His bathroom was so disgusting, I can't believe he didn't clean it before either came round

[Disgustingbathroom]

I've been seeing this guy for a month, he seemed pretty sorted, good job, intelligent etc. BUT went round to his house last night for the first time and I was shocked at the state of his bathroom, he was off yesterday and knew I was coming round a few days in advance so he easily could have cleaned it. I don't want to go into detail as it's disgusting, but hair all over the floor, and the toilet was awful.
I feel a bit sick thinking about it and I didn't even want to go in there to use the toilet.
WTAF?
How could he go into his bathroom and think it was ok to let a potential date go into that, wasn't he embarrassed, obviously not!
He wants to meet again but it's kind of put me off and I definitely would dread using that bathroom again.
Would this put anyone else off?

Absolutely.

You don't expect to have to train an adult man about keeping their bathroom clean.

One month in so it's not a serious relationship yet- I'd dump him.

But if he asks why I'd be honest.

Yuck! I’m utterly revolted not merely put off.

Of course it would put absolutely every person in the planet off I would hope.

Fair enough if he's living on his own to have bathroom like that, but to have a woman round and go into that, pretty shameful and revealing of his character too.
I don't want to describe what the toilet was like but you can use your imagination 😭

Oh goodness, that's repulsive. To say it would put me off would be putting it mildly. I'd run a mile.

Would put me right off, dirty sod.

Throw this one back.

Are you saying it was skid marks in the toilet and not cleaned for months? I bet the shower had that horrible pink mould around too. I wouldn't carry on seeing a guy who was this filthy.

I'd tell him he's a filthy slob and it's so disgusting we're done.

It's giving me the wibble just thinking about it 😂run away!!

The weird thing is he went to the trouble of cooking dinner and looks nice and presentable and hygienic , yet his bathroom is like that !

This reminds me of a friend of mine who decided after several weeks to sleep with her new boyfriend....his bed was full of old bus tickets, tissues and crumbs....yuck...I would tell him why you dont want to go back!

I personally would see that as an extension of poor personal hygiene, if I found myself at a woman's house like that I would run a mile. It obviously depends on your personal standards, but from your reaction it is clearly unacceptable. I would say goodbye and be honest as to why if asked, think forward, would you want to spend your life cleaning up after this?...

'No thank you. I liked you but the state of your bathroom repulsed me and I realised we're not compatible. Take care'

And block.

I think I would rather die than let someone I fancy go into my bathroom if it was like that , he wasn't one bit bothered though !

Which tells you everything you need to know about what he'd be like to live with down the line

Oh do tell.

Presumably poo that wasn't cleared up?

The fact that he's either unaware of how minging it is, or just can't be bothered to clean it to make a good impression on you so early on in the relationship is a worry.

It's a sign that, if this relationship goes further and lasts a long time, all of that stuff is going to fall to you and he's just going to shrug and act like you are overreacting every time you ask him to pull his weight or clean up after himself. He'll be one of those 'I don't have a problem with how it is now. If you do, then you can clean it yourself' types.

Imagine that, when you've got two small children and a full time job to juggle.

They walk among us OP. This is a regular complaint on here from here from women who are dating. This thread was from a couple weeks ago;

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5245560-to-break-up-over-toilet-hygiene-or-lack-thereof

She dumped the guy.

I'd say this person has serious issues and you should steer well clear of him. I'm not sure I would be telling him the actual reason but I would be backing away and distancing myself with a view to dropping completely off of his radar.

Well he's obviously not a clean person however he present himself.
You can't clean yourself in a filthy room like that, impossible.
Don't entertain him anymore and please if you feel safe let him know exactly why, there's so many disgusting men like this and they don't seem to have a clue... or care.

Ignore this.

Tell him the actual reason. Why do we pussy foot around men like this? He was clearly quite happy to let all his dirty laundry hang out in front of OP, so why not tell him that it’s unacceptable to have guests round with that.

Old bus tickets in his bed, the mind boggles.

Was the hair body hair? or hair off his head?

I assume the loo needed tackling with a tonne of bleach and a loo brush?

I don’t agree it’s fair enough when he’s on his own. It shows a worrying lack of self care and hygiene. Being happily untidy is not the same thing at all.

I wouldn't stop dating him just because his bathroom was gross. If the whole house was gross and he was gross - that's another matter.
I'm not sure my DP would think to clean the bathroom for a date tbh... but he would make me dinner in a nice, clean kitchen!