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Curious - if you're married, do you celebrate valentines?

166 replies

Geordiebabe85 · 14/02/2025 20:06

Just that really, do married couples celebrate valentines day? When dating my dh always bought a card and a small gift but since we got married, nothing. Its literally a normal day. I used to buy him something small but I've now given up.
Just wondering if it's just us.

OP posts:
OneShoeShort · 14/02/2025 20:55

I made dressed-up, custom pizzas for our whole pack plus two sleeping-over friends and now DH is cleaning up from the brownie ice cream sundae bar (featuring homemade brownies and caramel sauce) that he and the younger DC put together for everyone. Does that count?

Otherwise we said happy valentines day this morning but that's it. It was never a thing for us, though.

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 14/02/2025 20:56

Definitely not. It's a Hallmark holiday.

Ygfrhj · 14/02/2025 20:56

We used to be far too cool for Valentine's Day but now we do something small like a card or flowers or chocolates. It's nice, I like the little signs of appreciation now our lives are so busy with work, children etc.

Spanielsaremad · 14/02/2025 20:58

Absolutely! We went out for nice food mid afternoon, did cards for each other, came home and had amazing sex! Been together 10 years in our 40s and 50s.

GrannyGoggles · 14/02/2025 20:59

We’ve been married for 47 years. No gifts or flowers. A delicious super, cooked by me, a special bottle of wine. Time taken to be appreciative of what we have now and have enjoyed over the years, and give thanks

EmeraldDreams73 · 14/02/2025 21:01

Not really, but we do cards - I like a card so I've trained him that far at least!

He suggested that we take my girls (20 and 16, both very single and wish they weren't) out for lunch tmrw as a slight consolation for them. Both are thoroughly fed up with all their peers being performative about today. When I suggested it to them they were both v keen (big treat, normally only eat out for birthdays) so it's a lovely thought of his and we're all looking forward to it.

FlatStanley50 · 14/02/2025 21:02

Married 15 years. We do cards, DH gets me flowers, I get him sort sort of food treat. And he makes us a nice meal. This year it was a nice family meal including daughter and dog…he’s now supervising daughter getting ready for bed and I am with the dog 😀

BlondiePortz · 14/02/2025 21:04

No we never have really unless we use it as a joke excuse for a takeaway or when we were younger to eat out on an evening

Hurryuphumphreygeorgeiswaiting · 14/02/2025 21:05

We bought each other a little gift each and a card over the years. Bottle of wine for my DH and maybe a small bunch of flowers for me. My DH isn't romantic and today, we didn't do anything. DH played golf and pub with friends, I picked up the Dc's, helped my MIL at home. Not sure why I felt disappointed as we have been together 25 years. Maybe I wanted to feel a tiny bit appreciated with caring for MIL. ( she lives with us) maybe next year 🙄

PoppyBaxter · 14/02/2025 21:11

Yes we do. Together 20 years. We get eachother a card and a box of chocolates. DH also got me a bottle of champagne, and he cooked us a fancy dinner at home.

caringcarer · 14/02/2025 21:12

We had breakfast together at Wetherspoons. I got him a card because he usually gets me one but this year didn't get me one because he didn't see one I'd like. TBF I am picky about cards. He got me a bunch of flowers and I bought him a new hoodie. He often buys me flowers for no reason though.

SailingYachty · 14/02/2025 21:13

Cards, chocs and an Indian takeaway here!

Scottishskifun · 14/02/2025 21:14

We usually make a nice dinner and have a bottle of fizz that's about all we do.
I find it all a bit of a rip off etc

tanqueray10 · 14/02/2025 21:14

We celebrate more now that we have children. It’s just an excuse for a special love heart themed breakfast and fun heart shaped pizza for dinner. Any excuse for a mini celebration here 🙌🏽

TheLionandAlbert · 14/02/2025 21:15

My husband always does something silly and romantic.

villanova · 14/02/2025 21:16

No, I didn't get him anything, he got me a card. It's our kid's birthday, so that takes precedence.

gettingolderbutcooler · 14/02/2025 21:21

Yes! Just been out for a lovely meal and am a bit drunk.
Nice.

Clingfilm · 14/02/2025 21:22

Nope. Loadarubbish. We go out for a lovely meal on our actual anniversary, no gifts.

boobot1 · 14/02/2025 21:23

Yup

BubbleIceTea · 14/02/2025 21:23

I arrived home from work this evening to a lovely card and roses from DH.
He regaled in telling our young DC about how he bought me a single rose for Valentines when we first met.
But it didn't do much for me. I thought about what a load of old commercialism Valentines is. It doesn't mean anything to me. I'd rather he pulled his weight more around the house on a daily basis. That would prove more to me than roses.
I didn't get him anything, for the reasons above.

Tooearlytothink · 14/02/2025 21:25

We haven't up until now but did discuss if we might start now DD is getting old enough to really notice. Whilst we understand our reasons for not, we did debate if it is maybe a little miserable & not what we'd want to model for DD.

Meltedcandlewax · 14/02/2025 21:26

No. Been married a long time but stopped bothering after the first few years. It’s just a marketing ploy.

Caterguin · 14/02/2025 21:29

Nope. Nothing. Maybe early on, but that's going back a long way.
I'm not really into birthdays either. I can take or leave Xmas. I don't like being told when to celebrate😄

2chocolateoranges · 14/02/2025 21:32

We don’t, we did it when we first got married , then we had our children and decided together to stop.

we don’t need one specific day to celebrate our love for each other.

AliasGrape · 14/02/2025 21:32

‘Celebrate’ is a stretch but we gave each other a card, and we had a nice dinner at home - although we ate it with DD so it wasn’t exactly candlelit romance! We don’t generally do gifts, though I picked him up some of his favourite chocolate cos I’m nice like that.

I also got DD a little net of chocolate hearts.