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Glam & Fab Part 5 - Summer Loving

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macdoodle · 15/05/2008 19:11

Gosh time for a new thread already
I'm up for a half term meet - tis the week of the bank hol here 26 May - I will be with sis in Hitchin prob from Sun 25 May most of that week so up for London or roundabout meetup

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Notnotagain · 01/06/2008 10:23

Hi, just pooping on this thread and waving at you x

Notnotagain · 01/06/2008 10:23

Popping not pooping

Dior · 01/06/2008 12:11

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macdoodle · 01/06/2008 12:12

You can poop if you want

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Dior · 01/06/2008 12:14

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Notnotagain · 01/06/2008 12:58

thanks.. You know what gets me? It really gets me that I look after myself, have a good job, deal with most things because he won't. You know I'm not a bad catch ( I'm not perfect by any means, but at least I try!). It's really gets to me that this OW is much older than me, and from what I can see from the e-mails, is a self pittying, lazy wotsit who needs a good scrub up. I know that's really mean and I don't know her.
But I look at me, and beautiful Dcs and look at his life, and can only think that he has got it bloody good here.
And, (sorry ranting), I have had offers before and always turned them down.
I really feel like I need to have a good wash, I feel really dirty. Yuk he's been having sex with her.
So I am all in control with what I have to do, but I am so out of control with the way I feel about it all!

Okay Rant over!!! Thank you x

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macdoodle · 01/06/2008 21:28

Hi Notagain for you
You will find a lot of wise women here
So sad today - back to work in a week tomorrow baby starts in childcare settling in and I am in work computer updating/getting up to speed etc
H PRAT (I really hate him how can you love and hate someone at the same time)....he just moaned that he had to have DD2 tomorrow when I am not officially in work till next Mon - mostly sad that he doesn't even want to spend time with her - she is fabby little baby - but he hasn't done ANY childcare since I went on mat leave not even to give me a break or spend time with them I have to push him to have DD1...
So I have to go back to work to support us I don't want to leave my baby and he moans and acts like he is doing me a favour looking after her .....then gets cross when I get upset apologises tries to grope me and then gets angry when I tell him to fuck off and doesn't even bother to phone to say goodnight to DD1....oh sorry for pathetic ramble ...
Solicitor 2 weeks Tues -

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HappyWoman · 02/06/2008 06:37

McD

They say we 'allow' people to treat us the way they do.

This is not harsh but you sound as if you are trying to do it all.

Going back to work for 'us' - what about for you and dds?

It does sound as if he does not get it at all - maybe he really does need that shock otherwise why would he change?

I can almost hear you screaming in this post and it hurts to know how awful you must be feeling.

I do understand how hard it is but you are now in a position to take control over this.

You are doing a fantastic job - bringing up your dds single handed at a time when this was not your choice.
We are here for you - we will get you through this.

Hi notagain and welcome - just feel free to have a rant whenever you like.

Baffy · 02/06/2008 11:20

TFM I'm sorry I haven't been in touch but am glad to hear you're ok xx

Macd trust me, the minute you take control is the minute everything will change. I cannot believe the way he treats you, and his daughters, and he expects to just be able to grope you and jump into bed and it will all be ok!
Believe me, that appointment is the best thing you can do right now. He's unbelieveable!

notagain welcome to the thread I hope you're ok? There's a lot of people here who know exactly how you're feeling xx

pc how are you? how did the drinks go yesterday?

Dior any news from the girl at work? I haven't heard from OSJ in ages let us know if you hear.

LL how are you doing??

Dior · 02/06/2008 13:33

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ginnedup · 02/06/2008 13:48

Go Dior - good to hear you praising yourself for a change. Keep it up.
Welcome notnotagain.
MacD - keep ranting on here and keep feeling that anger all the way to the solicitors office. The way he treats you and your dds is absolutely disgusting. I know its heartbreaking going to work when they are so small, but when they are older they will remember that you worked hard to give them a nice life and what will they remember about their daddy? Coming second to the pub and upsetting you, not to mention the OW and her baby. You should be proud of yourself. You are doing great
We have an 'insect' day today as ds2 calls it. They are driving me insane and its now tipping down so we are stuck indoors.

Baffy · 02/06/2008 14:06

Dior
Hopefully he'll appreciate you all the more now too!

Lol at insect day ginnedup

p.s. I think there was a gremlin in my computer on Friday as my smilies are back to normal now! Phew!

HappyWoman · 02/06/2008 15:51

I wondered what you were going on about the 'different' smilies .

You are brilliant dior - please dont forget that.

Grit your teeth GU tomorrow will be here soon. My dd does not go to nursery on mondays and they are always much harder than i remember. We have been into town today but i have not got all the things i needed as she just doesnt stop talking (dont know where she gets it from ), and i cannot think straight.

Hope you are feeling a bit better TFM - and getting all the rest you need and getting p to do all the running around after you .

Dior · 02/06/2008 16:01

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Paddlechick666 · 02/06/2008 16:12

thanks dior

my friends took me out yesterday afternoon and bought me dinner too and dd behaved wonderfully even tho it wasn't the best toddler environment.

today's best treat was a wonderful smile and kiss from The Princess of Pink this morning and we will share a smarties chocolate cake this evening.

postman didn't come today but i had some cards from friends yesterday, lots of texts and FB messages today and a couple of emails which has all be lovely.

'net was down half the blardy weekend!

HW, god I so know what you mean about not being able to think straight! I was in Tesco at 8:10am today after dropping dd off and it was utter bliss. I had no list and I forgot nothing!

Did I just split my infinitive? Is it possible to forget nothing?

Dior · 02/06/2008 21:08

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Dior · 02/06/2008 22:00

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HappyWoman · 03/06/2008 06:54

sorry Dior I am a morning person. .

Paddlechick666 · 03/06/2008 09:19

if anyone feels they can do something to help another mn-er who's having a crap time check out a thread by helpafriend in Other Subjects.
Not doing too great on paddle planet. Just not achieving anything, or that's how I feel. Work is so stressful which is fine if it's going ok but it's not especially.
I just have no motivation and feel like I'm performing really badly. No concentration to absorb stuff. Can't afford to lose my job tho and am worried that's what will happen. But even that worry isn't enough to motivate me!

HappyWoman · 03/06/2008 09:27

PC
We all have days/weeks/months like that.
The weather doesnt help either does it?
It is a bit doom and gloom in the city too and i know there are a lot of job losses around - not said to make you feel worse.

At H work they are looking at ways of letting some go - I think i could get one to go with the publication of some emails . But he wouldnt suggest it to them .

Dior · 03/06/2008 09:56

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Baffy · 03/06/2008 10:05

Go for it HW! You're just helping them get rid of the bad wood...

PC did you enjoy your birthday in the end? (Sorry for the late message - it was one of those nights when the time just ran away with me and by the time I sat down it was about 11 o clock!)

And yes, I do think it's possible to forget nothing...

Anniegetyourgun · 03/06/2008 13:42

It's not a split infinitive, it's a double negative. But this is a chat board, not an English essay, so you can be forgiven. It made sense, anyway.

Dior · 03/06/2008 14:32

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WilyWombat · 03/06/2008 14:35

LOL - I generally get upset about double negatives, hubby uses them all the time and I dont want the children to.

But its not really that bad in the scheme of things is it

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