HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

[Flowercandy]

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

Yes, there were references on the other thread to this streamer offering to play with the OP’s son on Roblox or something.

Does he hell as! They don't gift as much, they're nothing but an opportunity to him. It's a sales pitch meet-up.

You sent him hundreds of pounds that you couldn't afford then had to borrow money to buy food!
You have a child! You put sending money to a stranger online above feeding your child!

Get away from this. He's using and scamming. You need real life interests, friends and boyfriend.

OP: “I don’t care about the man, I care about the friends I’ve made in the community who follow the man”

Also op: “All his other followers are crazy obsessed, I’m different to them.”

The only person you’re fooling is yourself OP. You need a very big reality check and maybe some help. You should not care so much what this stranger thinks of you, or give to shits if he invited you or didn’t. You need genuine help, especially if you have a child.

They deserve a parent who is present for them

OP do you have a social worker / mental health support? Because you are clearly very vulnerable.

@Flowercandy Everyone on here is telling you the same thing but you’re just not listening.

You need professional help for this addiction,

She had to borrow money to buy food? Fucking hell

Her poor kid. Someone needs to know about this in real life and intervene

See also “We speak on the phone a lot/He calls me and I ignore his texts/messages”

VS

”He didn’t give me any chance to reply.”

OP is trying to paint the light they are much more friends than they are, clearly their interactions are limited or she would have replied to say she might be able to attend if she were invited.

Either way this fixation is ridiculously unhealthy and the fact OP can’t see that, when she’s spent money she needed to feed her child on this stranger online, suggests she needs some serious intervention and help we can’t give.

But you are! You have told him more will follow on payday. Why are you giving things to a stranger and not using the money for yourself or your ds. He is using the meetup as an opportunity to groom potential followers.

What's this streamers name OP?

Excellent. So you can see this for exactly what it is, for what everyone on this thread and the last can see, and you can block him and move on. If not, you are exactly as gullible as the rest of them. Perhaps moreso because you are so blind that you think you are somehow the one playing him by ignoring him.

These people aren't your friends. He is not your friend. Find something outside of the internet and focus on your child (and I say this as a gamer with plenty of online friends, so I do understand how easy it is to feel close to people behind a screen). This is not the right environment for someone coming out of an abusive relationship. You've walked out of one right into another, even if it feels different.

She's never gonna tell. We might steal him away from her.

OP, you’re 35 years old with a child. You borrowed money from family to keep paying this streamer. You need help. It’s an addiction, like online gambling, and one you’re going to need help breaking.

Maybe the other "gifters" don't come across as a weirdo stalker?

When you say payday is that pay from a job or money from benefits?

I think it’s a bad idea to send any money at all either way but before anyone asks I feel it’s relevant how you get your money because it gives us a broader picture of your finances and how you occupy your time .

If you only work part time and/or are on benefits this is particularly awful and on the gamers side very exploitative

You literally said in your post

‘Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally”

why the hell do you waste time and money on randoms online who only want your cash? These people are not friends. But you’ve been told that by a million people already on here….

No, this is the very definition of gullible.

•i like him as a friend*
he is not a friend, he care not a jit about you and does not want to meet you, he just wants your money

I've made female friends
mo you haven’t , they are strangers on the internet

you are being scammed and wasting your life , show this thread and the other one to your doctor , you need mental health help urgently as literally nothing anyone is saying to you is getting through and you have lost rational thinking processes , you are now dragging your son into this madness too , if his school find out you were thinking of exposing him to a scammer on line they would raise a safeguarding concern

I’ve just read the other thread which has been attributed to Op (it certainly sounds like her) if it is OP - according to that previous thread she has a support worker from MIND who visits every 2 weeks.

OP please share ALL of this with your support worker. I feel you’re being taken advantage of.

He doesn't like you and he doesn't like any of the other 'viewers' it's just a way for him to make money. You won't get any satisfactory explanations from him; the only way to get resolution is to block and work on building your self esteem.

That makes this all so much more depressing. I really wish I hadn’t seen this thread.

Absolutely this!

Flowercandy - when I read your OP it made me think of a situation I was in many years ago, when a man I was very into (and who I considered an on/off boyfriend) was going to his friend's party and didn't ask me if I wanted to go with him. I tried to give him reasons why I could and should go, but he wasn't having any of it. It took a direct comment from a old friend of mine to get the message across to me which was

'he's not invited you, because he doesn't want you there'

It hurt - a lot - at the time, but I know the (male) friend who said that to me did so with my best interests at heart.

So, kindly, please stop wondering why you haven't been invited and beating yourself over what you have or haven't done and try to accept that ultimately he just doesn't want you there.

I'm sorry. I know it hurts.