to do.
he said if I keep the baby he won’t be involved in the labour pregnancy or help with appointments. Also won’t help with baby.

I know deep down I shouldn’t keep this baby. But I feel so guilty .

I do all the child care he’s always working or out.

@Blue127 I’m so sorry you’re going through this. What a pig. I hope you can speak to your GP and get some support if you’re feeling low. Take care of yourself x

Thank you, I will be all happy and smiling tomorrow. I have. Team of kids needing me.
im hurt and confused x

If the home is in your name and you're not married, I think it's time to stop having him in the house. Pack his shit up, change the locks and offer contact with the dc outside the home.

Sorry if you're miscarrying. 💐

Any update on bleeding OP? Hope you're doing ok, you're having a very tough time right now. Thinking of you.

Yes it very heavy, not clots as of yet.
im ok, i have to be ok. Kids keep me busy it’s not till night I feel all the emotions to be honest x

Take care of yourself ❤️

I think the stress of this bombshell he dropped on you was quite a contributing factor in your situation. Have you sought medical attention? It’s really important you do. You sound like a wonderful, resilient and caring person, a lovely mum. Take care of yourself x

What an absolute fucking ARSEHOLE

He wants out? Then he goes, now!

Prick.

And would be making DAMN sure that his sidepiece found out about the pregnancy, so she knows that she wasnt he only one he was shagging.

Try and get to the EPAU if you can tomorrow, they can do HCG blood tests to see whats happening. Bleeding doesnt always mean miscarriage xx

@AnonAnonmystery I haven’t as of yet, I will do just been a busy week. And yes I think it’s definitely the stress. And thank you

The bleeding has stopped 🫠

Great news OP ❤️

I take it I have still lost the baby?

Have the baby, you’ll make it work like you always do. It’ll be hard and you know this, don’t live to regret doing an abortion.

Sorry I have never had a miscarriage before

I had several episodes of bleeding with my coil pregnancy which ended with massive bleeding at 16 weeks. I’m sorry you are going through such a horrible time.

I've only had a chemical so I was about 6 weeks but the bleeding was continuous like a period. Hopefully you will get someone with better info than me along soon 🙏

You are pregnant with a coil in, you should have been at the hospital the minute the test was positive. It puts both you and the foetus at massive risk if you continue with the pregnancy, and if you choose not to then you need to have it removed in order to terminate.

Go now.

Please go get checked out before the weekend, you need an early pregnancy scan, you can go to A&E and they will send you to maternity to get a scan. I had a few bleeds in my second pregnancy and baby is now a teen! I hope you are ok x

Sorry edited to remove as saw your update.

Hope you're okay OP and I agree with pp it would be a good idea to go to GP asap

Not necessarily @Blue127 I hope you've been able to arrange to see someone before the weekend, you may be able to contact your local Early Pregnancy Unit directly.
Do get checked out asap, your health could be at risk.

It would be a good idea to be seen by a medical professional.

Never feel pressured into doing anything you don’t want to do by him or anyone else. It’s YOUR decision and your decision only 💐

You can’t reverse an abortion.

Up date.
I lost the baby. I never had a miscarriage before. He left Thursday and we are yet to see him. I’m broken for the kids. I just keep saying his at work, thank you ❤️

I'm so sorry, @Blue127. Thinking of you.