His bathroom was so disgusting, I can't believe he didn't clean it before either came round

[Disgustingbathroom]

I've been seeing this guy for a month, he seemed pretty sorted, good job, intelligent etc. BUT went round to his house last night for the first time and I was shocked at the state of his bathroom, he was off yesterday and knew I was coming round a few days in advance so he easily could have cleaned it. I don't want to go into detail as it's disgusting, but hair all over the floor, and the toilet was awful.
I feel a bit sick thinking about it and I didn't even want to go in there to use the toilet.
WTAF?
How could he go into his bathroom and think it was ok to let a potential date go into that, wasn't he embarrassed, obviously not!
He wants to meet again but it's kind of put me off and I definitely would dread using that bathroom again.
Would this put anyone else off?

Would be a big no from me.

When dating my husband his house was pretty immaculate. 12 years later It's never been a source of frustration he has always cleaned and done his share like a grown adult should.

I have a friend whose bathroom is immaculate, she scrubs the shower corners and runners with a toothbrush and viakal but the rest of her house is rather cluttered and un hoovered..I agree with you, a grotty bathroom is truly gross.

Hair all over the floor...Does he have a dog?

Oh no........ There used to be an elderly couple we'd visit when I was a kid, and the loo was brown..I asked what it was and was told it was ''rust from the cistern''...they had an outside loo in the garden...
NOW I know it wasn't ''rust'' but skids.

I still cannot see a tannin stained tea mug without thinking of that loo.

To be fair that might be water stains. We used to have a toilet with a slow leak from the cistern and it does leave brown stains - even if the toilet is cleaned regularly.

I'd have left if I needed to use the toilet and told him why

That's kind of short-term thinking though, isn't it?

If he only cleans the areas he thinks a date will see but the bathroom is gross, then it shows he doesn't keep a clean home normally - and guess who will be picking up the slack for his sloppy housekeeping and gross habits if the relationship develops into something serious?

Block and move on

A good few years after my husband and I had just started dating he told me how he was so nervous about me visiting his house for the first time that he scrubbed everywhere clean.

That’s the effort and thought you want from a man when you’re only one month in…

I could not date a man with a dirty toilet. Just no.

I would have suddenly remembered my house was on fire and would have left immediately.

My friend straight up told a guy she was offended that he’d invite her round and leave his bathroom in such a state and never to do it again if he wanted her to stick around. It was always sparkling after that!

Yuck. He is unlikely to change so unless you enjoy cleaning toilets, I’d give this one a miss.

Total deal-breaker. Stop seeing him, and tell him why.

@eqpi4t2hbsnktd - you have seriously low standards if a toilet full of shit wouldn't bother you on a date.
This would be a deal breaker for me - even after living with my husband for 9 years we clean the toilet after each other isnt that just what normal people do???

No way could I have eaten anything he made if his bathroom was that bad. Wonder if he washed his hands before cooking for you 🤮

Absolutely gross especially as most men don't wash their hands when they wee so just imagine what is lurking on his hands 🤮🤮🤮

That is gross. Did you eat before you saw the toilet? That would seriously put me off and I wouldn’t have thought his kitchen hygiene was very good either.

I'd see this as a red flag and/or a sign of mental health issues. I had an ex like this. I let it go the first couple of times. He was really abusive.

@Disgustingbathroom Maybe it was his way of telling you to 'bog'off.... I guess in future when you start to date you should ask to inspect their bathroom to 'flush' out the crap. 😄

Good on her. And good plan. I’d do this op.

He cooked? You ate off his dishes? I'd be looking for an enema or drinking bleach.

Dump and run.

Euch, I'd also be thinking of the food connection and potential cross contamination...
Seriously, how hard is it to keep your toilet (at the very least) sanitary?
I don't think I could go near him after seeing that OP.
Wouldn't want to be with someone who needed prompting to clean up their own shite either!

Been there. In my early 20s. He knew I was coming over too.

Public hair everywhere!

I asked to use his flatmates bathroom as his was so gross.

I got food poisoning there for the first time and last time in my life after eating takeaway in his house that night. It could have been a bad takeaway tbf, but it could also have been his cutlery or glasses.

Don't see him again. If he doesn't respect you enough to tidy up at one month in, he will disrespect you massively going forwards too.

Why are there so many men who seem to overlook this very necessary part of life i.e. cleaning their bottoms, cleaning the places their bottoms have been...toilets, pants, bed sheets etc...?

They need training while young children - wash your hands after having a wee!

It's definitely something taught while young.

My brother quite put me off buying an ice cream from an ice cream van when he said ''the vendor's hands have probably not been washed between holding his dick for a pee or scratching his earhole ''
Never mind handling grimy money.