HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

[Flowercandy]

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

This is such a waste of everybody's time. The OP is clearly totally obsessed and whilst we all feel for her child she isn't going to listen to anyone here.

You aren't getting what anyone is saying - given your update, and that his name starts with a V i am even more certain it's who I thought it was. I won't be saying the name just incase.

Op this guy I have never spoken with, liked his content or followed him or commented - nothing, and he's been in my inbox asking for nudes, and sex. He's come across my platform and just got stuck straight in. I'm no more special than you are - he's a player and a manipulator. I don't know how else to get through to you op. You keep saying there's no feelings anymore but there so obviously is and it's really unhealthy. Please focus on your child.

Why do have to pay for that?

Hopefully he sees both threads on her and blocks op cause she sure as heck isn't going to wise up. No way will a scammer want all this info about how he suckers fools . So maybe these ridiculous threads will help after all.

I feel quite ill reading the other thread. A fool and their money are soon parted. He is preying on vulnerable women.

He wasn't very nice when he persuaded a clearly vulnerable woman (you) to share explicit photos and do explicit things on a video call.

Or when he accepted so much money from you, a vulnerable single mother, that it left you short so you didn't have enough money to feed your child and had to borrow it.

Nice blokes don't do one of the above things. Let alone both.

I think this thread might in some way be feeding whatever’s going on with the OP. Don’t get me wrong, I’m here too reading all her posts, it’s horrifying and fascinating. But I’m getting a feeling that we might not be the good guys by engaging in it - even though the advice is good, the words are all clear and correct we may not be of the same mindset and I’m not sure its hitting in the same way in the OPs head.

I had no idea what Bigo was when I woke up. Looked at some of this feedback and was so shocked. Then about how dangerous it is.

uk.trustpilot.com/review/www.bigo.tv?stars=1

You might be right. I think she might be using it as another way to be able to talk about him and indulge in her obsession. I'll stop commenting, I think.

It’s his job! That’s how he makes his money. I’m a nurse, I ask people how they’re doing. I care for them. I get paid.
in the nicest possible way, you need some help to see the real situation you are in.
I’ve been vulnerable and i can see how easy it is to pin a lot of hope on someone who is nice to you, but you really do need to remove yourself from this situation.
you don’t want anyone’s advice or help though and that’s the biggest issue.
you want people to agree with you.
if he wanted to invite you anywhere and thought of you as a friend, he would.
he is playing you and taking advantage, and the sad thing is I don’t think you will realise this until it’s too late and you have lost everything.
if you were my relative, I’d be looking for mental health support and even think of reporting you to social services because I’d worry your obsession over this means you are neglecting your child.
to send this stranger money rather than buy food for your child?? Surely even you can see this is wrong.
if you want friends online, join some Facebook groups, talk on here, you don’t need some influencer to do that, and definitely not one who is only playing nice to get money, views, likes, and popularity out of you

If you advanced search her previous username op gives the id of the streamer. Perhaps someone could report it?

I’m beginning to wonder if you’re so vulnerable you might be a danger to yourself and child.

I hope MNHQ take this off the boards and make relevant reports.

Yeah, good to hear I’m not being completely weird about not feeling right with this (well there’s two of us anyway!) Going to do same.

That's quite a read.

A fool and their money etc.

I've jusg looked him up, he is definitely exploiting you for money and explicit pice and videos op. A guy like that is absolutely not needing to find a relationship online especially with someone 3.5 hours away. So any obsession or fantasy you have about that is not going to happen. Hes putting on an act pretending he is nice to make money. That's his job.

I’ve just looked the ‘streamer’ in question up. 😞 horrified by his exploitation of a mentally unwell and extremely vulnerable woman.

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Bigo? BI GO? BIIIIGOOOO??? What the actual fuck a duck.

Oh yeah looks like a beacon of goodwill and altruism that one does.

Is that him? Creepy.

@Flowercandy how old is your child?

I’m so concerned you feel like he has any feelings at all for you, OP. I fear that you think “I’m not like those other girls.”

You’ve been obsessed with a fantasy and your child is paying the ultimate price.

OP who do you value more, your son or this man?

You're allowing him to interact with this man on games.

You're spending money you could spend on your son, on this man.

You're spending time you could be using for something much more positive (and more likely to increase your self worth than someone who persuaded you, a vulnerable woman, to perform explicit sexual acts on a video call) on him which doesn't benefit your son.

At the moment you're prioritising this guy and giving him a ridiculous amount of headspace.

Your poor son deserves more than that,

He does 'nice' things because then women will 'gift' more.

He talks about other peoples lives in a positive way because it makes you feel trusting of him and thus 'gift' him more.

You say he talks about Mental Health. Well he will do, because he's an expert at manipulating women's Mental Health.

Let me tell you about those other vulnerable women in your 'group'. They are all being manipulated by this man. It is NOT normal to send money or gifts to a stranger on the internet. We know that, and he knows that but now YOU need to know that too.

Do you understand why it isn't normal? @Flowercandy

Those other women are not your friends. Because the minute this man tells them to, they would drop you like a hot potato.

They don't care about you.

He doesn't care about you.

Guess who does care about you? Your child. So, instead of sending this horrid, evil, ugly little man more money why don't you save it and spend it on a day out with the person who does, 100%, care about you.

Now, you're not listening to people because you think you know best. You don't. You ARE being scammed. Mentally, financially emotionally and by the sounds of it, sexually manipulated.

If you continue to allow yourself to be scammed then you are going to ruin your life.

Join some IRL groups and make some real friends because, and I repeat again, the women in this online group and the conman ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS

Are you going to allow yourself to be conned repeatedly?

Just get on with it OP. It's your life you're fucking up. You're beyond help.

Starting to wonder if this is real now or perhaps someone trying to out this idiot. If it is real I don't think OP is listening at all or that this is even helping :(