HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

[Flowercandy]

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

We don’t care what he does- people here care about you and your child.

This is not healthy. Please block the streamer, get off mumsnet and speak to someone in real life.

Baby Reindeer... Is that you?

OP you sound like a creepy obsessed stalker. I don't blame the streamer for not wishing you to visit him.

Please get some help.

OP you are buying friendship. Step away from this man, he is doing this for a living he doesn't see you in a romantic or even in a friendship sense, you are a client. It's like paying the dentist to do your teeth, or a joiner to put up shelves. You're paying this man to be part of his circle. It's not healthy, make some real friends in real life as this is all fake and costing you money you can't afford. Focus on real life connections. Or even online ones where money doesn't change hands. You need to be strong here OP and cut this right off.

If i am infatuated why do i ignore his calls and don't read messages from him off the app. Stalkers bunny boilers r on to any communication they can get i do not. I cba answering and messageing i just prefer the live chat

Because you're playing games? Similar to that massive bellend.

Aside from the live chat, how do you communicate with these so-called friends?

Do you speak to or see any friends in real life OP?

If you’re not obsessed with him then just stop. Stop following/watching/gifting. Block him (it doesn’t matter if he allegedly ‘tells you not to’) and crack on with your life. Re the ‘friends’ you’re apparently chatting to, go make some actual friends in real life.

So block him, then. End this.

I just thought i had friendship with them all that's all, they all seem welll well well more obsessed than me im no where near as bad if u think i am then imagine them as there fill full full full on.

Well, if you’re not infatuated, @Flowercandy, why do you post endlessly about this guy and your interactions with him on here, and ignore all advice to seek MH support? How much money have you spent on ‘gifting’ him?

So.. you’re upset he didn’t invite you because he assumed you live too far away

but you can’t go, because you DO live too far away

so you’re going to lie, say you can get a lift, just to test if you would be invited if you could go. But you can’t.

You say it’s for the community and other people you’re friends with because of this man. Not the man himself.. but if that was the case, you’d not be so completely focused on if HE wanted you there or not. Also, it wouldn’t matter because you’ve already stated you can’t attend either way. It’s very clearly not about the other friends you’ve made, but you wanting to be accepted by this figure.

It’s time you accept you have unhealthy fixations here. I would be completely creeped out by you and want to keep my distance. But this man might not care, he might not even think about you - meanwhile you are reading into every word he says to figure out how he feels about you and what his intentions are.

But, going by how things have went so far, you’re never going to listen to anyone and just repeat these same oxymoron statements.

Why did you post on here? You’re not listening to anyone so what’s the point?

Im just not as gullible

You need professional help.

They’re not posting here asking for advice. If they were, we’d tell them the same.

Now BLOCK HIM.

Yes, you are, you need help. You're not listening to anyone and you're obsessed with a stranger.

Sort your life out for your kid

Ya think?!

But they’re irrelevant, OP. Stop trying to convince yourself you’re ok because you think other fangirls’ obsession is worse. Focus on yourself. Is this really how you want to spend your life? Is this really how you want to model adult life for your child?

I dunno why I'm replying to this thread, I really don't. I think I've caught the obsessive bug going around.

Why the fuck do you want to be friends with stalkers who are full, full, full on? Are you not scared shitless of their antics?

Wait, I’m seeing references to a kid. The OP HAS A CHILD?!

Oh, my goodness.

The OP isn’t going to listen to common sense so everybody should go back to going about their day. Don’t waste your time. Lost cause.

Either way it's not helping you, seems to take up a lot of your head space.

Take care of yourself, you deserve better.

You're now back pedalling! On page one, you said this -
The other people hes invited don't gift much tho either i just found it a bit strange like we speak alot on phone and he says he frrls gutted i live far but i wasn't givin the chance to reply i couldn't make it i mean i could of got transport for all he knew

So what is it? You either speak a lot on the phone, or you "cba" answering his calls! Which one is it, as it can't possibly be both?
You are absolutely obsessed and everyone here is banging their heads against a brick wall even posting replies!

Hi OP you sound vulnerable. Do you have a support worker or someone like a close family member who can help you out?

I’ve read your responses and I will be blunt - it’s clear to me that this man invites others who haven’t gifted him much because he genuinely wants to meet them and sees these as somewhat friends irrespective of how much or little they give him.

He doesn’t want to meet you and you’re not a friend in his eyes so your value only lies in gift giving.

Also your interactions are quite odd here, so I don’t know if you’re coming across as very strange to this streamer and he is actively trying to avoid you?

Either way don’t bother with people who only see you for what they can get out of you. Move on.