Curious - if you're married, do you celebrate valentines?

[Geordiebabe85]

Just that really, do married couples celebrate valentines day? When dating my dh always bought a card and a small gift but since we got married, nothing. Its literally a normal day. I used to buy him something small but I've now given up.
Just wondering if it's just us.

We don’t but we never have

Yes

nope... although i bought DH a 'valentines' bun from the local bakers.. which i see he has left int he kitchen so i might just eat it myself before i go to bed 😂

No. Just do the anniversary.

Yes we still do. But not as romantic and intense as pre children!

Before we got married it was kind of an anniversary as neither of us remembered when we got together officially just our valentines. It’s pretty standard flowers and a special dinner. We don’t do cards though.

No. It’s for teenagers. You don’t need Hallmark to tell you when to show love and appreciation to your other half. I would be disappointed if my DH went through the formulaic motions. He can buy me flowers any other day.

Nope, but we didn’t before we got married either. Just not something of interest.

We do. We have learned not to go out though as valentines night can be a rip off. So we swop cards; have something we like for dinner; wine or champagne; chocolate or dessert . Maybe roses . Just a weekend night with a little extra.
Married 35 years it’s nice to have a reason to celebrate in the middle of a Scottish winter.

We give each other a card and usually have what we call a 'romance dinner' (I.e. steak and wine,, after the kids have gone to bed). It's nice.

I got DH a cheap card. He didn't but will probably buy me flowers later.

He also washed up even though it was my turn AND a horrible cast iron with cheese stuck to it.

Ladies considering partners... Pick the second thing over the first thing EVRY TIME.

We do, went out for lunch while the dc were at school/work. We always do something, usually takeaway and a film or out for breakfast or lunch.

We normally exchange cards and a slightly more special meal in. Not doing that this year because we’re taking the girls away for half term so too busy packing.
As others have said, we don’t need retailers to tell us when and how to be romantic.

We don’t , married 35 yrs , but we only did it the first year we were going out and after that didn’t bother for the other 3 valentines before we got married , we aren’t big on birthdays / anniversaries etc either though .

We exchange cards, and tonight we're having a takeaway and a bottle of wine but that's fairly common for a Friday night so not really Valentines specific.

No grand gestures or gifts required. He actually got me a pot plant today and I got him a toblerone, but neither were expected nor would have been missed if we hadn't.

"He also washed up even though it was my turn AND a horrible cast iron with cheese stuck to it."

The winner. She's right.

Nope but DH is on cooking me a nice tea now which he does now and again anyway. I'll take that over flowers any day

Yes, we do. I gave him a handmade bodge of a card this morning and he bought me a card, chocs and flowers from Sainsburys. Tonight we've had a takeaway. It's cold so I ate in my clothes with dressing gown over the top! In the early years of our marriage I would've dressed up and put makeup on. We do similar for our wedding anniversary.

My advice is to tell your DH (nicely!) what you'd like. You can't expect people to mindread.

"Celebrate" is a bit strong. We usually do cards. Early days there were sometimes flowers or a bottle of fizz to share over dinner etc, but now it's just a card. I'm happy with that, I feel that Valentine's day has got a bit too ott and frankly cringe nowadays and it's just not "us". He might get lucky later too, but any excuse ey? 😆

We used to go out for dinner, until we realised <doh> that Valentines' meals are just a marketing rip off.

Now, we just buy each other a card. And I cook a (hopefully) lovely meal, which we enjoy with a bottle of Champagne and another bottle of good wine.

Tonight we had:

• scallops, with black pudding, on a bed of pea purée
• fillet of cod, with lemon butter, with potato purée and creamed spinach

A bottle of pink Bollinger, that I got for my birthday, and now drinking a lovely bottle of Pouilly Fumé.

Absolutely!

I always get flowers, a card and a homemade cake. I get him a cake and usually take him away somewhere for the night/weekend (if someone can look after the kids), or we have a nice dinner at home.

IKR? What a hero. He's hot too.

Nobody with any sense celebrates valentines.

Sounds lovely. Don't tell my husband though!

No🤣 is that terrible?!? He wished me happy Valentine’s Day and I asked him to be my valentines and we will have a take away share a bottle of wine watch something on tv of my choosing that I will then promptly fall asleep to and then he will wake me to come to bed! 🤦🏽‍♀️. It works for us.