Disappointed second date I’m appalled

[Briannaivy]

So I went on a second date with a man that I’ve been talking to for a month now. Our schedules have been so busy that I didn’t have time to see him. Anyways I met him out when I was with my girls a month ago, he asked for my number and we started talking. He’s 10 years older than me, I’m 24.

So we finished with the second date which was the movies, I suggested it. We head to his car and we sat and talked. He kept bringing up how we could have watched a movie at his place? I explained to him that I don’t do house visits with men until I’m comfortable and know where things are going.

I jokingly asked him why he wanted to me to go to his house so bad? Also why he kept asking me to go ? Then I said “you just want to bang that’s why you keep asking”? He replied and said “yeah I want to fudge the sh!t out of you, that’s not all I want but yes I want that”……. Y’all I was to stunned to speak, I’ve never had a man be so bold and just disrespectful….. Then he said “I want you to orgasm as many times as you like” …..

I felt so in shocked, he said I’m just being honest are you used to men lying to you etc… I told him that was very disrespectful and not cool to say to someone on a second date. At least not in that term. Then he brought up how we should do dates that don’t coast money ? Huh…. Sir you’ve only taken me on two dates, what do you mean ? At that point I started mentally checking out and just called it a night. Then he tried to apologize and told me he hope he could see me again?

Y’all why is my picker offf what the hell is going on …

I think you started that particular conversation. He was brutally honest but he was honest so 🤷

You were blunt with your question and he was with his response. Yes, his words were not well phrased, you could have just told him not to be so crude. Though you seem to have some unrealistic 'courting' demands, whatever that actually entails.

Ugh. This is also disrespectful to men. Not all of them are sex obsessed vulgar apes who treat women as meat

The PPs on this thread are revolting

Oh come on people - this is about as genuine as a £9 note.

Another MN thread that never happened

I completely agree.

I’m wondering if OP is younger than what she said she is.

I would take relationships very slowly OP and speak to your friends about potential dates or even ask on here.

If we can sense the vulnerability just from a couple of anonymous posts, then a man, especially one 10 years older, definitely will.

I think you might have bumped into the UK-American language barrier here

Or should that be... banged into the barrier?

You're young, shop around and find out what you like, don't go for men 10 years older than you - never a good sign if they're dating much younger women.

No I’m 24 born In 2000

how am I coming off as naive?

That comment clearly went right over your head.

Well... You did ask 😂
The money thing is annoying though.
I think the hinting to go back to his house constantly is worse than than telling the truth about why he wants to go there.

I don’t think you can say “bang” and then be upset that he didn’t respond with “make love” tbh.

His responses were gross but you set the tone by mentioning banging

It sounds as though the OP is American. Different dating style.

I thought I would give him a chance cause he seemed like a gentleman. He’s an educator, has a masters, is a homeowner, no kids etc. not my usual type but I said let me try something different and maybe I’ll get different results

What is your normal type?

The men you usually go for haven’t worked out and neither has this guy who isn’t your type.
So I’m wondering what guys you typically go for?

oh fgs why are you sounding like queen victoria

why are you so PEARL clutching

Just say - I am not ready for sex yet

Y'all?? are you in Louisiana or thereabouts??

@Briannaivy sorry you had a horrible experience

you're not seeing him again so call it a lucky escape and move on.

What do you mean by your picker is off?

If she's in the US I believe a picker is a buyer of antiques?, or maybe just a buyer??

I think Op knows exactly what she is doing - she just wasn’t expecting the man to be so open that yes he just wanted to fuck her.

Pretty sure by the mention of her being “very beautiful” and “courting” and asking if the expensive handbags the guy mentioned were “for women he was in a relationship with or sleeping with” she expects men to take her out and pay for things for her to “prove” their worth to her.

If any of it is indeed true at all.

It was clear what he was so was so why get in his car and open a conversation about banging? You need to be more safety conscious. If a date isn't going the way you want it to, make your excuses and head home under your own steam. Don't get into someone's car and entertain a conversation about sex if that's clearly what he's after.

You are naive because this is what a lot of men think but don’t verbalise.

In future, don’t sit in a car with a man you barely know. Don’t use language like ‘banging’. If they are pushing to get you to go their house early on then give them a swerve.

Also, don’t use ‘y’all’ on a British forum because it confuses the shit out of us.

Run!

Pay for yourself on a date!!

You both sound very silly.

Very beautiful, yet your username puts me in mind of a cabbage patch doll 🤔

im so bored I googled your username to see if you were in fact named after such doll. Are you the first result on Instagram ? Is that why you’re here?