Glam & Fab Part 5 - Summer Loving

[macdoodle]

Gosh time for a new thread already
I'm up for a half term meet - tis the week of the bank hol here 26 May - I will be with sis in Hitchin prob from Sun 25 May most of that week so up for London or roundabout meetup

I'm sitting here waiting for reports to run in the background. And I can't do my work (consolidating the figures) until the source reports have run. And they haven't run yet because I have incompetent f*ckwits working for me!!

The post just wouldn't allow me to cut down to 4 days. And I can't work from home due to the stupid number of files I need and the fact that I need complete quiet to do the figures (my brain can't cope with noise and numbers at the same time!) and my mum's house is just far too hectic to accomodate me working there in any meaningful way!

Its killing me. Absolutely killing me. I promised ds this morning I would be home for tea and bath time. And I've missed it again!!

You know what, if I could sack everyone and do it myself I would! But I need my staff to do their jobs. And do them properly. And they're not!

I can't tell you the number of times I've called them into the office, gone through the problems, set up work-arounds to solve that problem etc etc. Then next month they just find a new problem!!
And if I go down the disciplinary route I get HR involved, cause myself no end of fuss, have to replace them, and will end up working even longer hours to recruit a replacement and then train them up...

But I think that is going to have to be my longer term solution. I can't keep covering for people who aren't doing their jobs properly.

In the meantime though I'm not sure there are any answers. Sorry for ranting. It helps though

They wouldn't happen to be men would they, your staff?

Awh Baffy, I'm sorry you are going through this. I wish I had a solution for you but, I'm afraid the only solution I can come up with is to quit! Find a job more suited to your situation with a view to returning to your career when DS is older and you are all sorted there easy!

Only joking, I know it's not in the least bit easy but, as you said to Dior, life is short!! All work and no play (or sleep) makes Baffy unhappy! xxx

I can't possibly take a wage cut if I'm to try and rent or buy on my own with ds. There's just no way. But yes life is too short. Way too short. But sadly I don't have many options at the moment...

p.s. yes they are men!
But it's not gender related. It's incompetent arse hole related!!!!!

Then it is gender related

Baffy what a nightmare , you need to start getting some of them to take the flack then for not doing their job. In the long term it will pay off and let's face it you can't be working any harder.
Can you not have one night where you say regardless of the work situation you will leave at a reasonable hour and stick to that.
DS is only small once and i know you can't give up the job, this guilt will finish you off.

Baffy, call a meeting and explain that you feel that due to your having to intervene and expalin how the job should be done they are all in need of training. Therefore, they are booked on training courses for three consecetive weekends, of course, if you see an imporvement in things meantime the courses will be cancelled as you would really hate to come between them and their leisure/hobby/family/relaxation time

Baffy - I know how you feel. I too am surrounded by incomptent workers. I rang work from home last Friday to remind them to get some stuff sorted as it would be rather late to organise it this week. As usual, nothing done and I had to chase it up

Still, I am leaving, leaving, LEAVING! FUCK I am so happy to be leaving Dior - you've done the right thing. I think it will make the world of difference. What kind of jewellery do you make? V impressed

TFM you are full of wise words One thing I would say though is that we all have to go through our own stages of grief. It is great to listen to someone who has been there and come through the other side - inspiring, BUT we are all unique and deal with these things differently.

Like HW I still feel I have not had my day with OW. She means little to me (don't know her, don't feel threatened by her....she is plain, not more intelligent etc.)but I so want to humiliate her (and him) I want their colleagues to know what went on. I don't want to slap her any more - just to humiliate her with words. It doesn't feel like a negative emotion (though I realise it probably is) - it feels like purpose/a goal.

Good luck MD. Thinking of you xx

doh - incompetent

I agree with you LL, we are all unique and do deal with things differently. But, do you not feel that by holding a grudge (for want of a better expression) prevents you from moving on? I can understand that you would want to get back at OW in some way, her thoughtless actions have hurt you deeply but to make humiliating her your goal means you have to keep her in mind, give her headspace of which she really is not worthy and which could also prevent you from moving forward.

But, I understand it is a very personal thing and we all handle things differently and in our own way

I don't know if it's a grudge. It really feels like a mission tbh. I don't know if I will accomplish it or not. No, I don't feel it's holding me back. I really don't. It's the lies and secrecy that have held me back (his affair). It feels like exposing this will set me free. I could be way off the mark.........I'm just saying how I feel now. I'm only 3 months in to this mess......can't possibly be objective. Let me revel in the madness

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Wow Dior! Stunning stuff. The beaded necklace is similar to one that h bought me for xmas. I love the blue earrings (turquoise?) as well. You clever lady Am so in awe of artistic people [wmile]

Your planned week sounds great, though I guess your lunch on Friday is going to depend on your weigh-in at WW the day before. Aren't you tempted to lunch on a different day

LL I understand, I know it's all pretty raw and still fresh for you. TBH you sound remarkably level headed to say its still such early days. Maybe, just maybe it's the thought of achieving your 'goal' that is giving you direction, getting you through all this by creating something to channel your energies into. Maybe thats whats helping you to hold it all together. Feel free to ignore me, when you get to 'know' me better you will realise that i tend to analyse everything

Dior, I really hope this is a turning point for you. I am sure it can only help, you seem to have got it all worked out anyway.

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Dior what's happening? You sounded so positive this morning. You have so much to look forward to now, exciting times are ahead!! Don't forget, one positve thought for every negative. Wipe that negative out of your head right now! xx

wtf is a wmile?? Too many glasses of wine

TFM - lol. I do the same thing. Analyse everything. It's the job I reckon

Dior - do you meet up with your friends much? I have found mine so valuable during this time. I am not dependent on h to enjoy myself. I find that knowing that makes me feel a lot stronger. I try to go out at least once a month. I'm now busy planning my leaving do

When's the next meet up by the way?

What is it you do LL? Am I aloud to ask on here? Or will divulging that info 'out' you? You are not a private detective are you?

aloud!!!!! I mean allowed of course! And I'm not drinking! Thats because i've been listening to girls aloud today LOL

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westlife and girls aloud

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