@OpenOliveCat "I've no idea why men come on Mumsnet because the answers are always a dissonant attack."
The response to male posters is often different to the response to female posters on Mumsnet because unlike the female posters, who generally listen to the advice they're given, the male posters almost inevitably come here to whine and feel sorry for themself and try to get validation from women that they're justified in feeling entitled to sex with their wife. Witness the OP: he only responded to the few posts that somewhat agreed with him. He took on not a whit of the good advice, which was to understand female sexuality and make himself emotionally attractive to her.
Same with @Christl78, who persists in saying he's "deprived" despite it indicating a disgusting entitlement to sex. And he still literally thinks he's been tricked into a sexless marriage. He's not listening either. I spent quite some time listing practical things he could try to improve things, but no, he actually just wants to complain. He doesn't want solutions, he wants to feel angry and sorry for himself. I am 100% sure that he's also flinging around that same whiny self-pitying angrily entitled attitude at home. I am also 100% sure that his wife's libido has completely died because because of this attitude.
This repulsive male attitude is so prevalent, such a cliche, that Zawn Villines has written a post about it:
"Do heterosexual men actually want sex? Or do they just want to complain about it? When sex requires work, men would rather go without.... They keep emailing me about their lacking sex lives, too. How they’re being abused because they don’t get enough sex. How they think they’re going to get prostate cancer, or their balls are going to fall off. I tell them all the same thing: Women are very clear about what they want sexually, and what men can do to get more sex. We’ve been collectively shouting it from the rooftops for generations, and the individual women I talk to have spent a ton of time telling their partners what they need."
But all of this advice falls on deaf male ears. As Villines says, "These men don’t actually want mutually satisfying sex. In fact, they’d rather give up sex altogether than put in the work necessary to have a decent sex life. Why is that?... Men have thus defined sex as whatever it is they want. They claim to want to have sex with women, but they leave the perspective of women completely out of the sexual equation. Sex is for men. Sex is what men say it is. Sex should happen when men want it... The revelation that he might have to do work to get sex—foreplay, equitable participation in household labor, learning emotional intelligence, becoming a decent parent—is a shattering reality for many men. If you’ve grown up believing something is a right, being told you have to work for that “right,” and that even then you might not get it, you might get angry.
So to a man, it makes perfect sense to punish his partner for not wanting sex—to cry, to pout, to whine. She’s denying him a basic human right, something he has spent his entire life being told he is entitled to."
Women who don't have enough sex with their partners generally do NOT behave or think like these men. On average, they're more willing to work with their partner, or understand what is going on from his side, and they don't feel rapily entitled to their partner's body. So the advice that is given differs.