Disappointed second date I’m appalled

[Briannaivy]

So I went on a second date with a man that I’ve been talking to for a month now. Our schedules have been so busy that I didn’t have time to see him. Anyways I met him out when I was with my girls a month ago, he asked for my number and we started talking. He’s 10 years older than me, I’m 24.

So we finished with the second date which was the movies, I suggested it. We head to his car and we sat and talked. He kept bringing up how we could have watched a movie at his place? I explained to him that I don’t do house visits with men until I’m comfortable and know where things are going.

I jokingly asked him why he wanted to me to go to his house so bad? Also why he kept asking me to go ? Then I said “you just want to bang that’s why you keep asking”? He replied and said “yeah I want to fudge the sh!t out of you, that’s not all I want but yes I want that”……. Y’all I was to stunned to speak, I’ve never had a man be so bold and just disrespectful….. Then he said “I want you to orgasm as many times as you like” …..

I felt so in shocked, he said I’m just being honest are you used to men lying to you etc… I told him that was very disrespectful and not cool to say to someone on a second date. At least not in that term. Then he brought up how we should do dates that don’t coast money ? Huh…. Sir you’ve only taken me on two dates, what do you mean ? At that point I started mentally checking out and just called it a night. Then he tried to apologize and told me he hope he could see me again?

Y’all why is my picker offf what the hell is going on …

Fudge 😂😂😂

Are "your girls" your daughters or your friends?

He sounds vile. That's a good reminder to meet them sooner rather than get strung along by dickheads! Be glad you're free of him. And you're very young at 24 so be wary x

I think if you start speaking about “banging” then you’re leaving yourself open to him responding in kind with similarly crude language- he took a cue from you.

You’re an adult, you don’t need permission to stop seeing someone. Doesn’t sound like you want the same things, which is fine.

Incidentally, did he pay for both dates?

But you said it first? You want to go and bang? And he said well yeah, that's not all I'm about but I do want to. Did you want him to lie?

Ew, a sleazy fucker that doesn't want to spend any money on dates. I bet he thinks he's a real catch too 🙄.
Fucking bellend.

Cheap, letchy and a complete yobbo. What a prince!

You were silly to get into a relative stranger's car. Now you can correct it by blocking him, deleting his number and moving on.

Y'all

Yes he paid for both

You started the conversation OP? You brought up sex and banging and took the conversation there. How can you be appalled that he carried it on?

Have you not dated before ?

Men date because they want sex. They pretty much expect it.

Ewww. Instant ick

dear god, there is a lot for her to be appalled by.

Also were you going to continue to expect him to pay ?

I would have thought he was responding to your ‘banging’ comment. I don’t know why you were so shocked at his response when you started it!

This is absurd.

Go for someone your own age, he sounds like a sleazy perv.

I think you started it. Did you fancy him? If not then move on.

Well there you are. By my reading of the Andrew Tate Alpha Men’s Easy Ready Reckoner Of Sexual Parity that means you owe him a blow job. 😯

He's 10 years older, if he was a gentleman he wouldn't have said what he said even if op brought it up, he could have easily said " I wouldn't say it like that but I do find you very attractive. "
He was crass and pushy.
Op not everyone has the same standards ( as you can see on the thread ) but you sound like you know what you want and he definitely wasn't it.

At 34, if he's dating 24-year-olds, he should be paying for it and not complaining.

No he shouldn’t. You don’t go around expecting other people to bankroll you.

Split the bill or do something free.

But she took the conversation there. Who even uses “bang” in an ordinary conversation unless they are making the conversation sexual.

I agree. She took it down a sexual route and he replied in kind.

Cause he kept asking me to go to his house ?? So he could cook for me he’s brought me going over his house several times. So I finally took initiative and asked him if that’s why he wanted me to go over…. Cause why keep asking me when I’ve already declined

Did he say fudge? 😂

Sounds like he thought you were trying to take the conversation in that direction and so joined in, not realising that you were actually genuinely annoyed at him asking you round. Oh dear.

you sort of started it though. No he shouldn’t have responded in quite that way but you gave him a loaded question