Is he a psychopath?

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I'm 5 months pregnant and I've been with my partner for 5 years. We got a cat and recently I noticed the cat is really scared of my partner. To the point where he doesn't come in the house when he is here (we don't fully live together). I have camera's in the house for the cat, when I'm not there but they were only on a live connection. I've started recording when motion is detected and I'm mortified at what I've seen.
My partner has been bullying, almost abusing my cat! He tries to coax him out of his bed with food and shakes it around. He poked him under the sofa with a curtain pole, vacuum pole and thrown water at him. Watching the footage, he looks obsessed with tormenting my poor cat, spending 20 minutes to half hour each time.
I feel like I don't know who he is anymore. I want to confront him but I'm scared. If he can do that to a cat, what will he do to our baby? I don't trust him and don't want him around me.

How do I get out of this nightmare please?

End the relationship. Make sure you are either not with him at the time and do it via phone (not something I'd normally advise!) or have someone with you at the time. Don't trust him to react in a normal way. It's fab he doesn't live there, change the locks immediately.
I'm so sorry. I'm not much help but hopefully far more knowledgeable posters will be along soon.

If you have footage of his abusing the cat I think it would be worth taking it to the police. Nothing might come of it - but at the very least it would be logged.

Yes I think he could be

Take the cat somewhere safe temporarily, and leave that utter cunt.

Id record some more footage of him being cruel to the cat and then end the relationship. Wouldn't want someone like that around my child let along parenting them and teaching them right from wrong.

Keep recordings just incase things ever turn nasty and you need proof of his behaviour.

You sound lovely so please look after yourself and if you've got someone you can trust friend or family wise I'd confide in them.

Absolutely all of this. Make sure you are safe when you tell him, however that works best for you. Do not give him a second chance, no matter what he says. Behaviour like that is indicative of a very twisted mind and is completely indefensible.

Report and LTB ASAP

End the relationship via text message and take the footage of him being cruel
to your cat to the Police. Hopefully they will go on to prosecute him.

Put any and all items of his into bin bags and ask a friend or family member to hand these over to him upon collection.

Raise his child on your own with your surname and do not name him on the birth certificate.

You should log with the police immediately. This will be used in court should he ever seek contact with your baby.

This is horrific! I absolutely could not continue the relationship after this. A lot of dangerous people begin by hurting animals and it only gets worse from there 😢. Your poor cat x

I would bin the partner faster than lightening and then speak to the police about him causing unnecessary suffering to an animal.

Quite honestly if I caught someone doing this to my animal I would be taking more than a curtain pole to them.

Thank your lucky stars you dont live with this evil bastard for one thing (get your keys back.) End the relationship for another. Keep a very close eye on him near your child for another (if you let him see them at all). This is disturbing behaviour at the very least, who knows what else he is capable of.

Change that locks. Don't take the keys back as he could make copies. Leave him and hope he doesn't apply for custody... I'd leave him off the BC too.

Don’t confront him, take steps to get you and the cat somewhere safe away from him asap. He should never be left alone with your child. So sorry Op. these people are incredibly good at appearing charming and keeping their dark side hidden

Omg yes he is,
What a cruel fucker, your poor cat, please think about your future child with this sick man 😡

You really need to leave this man. Keep a recording of this footage and give it to the police.

Also contact Women’s aid for advice and support.

This man is an abuser. He may not have shown that side to you yet, but someone who tortures animals is very sick in the head.

When police/ domestic abuse charities are assessing the risk levels, they ask if he has ever harmed or hurt a pet.

Are you serious? She should knowingly let her boyfriend abuse and torment an animal just for more footage. How can you expect anyone to be so cruel?

Psychopaths do start by tormenting animals, before going onto hurting people. I have a cat myself, and I couldn't stay with someone who abused him in this way. They'd be gone. Your partner is cruel, and I wouldn't want him in my home or life.

You need to leave this abuser right now. Tell your friends and family, show them the footage and get rid of him ASAP. Protect yourself from him too. Locks changed, speak to police, RSPCA to cover yourself and do not let him near your baby. What a shock! Does the shit know you have cameras?

Fucking hell, get your cat out of there asap.

Please ring round local catteries in the morning, and ask them to take your cat for a few days urgently. Tell them you are escaping from an abusive relationship.

Do future Clare's law requests cover animal abuse?

I'm horrified. You must be very shocked. Have you got lots of support?

You can protect yourself and escape but the cat can't, so please get it out of there as soon as you can. 😟

This person will be able to get half of his time with your child eventually if he wants it.

I'm sorry to say this but I would be reconsidering the pregnancy.

If this was my cat, he wouldn't set foot in my house ever again. Mental cruelty towards animals is illegal under the Animal Welfare Act. Get your locks changed, report him to the RSPCA and dump him. If he can act cruelly towards an animal, he can do the same thing to your child and you. He's a sick bastard.