His bathroom was so disgusting, I can't believe he didn't clean it before either came round

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I've been seeing this guy for a month, he seemed pretty sorted, good job, intelligent etc. BUT went round to his house last night for the first time and I was shocked at the state of his bathroom, he was off yesterday and knew I was coming round a few days in advance so he easily could have cleaned it. I don't want to go into detail as it's disgusting, but hair all over the floor, and the toilet was awful.
I feel a bit sick thinking about it and I didn't even want to go in there to use the toilet.
WTAF?
How could he go into his bathroom and think it was ok to let a potential date go into that, wasn't he embarrassed, obviously not!
He wants to meet again but it's kind of put me off and I definitely would dread using that bathroom again.
Would this put anyone else off?

Men who live like this have usually been waited on hand and foot as a kid. This would be a deal breaker for me. This is one reason l like to be invited to someone’s home sooner rather than later. After all the person with these habits is also touching your body.

The other advantage with a visit like this is to ensure there is no partner about.

DH's toilet in the flat he shared with a friend was absolutely disgusting, I could hardly bear to go for a wee.

Didn't put me off him though, I'd been in several all male student digs not long before and none of them were particularly pleasant. I thought it was just a young male thing and seemed to be the norm.

He probably doesn't "see" it, as he's so used to it. Which indicates that he does not think taking care of domestic spaces is any concern of his. Which in turn means if you ever shared a home, you would be responsible for everything. Definitely chuck him back, and if he asks why, tell him. Be glad youv'e dodged a bullet.

Well, yeah - he cleaned what he wanted you to touch. The only bits he was interested in.

Please say that you didn't do anything in the disgusting bed to know what was in it.

Exactly. This is him 'making an effort'! But just out of interest, what was the rest of the flat like, hygiene-wise? Was there a slimy kitchen? Did you see the bedroom?

Did you still shag him anyway?

I once went to visit an
ex who lived in a flat share. When I went into the bathroom there were literal mushrooms growing, beard hairs from 4 men everywhere and the toilet was literally blacK on the inside. I spent about 30 mins cleaning it before I was prepared to use it and then my bf had a go at me because each of the guys were secretly holding off cleaning it because they all expected someone else to do it an it was some sort of
vile stand-off. He felt like he had “lost” because I did it.

Some people are just wired differently and their priorities are different. If they don’t align with your values, I wouldn’t pursue things further. Or youll end up
picking the mushrooms
out of his shower door just so you don’t have to touch them when
you shower…

Eugh! He gets ‘clean’ in there. Once seen how could anyone want to be intimate with him? It would more than put me off. I’d be scrubbing myself with bleach just from having seen it and been in his company!

There is nothing attractive about a manchild with such low standards.

Fucking disgusting.

Exactly what I was thinking too.

Yeah, this would put me off too. He should be keeping it clean as a matter of habit regardless of whether you’re coming over or not. I don’t think I could be with someone who allowed their living space to get like that

He is waiting for a nice women to hook up with him, and to take on that work for him.