Husbands food preferences driving me crazy - NEW THREAD

[Jessa85]

NEW THREAD for those following my thread from yesterday!

I will post the update of my conversation with my husband in a second.Original thread

I’ve been following both your posts in absolute awe of you, so firstly I just want to say I think you’re absolutely amazing. Secondly be careful transferring any amount of money you can’t afford to lose into the Monzo account. They are notorious for closing accounts and the money “disappearing” there are many groups on FB about it. Search Monzo stole my money on there. I wish you and your girls all the luck for your happy futures xx

ETA I do have an account with them myself I’ve held for years but I only transfer small amounts of money at a time for nights out and shopping trips.

Stop being such a superior bitch.

@XXylophonic The latter. I didn't want to risk having kids with him.

Did you miss all the posts about the mistress, plans to shack up with her in UAE, and the fact that he hasn’t called his DDs but has been texting and video-calling the OW?

Not what I’d call petty either.

Whereas op (and the rest of us mothers that work full time in demanding jobs, with young children) should do the house work??
Get away ta'fuck!

First of all - you are incredible and are giving your girls such an important life lesson on how to see your value and how not to accept being treated.

Second of all - Monzo has a bad reputation for freezing accounts and taking months to sort out. There’s a Facebook group Monzo Stole Our Money, and I just wanted to make you aware of it. I had an account with no issues but couldn’t risk it when I found out. Sorry to add anything else to your plate but I couldn’t forgive myself if you transferred your savings across and then it became frozen. Perhaps you could open an online saver with your own bank?

And finally, the strength you have found in the past couple of weeks has been nothing short of amazing. Your focus is clearly your girls, and I admire that so much.

Chase and Tandem are safe, reliable banking apps and quick & easy to open accounts with just passport & Face ID etc. - accounts up & running very quickly. You can always move the money on again later but it’s a safe resting place in the interim xx

I thought that might have been it. Apologies, I have raging toothache today and my brain's a bit foggy.

As it's now Thursday, and he is due to arrive this morning - I suggest he may now be in the air.
Thus I suggest any banking advice / info may be a tad late.
It will all work out. It has to !

I am so pleased mum is arriving today as you confirmed and not next Thursday.

I and I am sure many others, will be thinking of you today.

and hope this brings a quick smile to your face - I googled what marry me chicken was yesterday !

I've read the same about Monzo. It seems risky transferring large amounts of money. Starling seems to be a safer bet

I'm completely new to this thread but have read it and your previous thread too.

I just want to say good luck to you and your girls and that I think you are awesome. I will be watching for updates

Good luck for tomorrow. Pleased yur mum will be staying with you, That will make you feel ;less vulnerable if he kicks off and she will be a valuable witness to anything he might say or do.
When you have time to breathe , go and get a new haircut and perhaps even a new colour. A new perfume perhaps! And, as it is now Spring. some nice new dresses, shoes, etc. You are starting the next chapter of your life so let your confidence shine!

I would take great pleasure in acting daft and letting him do the talking, let him say whatever words he's got through the letterbox. Don't ask him where he'll go 🤭 you don't care which gutter he ends up in.

Don't be annoyed about the mistress, he's probably stringing her along for the sauce just like he has you, if anything she deserves pity - he won't change.

First and foremost look after yourself and your girls. Just because you're driving this doesn't mean the reality won't hit you like a ton of bricks. It's hard on children when parents split - they will love their dad despite him being a complete tool and if he rejects them in part or fully they will be devastated for a long time. I speak from experience - an absent father who isn't there for them will be viewed by the children as 'they weren't good enough, why doesn't he love us' - it's soul destroying. Their world will be turned upside down no matter how hard you try xx

Have a look at the bridging the gap group on Facebook. Lots of women with useful advice on that group

This has been a wonderful read whilst suffering from insomnia

#teamjessa all the way

Thinking of you today @Jessa85

It’s D-Day!

I remember mine well. Life on this side is great.

@Jessa85 Dont forget to message his parents and any mutual friends immediately before you tell him. Send proof and don’t allow him the chance to change the narrative to suit. The evil worm needs to be a social pariah.

Dearest Jessa85.... Once upon a time, a few weeks ago no less, there was a subservient, drab and unhappy, yet deserving woman. And now... Holy f@%kballs!?!? Where did you come from?!

So proud of your strength, determination, focus and insane ability to still see humour through the darkest shit.

One day, your girls will see this, understand, and model themselves on their fierce mother. You are doing an amazing thing for your futures. Well done, you incredible human. Good luck.

Now go bleed that motherf@%king bastard dry ❤️

Good morning and thank you for all the lovely words of support, I cried some tears last night reading all your messages ❤️ hoping today goes well and I’ll talk to you all soon.

I’m so thankful for all of you, except for pinkflamingo… i am returning her negativity to sender 😌

You've got this!

I’ve been here with you in spirit all the way through both threads and am sending you all my power and strength today. You’re amazing. You’ve got this. Your children are so lucky to have you as their mum. As one divorced mum to a soon-to-be-other - this is the best decision we ever made for our families. 🥰

@Jessa85 massive good luck for today!! totally ignore that idiot from gransnet! we are not all like that! I dont even look at gransnet, its probably all about jam making anyway!!! I am also a gran who looks after two of them all the time in my house they live with me. you give the twat husband big licks today!

Go Jessa go! Been following both threads and am awestruck by your strength, resourcefulness and determination. I’m sure that today and the fallout will make it all feel very real and very shit, so I just wanted to add my voice to the hundreds on here that are right behind you! Xxx

@tallhotpinkflamingo

If you don’t think that what the OP has gone through which, …. with a reading age above an 8 year old it’s possible to comprehend…. , is severe emotional and financial abuse plus an affair, then just leave the thread.

This is a warm, supportive space cheering on someone who has found her rage.

@Jessa85 is going through a really difficult time with strength and intelligence. Plus she’s working full time and caring for her daughters having uncovered stuff that would upend most people. Snarky comments are not wanted or needed. Jog on to another thread.