@Jessa85 Another one who's read through both threads and is totally rooting for you, OP.
Can we just take a minute to think about the fact that you can originally posted because you were fed up of being expected to cook your wanker of a husband the same three meals on repeat, then you realised you've been financially abused for years, and finally you uncovered an affair and are making plans to divorce him and take your share of the money, and he's not even aware of it yet?
Meanwhile there is this other woman who doesn't know what's in store for her yet. (By the way, I bet his eating habits are more adventurous when he's with her, otherwise he would be too boring to have an affair with.)
But mark my words, when you've dumped him and he's a free man, she'll soon realise that when you play stupid games you win stupid prizes.
The prize being a lazy, misogynistic shit who will expect her to cook him spag bol or curry every night and do most of the housework regardless of the fact that she also has a good job. He'll probably also continue to describe himself as the breadwinner, unless of course she out earns him in which case he'll probably want to split their bills proportionate to income, and have her contribute to the maintenance that he will have to pay for your kids.