Glam & Fab Part 5 - Summer Loving

[macdoodle]

Gosh time for a new thread already
I'm up for a half term meet - tis the week of the bank hol here 26 May - I will be with sis in Hitchin prob from Sun 25 May most of that week so up for London or roundabout meetup

I've seen it Lily and I was very tempted to post with my opinion BUT, to me it seems very researchy IYSWIM. I just had this feeling that it was a journo or a freelancer strring things up to get info for an article. Anyway, I think it's a disgusting thread especially when you consider how many of the ladies on MN have been affected by affairs. I refuse to give it a bump!

As for budding romance no thanks! I don't want another bloke, I'm ging to get a flat and a cat and thats that! And I will buy lavender perfume to cover the smell of the cat wee that Baffy says I will smell of

On the other hand, I suppose I could get a flash apartment and a little dog, you know, one of those you can fit in a handbag. Bit more my style I think

flat and cat ? or appartment and dog , toughy

i thought that about research but looked up op and she is regular poster , unless she journalist too!

Or maybe a fiction writer, maybe she is writing a novel. I've got loads of ideas for my novel(s) from on here I love the idea of writing a novel based on the Teabags, loadsa juicy stuff there

just get a campervan and come join my convoy!

btw, congrats to ernest.

feeling a bit low today, no plans for the w/end which is not a good idea as will end up mooching around doing feck all and gettign grumpy!

Think it's that Friday 13th feeling PC !

god, hadn't even realised!

Make plans then PC, get yer thinking cap on and think of something nice to do that you can invite H along to A nature walk? A fathers day tea? DD could bake buns!!

Oooh I would love a campervan, out on the open road, no stress, just nature, aahhh bliss

yeah i know i should organise something but i am really really tired at the moment and have no energy or inclination

nah, am leaving h to his own devices this weekend. i've sent 2 cards and 2 gifts for FD and I only got 1 card 2 days late.

i know he's feeling a bit low too. told him to pack his van up and go away for the weekend.

i'll think of something......

I was thinking about you the other night (as I do and I was thinking..... (of course i know it's none of my business but I do worry you know) if your job would allow you to work just four days a week? For the reduction you would get in salary your tax credits would increase so it shouldn't affect you financially, you could still put dd into childcare and you could have a whole day just to yourself!!!!! I was thinking the same for Baffy too. I know how hard it is working full time and being a mum, I had three to deal with, now I look back I don't know how I did it!! You need a breather everynow and then.

Hope you don't mind me poking my nose in xx

Ah herm! Could i just very nicely point out that as we are trying to reduce negativity and increase positivity you did at least get a mother's day card and it is 'better late than never'

i am being positive! i sent him something didn't i

Hey TFM
I want to write a book about us too, I keep a journal of my emotions so i can look back and see how i felt then - it is a bit scary sometimes and i am not always sure it is a good thing to do as it brings back a lot of the old resentment iyswim.

I have decided to not even look at the affair thread as i think i will just explode with rage if i do. I have enough experience of my own and friends to have sussed out what really goes on - however all parties justify it to themselves.

Baffy just clarify when you said 'dare you' was that to have a go at ow or to have revenge shag. Just wondering - happy to do both . As long as TFM wont put it all in her blockbuster book. Shall we think of ways to spend your £millions?

I know exactly what you mean with regards to the journal HW. I keep one too but tend to write in it more when things are not so good, reading it back makes me feel quite ill, especially when things are good. It's like reading about another person's life. The worse thing is every word of it is true, it's exactly what happened and it's exactly how I felt. It doesn't really make such a good read.

I already know how I'm going to spend my millions, a flat and a cat and a holiday home somewhere down south, near the sea, where I can relax and do more writing. We will have Teabag parties down there too Thats if i can persuade one of the kids to look after the cat

And of course I will be writing about the sperm donor, the revenge shag and the scorned housewife who blossomed and lived happily ever after It will make good reading! We need to start plotting what will happen to OW, we can make anything happen in a book. As long as she doesn't recognise herself and sue me!

PC yes dear I know you were being positive

Oh yes, the book sounds fabulous Now, let me think about what could happen to the ow

HW I meant the revenge shag!!

And the baby too!

Just this week I made the massive mistake of reading a letter I wrote to H right back at the start. Less than a month after he first left.
I tell you what, remembering that pain and those emotions was almost as hard as going through it the first time. I won't be making that mistake again!

I hope this 'bury my head' mentality doesn't come back to bite me on the bum one day. But I feel like I've done over 12 months of agonising, analysing, understanding why it all happened etc. I've done the counselling. I've come to terms with it all. I have outstanding issues with OW that I know I'll never resolve but I've accepted that now.
Now I've done all that I just want to look forwards and genuinely, forget the lot. Build a new life and start again the way it should be.
Is that the wrong way to be doing this??

As for the book - please can I have H back, with a brain transplant, and a lottery win. Thank you

The ow.............can she meet the man of her dreams only to be cheated on, then find out he's given her an STD (nothing serious, just embarrassing)and spend many many miserable days dwelling on how she had caused her own downfull.

the ow should meet the man of her dreams only to find that he's her half brother which drives her temporarily insane so she is comitted to a lunatic asylum. she gradually comes to terms with what she's done and regains her full mental faculty.

only the hospital think she's still bonkers and won't let her out so she rots away incarcerated in a lunatic asylum for the rest of her days.

how about that?

btw tfm, i used to work 4 days per week but went back full time in january. don't think work would be too keen on me switching back again now. especially as i'm pushing for that promotion. nice thought tho

Right I'm giving this up as a bad job and going home. I have literally had the day from hell

I probably won't be on much at the weekend as I intend to pack the car up tonight and I will be outta here tomorrow for the rest of the weekend. I need to get away!!!
(p.s. H will be invited to join us Sunday so don't worry I won't forget his father's day!)

Have a lovely weekend everyone

have a great weekend baffy.

i got my eye on one of these www.gumtree.com/london/12/23639212.html

not quite a sexy as Little Red but it'd do us nicely. especially with a porta-potti!

i'll be heading off every weekend as soon as i get one!

oh well 10mins with my tired LO after a 10 hour day was not what I was looking forward too - still at least she drained my exploding boob
And at least H did his bit picked her up bathed and fed her don't think he even did that when we were together!...He is being extra good (didn't even moan when I was late) ...he knows something is up!!
But boy do you guys make me chuckle (it is soooooo good to have the old TFM back )....have been popping on and off all day but not had time to post (my first long day back today)....And why can't the OW get a serious STD something like syphilis that drives her crazy {evil grin}

oh well I couldn't possibly wish a deadly disease on anyone however poor their moral code............could I? Ahem, no I could not - the NMC made me sign up to beneficence and all that jazz. However, am loving Paddlechick's asylum twist. I could be a convincing Nurse Ratchett where ow is concerned I reckon (you do know I'm a Psychiatric Nurse in RL don't you)

looks good PC

Oh I am loving 'our' book, maybe we should all write a chapter?

As for OW, I think she should meet a tall, dark, handsome man, fall deeply and breathtakingly in love, experience pure joy and ultimate happiness, only to find out that he is having an affair with her sister/mother/best friend. Her heart will be broken beyond belief and she will experience all of the pain that she caused to the women she helped betray. Then we can shove her in an asylum and we can all be nurse's weilding huge syringe's!! And one of us can be a tatooist and have a naughty word tatooed on her forehead for when she has a day out in the minibus with the other 'patients'.

Am loving the campervan PC. I want one. Have already told P that when dd up's and off's I'm off on my travels with a campervan and a sat nav. It was lovely watching his face turn a nice shade of puce and his eyebrows raise in panic Wait til he finds out I mean it!!

Thank you MacD, it's nice to be back to my old self too. I feel reborn! Actually, this may sound perverse but it's worth feeling so ill to feel so good IYSWIM I hope your first full day back at work went well. I hope too that you are geared up for the 17th. NO RETREAT NO SURRENDER as they say in the SAS!

Baffy, i think you are taking that job of yours far too seriously these days, it is seriously coming between you and the Teabags!

Have a lovely weekend everyone xxx

Crap!
Went to local village fete only to see OW and baby wandering around !!
Well her mum lives in village but really she had no reason to go to fete - it is crappy little fete with loads tat and not much else - but local school (which my DD1 goes to) has loads of input - choir dancers etc so DD1 wanted to go and see all her friends - I wouldn't have gone if not for DD1 so why did she go ...only reason I can see was to rub my face in it
Was so shaken and this is just going to get worse as children get older - if she ever decided to move back in with her mum and send her D to same school as my girls I think I would have to move away
Can she truly be so self centred and heartless as to not see what this has done to me and truly not care and want to rub my face in it - I don't think I have ever met anyone like her my friends have morals and empathy I know I can't tell her where to go or to expect her to not go out but she really didn't need to go here and must have known I would be there
I don't know if I can do this - luckily loads of school mums there all friendly and one offered to watch DD1 and walk her home and I have come home with baby - was trying to put brave face on but was shaking and trying not to cry (thank goodness for sunglasses)....H rang to see of we were ok told hom no I wasn't and di he know she was going - all he could say was don't start again