Husbands food preferences driving me crazy - NEW THREAD

[Jessa85]

NEW THREAD for those following my thread from yesterday!

I will post the update of my conversation with my husband in a second.Original thread

Oh my goodness! How impressive you are!

Well done on all your preparation and for deciding to drive his car to her house.

I wish you all the very best.

Did I miss the post where she told us she knows where OW lives? Been trying to catch up and can't see it?

Holy moly, just caught up on this thread! What a rollercoaster! I hope you’re ok, OP, and that mum and lovely grandad are being emotionally supportive as well as grandad offering to pay invoices.

I’m gobsmacked at the recent discovery and I’m another person in absolute awe of you. You’ve moved quickly and efficiently. Keep on going, you’ll get through this. He’s been an absolute horror. 😢

Yes, 0847 this morning.

Select all of the OP's posts and go to page 2, or page 12 of the thread. This has all only been found out today.

And i thought it was just about a picky husband.

I would remove the house key from his bunch, OP. Not your fault if he lost his key, innit?

Take your half of the funds you have access to now..my ex start spending all our savings when we separated....

I was going to mention this, you need to make sure you have thought of the worst possible things he can do once he gets the news. If he realises that you have it all figured out and you don't actually care anymore he will be furious, once his leverage is gone he will try and use whatever he can to regain control.

If it is a case of joint savings/joint bank account I would be inclined to (if you can) take just your half out whatever day you plan for his demise so he can't try to fuck you over that way.

Agree
OP I think you win the MN award for

I don't think that you should put the keys through her letter box. He can deny knowing her or deny receiving them. He could claim that you abandoned the car and lost the keys. You don't know her. Someone else could have access to the keys and steel his cars and all his stuff. Remain above this level.

Make sure he can't take out a second mortgage on the home for a second home. My friends ex did this. Maxed out the family home and their buy to let.

As much as I love the idea of dropping off the car, it runs the risk of him accusing you that you left it there to get stolen.

But you could have it packed up with his belongings ready for when he does return home and tell him to leave then.

Give him zero ammunition to imply you are a crazy ex. Cool classy indifference will hurt him far far more.

Fwiw, I think he's stringing her along. He knows it's unrealistic to uproot you all for a short contract. That'd where she comes in.

Is this a really weird thing to say…? But when I read this and think of your future i feel massive happiness and positivity. You are going to have the time of your life without this guy…

Wow OP I’ve just read both these threads and I’m amazed at how this has all panned out for you. Wishing you and your girls all the best.

@Jessa85
Unless you have Linked In Premium, people can see who's looked at their profile - you seem so much in control of this, that you are probably well ahead of me, just a warning not to be taken by surprise if she knows you've looked.
Wishing you and your girls well, 😊

Did you mean can't?

You can tell if people have LinkedIn Premium because there is a gold coloured banner on their picture.

Hang on, that car is half yours. Do you have your own? Is it worth as much as the other one?

You are absolutely amazing OP, I am in awe of you!, so strong and focused in getting the best outcome for your girls. He's not gonna know what's hit him is he? Would love to be a fly on the wall when he realises he's been rumbled and it's not all going to go his own way. I wonder how his bit on the side is gonna like being stuck with him 24/7, bet it will be a very different story a year from now!🤣

Wining and dining on chicken nuggets!!

I have just read all of this. @OP: you’re bloody amazing, incredibly levelheaded, enormously strong & a credit to women everywhere.

i’ve no doubt it’s hard as fuck on an emotional level, but I’m in awe of you. The example you’re setting to your girls too is invaluable!

well done & good riddance to bad rubbish. Fuck around, find out indeed!!

@MyrtleLion
No, I meant if you have Premium, you can block people you look at from seeing you've done it - (incognito mode) -if you have a free account, the person can see you've looked.

please will people realise that a divorce achieves almost nothing without a proper and fair financial settlement.
In fact if you divorce and he dies before you get your share of his pension you will actually lose out- as a wife you might also get death in service benefits.

Some men don't cope with not being the centre of attention any more once children come along. Is that when he/your relationship changed?

Goodness me, what an update!
Very best wishes to you and your girls @Jessa85 whatever you decide to do

I don't think I would drop the car off at her house. I don't know what happens if he says it has been stolen.
I think, since you know his flight number, you should go to the airport and wait for him at arrivals.

I’m so happy you are leaving that awful man