Partner wants child for his legacy

[Almost40A]

Name changed for this.

How would you feel if your partner/dh told you he wanted a child to continue his legacy?

He expects that you would both contribute the same, financially, despite the income disparity?

Yes but she's also covering her 2x dc costs which he shouldn't have to.

‘World wouldn’t notice if we slipped off the side of it’ - omg, such an amazing turn of phrase, got me in stitches😂

Not all are.

Like my BIL who stated that it was his duty to reproduce and have children 😵‍💫🙄

Oh Lord no x

I’d feel I’d chosen a wrong un and promptly end it.

Funny how these traditional men who want children, want them to have their name, have such a difficulty with marriage, sharing finances, paying for maternity leave.

So selective🙄.

OP, your two existing children desperately need to be your priority.
They need this far more than you risking everything for a man who wants his ego stroked by a child that he won't marry or pay for.

I wouldn't trust him for a minute.
He is a selfish mean bully.
Good men don't bully to get their way.

Abusers do.
Don't fail your children by giving in.

Most people have children to pass on the legacy of their DNA otherwise there wouldn’t be so many children in care waiting for families.

he possibly said it clumsily but you have also taken a meaning from it that probably wasn’t there.

@Wolfpa
If you read the rest of his ideas about family life that the OP posted, you'll see the context is very alarming. He expects her to basically put her career on hold for mat leave, commit to bringing up a baby so she'd need to set aside her hope of getting her own business off the ground, and despite earning more than her, he wants them to contribute the same amount toward the household.

More red flags than the Chinese Communist Party Conference...

It is and it isn't about communication.

He isn't listening to you and you're hearing him loud and clear.

The real issue is his misogyny.