Glam & Fab Part 5 - Summer Loving

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Gosh time for a new thread already
I'm up for a half term meet - tis the week of the bank hol here 26 May - I will be with sis in Hitchin prob from Sun 25 May most of that week so up for London or roundabout meetup

Thanks PC, thats a good idea! I rang the place yesterday and told them what had happened, the telephone number is at the side of the transaction on my statement. The guy I spoke to was a bit flummoxed, all the bosses were out so he was going to tell them what had happened but he didn't take my name or anything. I am going to give them a ring now!

I'm sorry you didn't get the reasction you wanted out of H BUT, I bet he went away and thought about it, I bet he would want to join you too if you did do it. You know, if I had my time over again and I was in your position, I would do it, I would live for the moment and create some fantastic memories, sod the rest!

Off to get those tickets voided now! xx

Well i just tried ringing the number, it rings once then cuts off and I get the long dead tone. You don't think the actual place itself is dodgy do you? Its called Sportsvision Events. I'm going to keep trying anyway. I will get those tickets voided if at all I can!

I've googled the place and found it, it's not dodgy. I've sent them an email PC, if they send me some festival tickets by way of compensation they are yours!

did you find out what the festival was?

No i didn't, the guy yesterday mentioned aboout three names but they all went over my head, all I know is that he never mentioned Westlife

Right I have loads of meetings today so don't talk too much without me! Ok?!

PC we could get a camper, go to a festival, and then carry on from there!! Bet we'd never look back!

baffy, seriously seriously thinking about it.

i've done it before only a different form of transport and without a toddler!

PC DD will love it! And i firmly believe it will be a fantastic bonding experience kids can be very good company you know, my dd is. Think of the memories, think of all you will be instilling in her, gosh, i wish it were me. If you can afford it DO IT! You won't regret it, I know you won't. Stop being so 'responsible'

Right, lets talk loads while baffy's away

Wow you ladies have been busy!

HW - totally understand where you're at. Having daily fantasties of marching into his workplace to humiliate OW who sits two places away from him. It's getting worse. Had hoped one of them would've left by now. I feel I need that closure with her.

Baffy - an ultimatum could be as simple as walking away and telling him not to bother contacting you until he's come to his senses. There's a difference between being prepared to work things out and being jerked around. I fear the latter is happening When h and I went to counselling the counsellor asked me what would be a deal breaker. I said any further infidelity and deception. Simple as that. He betrays me again and he is out of my life like a shot. That said, I still think about what he has done and am still astounded that I can even begin to think about staying with him. This thought haunts me daily 4 months on and I still can't tell him I love him. Emotionally I feel quite paralysed. He is the opposite.

yeh but dd won't remember any of it as she's too small.

also, i actually can't afford to do it!

also I am a bit worried how my parents would react. altho if i kept the property etc they prob wouldn't be too bad.

i've progressed onto fantasizing about selling up and using the equity now tho LOL!

i am pretty worried about what i'd do for work when i got back tho. a career break is a formal resignation with the option of returning if there is a role available.

still mulling it all over tbh........

Baffy - must be nice to know you are desired, even if it is by a married friend and an old codger Men are idiots aren't they. If only they could engage their brains as easily as they can their cocks!

PC you are such a worry wort!!

You are a grown up, what your parents think is irrelevent. Yes, they may have an opinion, they are your mum and dad, they are bound to BUT it is your life. Crikey PC, I am 44 years old in November and I shudder at the munber of years I have wasted being someone that other people wanted me to be, not stepping outside my comfort zone because other people thought it would be a bad thing to do. Thankfully I bring my own children up to follow their own hearts not someone else's. Half the time when someone is telling you not to do something they are thinking of themselves anyway, not of you. So, thats the parents sorted.

As for DD, whether she can remember it or not, she will love it, she will have lots of photo's and will have a fab time with a happy mummy. In 2 and a half years time she will be starting school and you will be stuffed!!

Your job, it's only a job. You will find another job, it may not be the same job but so what as long as it brings some money in? Something will turn up or happen. You might even find a job on your travels and want to settle elsewhere. Who knows what the future holds, thats whats so exciting about it. It's marriage and mortgages that spoil it!

Now for money, will have to think further on that one Of course H could always go with you and he could get casual work as you travel. That would do him good too, tach him a bit of responsibility You would be a SACVM (stay at campervan mum!)

LL men are idiots but we are idiots too for thinking they are clever and wise in the first place. We give them too much power from day one and they can't handle it

TFM............that's obviously where I've been going wrong!

By the way, PC i think travelling sounds like a wonderful idea. We were going to do it, but chose to buy a house instead. With everything that's happened, I rather wish we had gone travelling

It certainly is where you have been going wrong LL. I tell you, my life has changed dramatically and for the better since I drew that conclusion.

Infact PC, I may come travelling with you, we could give sermons on what dickheads men are relationships all over the country, we could charge a fiver at the door and a quid for a bun and a coffee, bet we would be loaded by the time we came home

shhhhhhhhh!!!

will catch up at lunch

I thought you were in meetings! We will have started a new thread by the time you come out! x

TFM - yes i think you are right - I do need clousure with her - not just for the affair but as another person who has betrayed me. Unlike baffys ow mine would not tell me the truth - she once said she would let me know if he came back to her - even had the cheek to say she respected me for that. I said thanks and that i would not cause trouble for her then which is why i think i do need to do something to show her i do deserve respect. Just not sure what the best option is - have thought about just warning her that if she makes any sort of trouble that i WILL make those emails public. Stupid firm still have them on the system - it is difficult to erase things i know but surely they would have had some sense?

Also think you might be right about the new job - he will say 'what more could i have done?' and expect us to be moving on together. I know i dont have to trust him and i know i never will anyone again to the same extent - and sad as it is ladies it is the women i will not trust again and that is partly ow fault. I know you are not all out to have your own selfish way but who do you trust now - unless you know it is someone who has been through the whole awful mess - a lot of people still think 'these things happen'
I do trust h more though but there is still a tiny bit of doubt.

He is good though and i do think he realises that this is going to take a very long time. But this is a step in the right direction.

Ok see how long baffy stays off now then?

Thanks again
Out with kiddies this pm - one of those dreadful wherehouse play areas. Will take my book to read.

Do you know what I would do HW? I would print off all of those emails and I would send them to her with a front cover with 'THE END' written on it. Then I would make every effort to put her out of my mind and concentrate on the 'new' relationship with my H. Thats what i would do. I think she would get the message from that

I can understand what you mean when you say its the women you don't trust. My P says the same about men, thats why he goes into a panic when I/if I go out, why he was so insecure when I worked. He was cheated on a couple of times and although he says he trusts me (as he blooming well should) he says he doesn't trust other men. So, I can see where you are coming from there.

It is going to be a long journey HW, with lots of ups and downs along the way but, we are here for you, the Teabags will always be here for you xxx

I will be thinking of you this PM, my worst nigthmare those places, sooooo loud! Will you be able to read? I can't even hear myself think in those joints!

TFM your suggestion for HW is a good one. Why oh why though do I dream of h having a leaving drink, me turning up and making a not so loving announcement with OW there. Then I would flounce out leaving them all to it. Must be cos I am evil

not evil LL, just a woman scorned. Just take comfort in what goes round comes round, and all that jazz. I am a firm believer in all that, thats why I'm a good girl

and I am not a believer, which is why I'm not a good girl