@librauk Oh wow! This guy actually sounded nice! Guess impressions can be deceptive! That was the one that said 'well I'm here if you change your mind', right?
@Ceci693 sounds nice! What's the geographical distance like? It's nearly the weekend so reckon he will ask soon - unless he's far away?
@Kat888 Hmmm to be honest I don't like the sound of it. I know people say being friends with your ex is a red flag, but tbh for me, your ex feeling the need to block you is a bigger red flag. Then again I'm really close friends with my ex, there's not a lot we wouldn't do to help the other. Only scenario where I could imagine resenting and running away from an ex partner is when something really bad has happened. As in, worse than just cheating etc. Also, I'd like to hope they've been broken up a long time, but people jump on the apps 5 minutes after breaking up, oftentimes.
Does he have a lot going for him? Sometimes the toxic types can also come across really open, caring and loving, but would actually end up being suffocating and controlling - I went on a couple of dates with one.
But could be wrong and perhaps misjudging the poor guy.
@BoxOfCats Things sound lovely with Mr Nomad, I do hope he manages to casually pop in and see you :) Honestly it sounds a whole lot better than the start of many love stories!
Mr RedFlagParade is hot and cold this week and I don't like that. I've looked up what he's doing, and he is making himself scarce to make me give in more easily, as opposed to the earlier lovebombing, he is now bread crumbing. This could be a textbook lesson in toxic men!
From a psychological POV I actually feel bad for him. He's similar age to me, but just seems very lost, no proper job, no stability, limited prospects, no good friends/network around, no hobbies that bring him real satisfaction. He's got his looks going for him and he knows that, so he seduces women and drops them to cure his poor self-esteem. We had a looong date where he actually opened up quite a bit and underneath that player facade is someone very perceptive, clever, sensitive to other people's wants and needs, who life hasn't quite worked out for. Sounded like he actually liked being listened to, and wasn't used to someone asking real questions. Actually said 'okay, you really want to know about that?' He wants to have power over women and come and go as he pleases as that's probably the only aspect of his life where he feels he has power.
Last year I fell in love with someone very similar in terms of being 32 and lost in life, except one that was a very good man, so he effectively didn't date as he felt he needed to work on himself.
My friends tell me it's a pattern for me to give these 'lost, cute, broken guys' a chance, so maybe I need to pull away from RedFlagParade before I start propping him up like the lost puppy that he is. No, I can't change him, and no, I don't need another project, not sure why I am expecting the sex to be good.
There's also Mr Artistic, who I could probably go on a date with this weekend. He has more going on for him, but he also seems to fetishise the way I look, he has a specific ethnic/stylistic type, and I don't love that. He's nice, quite consistent, but truthfully I think he is also a player.
And there's Mr StTropez. I loooove his personality. He's a very accomplished person. We speak every few days for no reason at all, other than that we just have so much in common. However, there's a very big age gap, and we aren't even talking in a dating sense at all. How do I find out if he has a son that's single and lives in the UK? 😂
However, I've had enough now, it's October and I want a guy to wrap me in a plaid and whisper into my ear about North Korean politics and feed me tapas! I'm out this weekend so maybe there's hope! I've decided that if I see someone I fancy this weekend, I'll just walk up to them and 'ask for directions' 😇