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Curious - if you're married, do you celebrate valentines?

166 replies

Geordiebabe85 · 14/02/2025 20:06

Just that really, do married couples celebrate valentines day? When dating my dh always bought a card and a small gift but since we got married, nothing. Its literally a normal day. I used to buy him something small but I've now given up.
Just wondering if it's just us.

OP posts:
Dillydollydingdong · 14/02/2025 21:34

We exchange cards and go out for a nice meal.

MagpieCastle · 14/02/2025 21:57

Some years we do, some we don't. This one we had a bit-of-extra-effort meal at home, little pressies and lots of cuddles. We've been married over 30 yrs + so do pretty much what we like now. But we do give each other fair warning/ hints if we intend to do the card/pressie thing. It sounds soppy, but we both think romance is often about the small, everyday acts that show you're loved, seen, and appreciated so overall don't worry massively about 14/2. Actions and gestures throughout the year matter far more.

Sassybooklover · 14/02/2025 21:58

My husband bought me flowers, chocolates and a card. I gave him a card. In fairness my husband buys me flowers twice a month anyway, has done since we started dating 19 years ago! We don't go out for dinner these days, like we did before we married and had our son. My husband did pop to the shop earlier and bought a lovely cheesecake for all of us to share, after tea tonight! We kind of half celebrate Valentine's Day!

Raininginparadise2 · 14/02/2025 22:04

He's my valentine everyday. 🥰 Had a lovely dinner and wine at home.

ThePartingOfTheWays · 14/02/2025 22:11

We don't care for it but never did. So no difference between early days and marriage.

TwinklyNight · 14/02/2025 22:12

We exchange cards and have a special dinner. Oh, and he gave me flowers the day before.

SirChenjins · 14/02/2025 22:15

Cards and a nice dinner in the house. DH will usually get me chocolates or a small bunch of flowers too.

alongtimeagoandfaraway · 14/02/2025 22:15

We never have, ever. But today (35th wedding anniversary later this year) he gave me 2 bars of my favourite chocolate. Nothing flash, just very sweet.
Them we went out for a drink this evening and couldn’t get a seat in our favourite pub as it was booked out for valentines meals!

Kendodd · 14/02/2025 22:26

Yes always.
Married 30 years.

Cazziebo · 14/02/2025 22:39

Yes -we always do. DH is a romantic - me not so much. Special meal - he got me flowers, I got him a card.

Nice home cooked meal, champers and a sumptuous red. Lovely.

DiscoBeat · 14/02/2025 22:40

We always do! Our 20th Valentine's day today. We had a lazy day, lovely sunny dog walk, DS14 on half term break but still had to ferry DS17 to and from school. DH gave me a huge bouquet of roses and a bottle of champagne. Also a new make up mirror as I just broke mine. Take away and watching a show with the teens. Lovely!

honeyfox · 14/02/2025 22:43

Yes, we exchange cards, have some wine and chocs and he usually gets me a small bunch of the type of flowers I like. We don't go out for dinner as it's a bit too cringe but I'm happy with what we do.

Norugratsatall · 14/02/2025 22:43

Married 34 years. No we don't bother. We had our first ever date on Valentine's Day too. 1988. I think he may have forgotten this fact though....

TubeScreamer · 14/02/2025 23:10

No, and never have.
married 27 years

user2848502016 · 14/02/2025 23:57

No, but we've never really bothered with it

larkstar · 15/02/2025 00:25

We don't like the commercialism of it so haven't bought cards or even flowers for many years (married 34yrs) but, as I've always been the baker in our house I made one of her favourite cakes but the bit that actually matters is that she wasn't expecting it. I don't bake for Valentine's every year - I did last year and booked a trip to the theatre - can't remember the year before that - basically she doesn't appreciate gestures - she appreciates anything involving actual effort! She rarely does anything in return and I don't mind - she's a good thing in my life and makes the effort in many other ways so Valentine's doesn't really matter that much in the big scheme of things.

ArabellaFishwife · 15/02/2025 00:38

Together for decades. DH is a bit of a romantic, so I make a bit of an effort to reciprocate.

mydogisthebest · 15/02/2025 07:43

2chocolateoranges · 14/02/2025 21:32

We don’t, we did it when we first got married , then we had our children and decided together to stop.

we don’t need one specific day to celebrate our love for each other.

We don't need one specific day either but we still celebrate Valentines and have for 45 years.

We do so many posters think if you celebrate Valentines it means you don't show love the rest of the year? Utter garbage

Completelyjo · 15/02/2025 07:45

Married coming on 10 years, we don’t go out because we have young kids but we do cards, DH might by flowers or some chocs I like, and we always have a fancier dinner and a bottle of wine. Maybe some fancy underwear!

Vettrianofan · 15/02/2025 07:45

No. Wedding anniversary is shortly after Valentines Day. Haven't celebrated it in years.

DaphneduM · 15/02/2025 07:46

Married almost 30 years. Yes, but low key - cards and sparkling wine this year.

Winterscoming77 · 15/02/2025 07:47

Yes. Cards, flowers for me and our girls. Any excuse to be extra nice to each other.

Completelyjo · 15/02/2025 07:48

we don’t need one specific day to celebrate our love for each other.

I always find this take hilarious. It comes across as protesting too much in order to feel better.
I mean, no one “needs” one specific day to tell them to appreciate their partner! People who do celebrate properly do just as much as got throughout the rest of the year.
It’s just interesting, it’s not an argument that gets used for Mother’s Day, birthdays, Christmas.

mydogisthebest · 15/02/2025 07:48

Clarice99 · 14/02/2025 20:50

We don't and never have. I refuse to participate in what is essentially a marketing scam. I don't need a card from him on a day designated for shops to make money on overpriced tat, cards, overpriced flowers and processed ready meals.

My DH and I show our love for each other all year round and we celebrate the days that are important to us.

We also show love for each other all year round but we celebrate Valentines plus our birthdays, wedding anniversary and the anniversary of when we met.

Even if you do celebrate Valentines it is not compulsory to buy tat or flowers. Over the years (45) DH has bought me houseplants, garden plants, perfume, books, cd's, earrings.

JerseyCrow · 15/02/2025 07:49

Yes but fairly low key, cards and little gift. He cooked dinner last night and we had a nice bottle of wine.

We don't need a day to appreciate each other but equally, why not take the opportunity. We don't take it seriously.