Disappointed second date I’m appalled

[Briannaivy]

So I went on a second date with a man that I’ve been talking to for a month now. Our schedules have been so busy that I didn’t have time to see him. Anyways I met him out when I was with my girls a month ago, he asked for my number and we started talking. He’s 10 years older than me, I’m 24.

So we finished with the second date which was the movies, I suggested it. We head to his car and we sat and talked. He kept bringing up how we could have watched a movie at his place? I explained to him that I don’t do house visits with men until I’m comfortable and know where things are going.

I jokingly asked him why he wanted to me to go to his house so bad? Also why he kept asking me to go ? Then I said “you just want to bang that’s why you keep asking”? He replied and said “yeah I want to fudge the sh!t out of you, that’s not all I want but yes I want that”……. Y’all I was to stunned to speak, I’ve never had a man be so bold and just disrespectful….. Then he said “I want you to orgasm as many times as you like” …..

I felt so in shocked, he said I’m just being honest are you used to men lying to you etc… I told him that was very disrespectful and not cool to say to someone on a second date. At least not in that term. Then he brought up how we should do dates that don’t coast money ? Huh…. Sir you’ve only taken me on two dates, what do you mean ? At that point I started mentally checking out and just called it a night. Then he tried to apologize and told me he hope he could see me again?

Y’all why is my picker offf what the hell is going on …

He sounds disgusting and like he doesn't see women as full humans, but as vending machines for sex.

Plenty of people have sex on a first date (look up threads on one night stands if you're curious). Fine if you want to, fine if you don't. But how do you think it ends up happening? Do they just randomly find themselves "banging" as you put it, or does someone initiate it with words?

So it's hardly wild that someone talks about wanting to fuck you (not "fudge" you - very different things and I think you should at least be honest about what he said in OP) - on a second date, after you've accepted an invite to sit in his car and chat, and - most importantly - after you've raised it yourself.

Don't like it? Fine - don't see him again. He may well not be your type and he's not after what you're after. Looks like he misread you and he's certainly not the smoothest. But "in shock", "appalled"? Come on - you're being naïve at best.

Well, what did you think he wanted?
He should have accepted you saying you didn’t want him to come over to watch a movie. But at the same time, it should have been pretty obvious to you why he wanted to!!