Husbands food preferences driving me crazy!

[Jessa85]

Sorry this got long! I'm struggling with my husband and the family meals I make.

He is incredibly fussy or particular... I don't know the best way to describe it so I'll list out what he won't eat -

• no creamy dishes - things like 'marry me' chicken or honey mustard chicken are a no no.
• no sour cream or mayonnaise - would simply refuse something like beef stroganoff
• no chunky vegetable dishes, no salads
• refuses to eat meals with pie or pastries
• won't eat fish
• no stews or soups - hates stews and soups are 'not a meal' apparently
• jacket potatoes will only eat with beans and must have meat on the side
• hates egg dishes so meals like quiche or omelette are out of the question

None of these preferences are allergy related.

We eat the same meals on repeat every week - some pasta variation, some curry variation, some meat and veg variation and I'm at my wits end, It's been 10 years and I'm bored of the same food. I'm craving something different but every time he will say - does it have XYZ in it? why is the veg all chunky? you know I don't like this sort of thing and so on. If he had it his way, we would BBQ meat every night and eat it with the same veg and some form of side dish.

I am a mum and work full-time, I am responsible for most of the housework and all the cooking. I really do not want to be cooking two separate meals everyday, I don't have the time or the energy for that.

I thought about asking him to cook his own meal but then I have the issue of our kids seeing us eating two different things and say well if daddy can have something different why can't I! Which will stress me out even more, I want them to eat a variety of food and not become so regimented like their father.

I really don't know what to do, I've spoken to him about it many times and he said 'I like what I like'... my reply was 'well what about what I like?' he told me I can always cook myself something different. Any advice appreciated, thank you.

UPDATE FROM OP ADDED BY MNHQ: Thank you for all the replies and for all the advice on food. The situation has escalated and I'll add updates on my relationship when possible for those interested in following along with me

Did you just read the title??! Have you read ANY of OP's updates? Your rudeness, ignorance and hatefulness bring shame on your generation. You should be applauding this brave woman from the rooftops not slamming her for reaching out for help. Shame on you granny

It really isn't that hard to read the OP's updates 🙄

You're an embarrassment.

I honestly think you need to toddle off back to where you came from.

This thread has been extremely supportive of a woman going through a very difficult time. Clearly you couldn’t be bothered to actually read what’s been happening.

Embarrassing way to announce to the whole world you don’t understand how internet threads work.

Feeling entitled to scold everyone else for their lack of engagement when your post is a literal demonstration of your own inability to do so - is that a brave old generation thing?

If that’s the case and you truly read the situation I am in and still commented what you did, then you are just a cruel person. You are very narrow minded if you think I do not know of the bigger problems in the world. You should take your own advice and ENGAGE… engage with kindness, engage with empathy, engage in supporting others. People like you are the reason the world has bigger problems.

@CMTwb1941 You are a rude, nasty and ignorant person. Read every post of the OP on this thread, it's no longer about the food, she is a victim of financial abuse, emotional abuse and control. You're a disgrace and should be ashamed of yourself.

So why let yourselves get into these situations. Life is too short to tolerate men who behave badly . It often seems to me that women have learnt nothing and the women’s liberation movement has achieved very little . Attitudes are perpetuated from one generation to another .

No one on these threads who is supporting the OP wants to hear your opinion @CMTwb1941 . All decent people are applauding this brave woman @Jessa85 who has been emotionally and financially abused for years and is now creating a new life for her and her girls. Shame on you granny! Jog off back to Grannynet or wherever. Don’t spoil this place of absolute support and caring with your ill thought out views.

I bet you blame rape victims too. Despicable 'human' being. Shame on you

Why are you still here? Do go away.

Agreed, and now the OP uses the "Karen" slur, which for me is the final straw.

@TreesAtSea
Hopefully MN will delete that particular post (and possibly the whole thread). Mind you it took them 4 full threads to decide the recent poster whose dh was humiliating her about sex was in fact a wind up merchant.

If only so many women weren't wasting their time dealing with incompetent and abusive men, we might be able to do something about the bigger problems.

@Jessa85 your other thread is full now but hope you’re all doing ok. 💐hope he left you alone and you managed to get some rest.

Hope you are ok OP

I'm doing OK, on a bit of a come down I think but I'll be alright. The divorce papers haven't been issued yet, currently 7 working days since application so maybe by Tuesday it will be with him. Solicitor did tell me online applications are around 10 working days to process. He hasn't contacted me at all, not even to arrange to see the girls. Maybe it's better that way for now, it's giving me time to process everything and rest. Thanks for checking in on me, I have read all the lovely messages I've had. Such amazing support from MN ❤️

Sorry I just realised this is the old thread and the other is full.

edit to say I did ask MN to close this thread last week but it hasn't been done... but I did ask.

Yes I think after all the adrenaline there is the cone down. Good job it’s the weekend, do as little as much as you want and focus on yourself and your DD’s. Your whole thread started as his food preferences but look at how it’s developed. I hope a year from now you Al an read it all and see how far you’ve come!

I did wonder about you closing the 2 threads in case he or OW stumble across them and learn all your secrets.. you can always start a new ‘clean’ thread if you wanted to 😊