HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

[Flowercandy]

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

I only watch the live in the evenings around 7.30 and chat in there i spent about £7 im the whole in the last 2 months ive not gifted alot at all just like tje friendships we all have in there well i thought but the girls r lovely

You are clearly not going to stop so I hope you have someone in your life who can step up for your child when this turns to complete shit.

You don’t have friendships on there, please realise that. Just a bunch of gullible and vulnerable lonely people being exploited for likes and cash.

What would happen if you didn't watch at all? Just for one night?

The fact you've already told him you will give him more money when you get paid shows your giving him more then you can afford. Why don't you ask him for money see what happens since he's so nice

@Flowercandy And you're STILL defending him????
Seriously, he's using you and the other women in the live chat are not friends, they're just there for the banter! I can guarantee if you met them in real life, they'd be as bitchy as hell! I have seen this in real life!
You've been told countless times what's going on and you're chatting away in your responses in an absolute world of your own, like no-one else has posted! Justifying giving this absolute pos, who has no interest in you whatsoever, money still! He's hardly going to be nasty is he, when he's wanting coin and whatever else out of gullible folk?! Would you have given him money if he'd been a nasty pos?! No!
Point proven!
I truly give up!

HE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND.

How many more pages of replies do you need to see this is totally absurd??

@CleanShirt 🤷🏼‍♀️

But he does nice things and talks about other people's life's and helps them etc its like you are not getting that part maybe the people in the chat

Because that is his job! People streaming and "on" talking to the fans are putting on a persona, I work with a lot of streamers with the work I do, they're all wildly different to the persona on screen, you're giving your money to an obsession that doesn't exist in real life.

What you're doing (multiple threads, donating far more than you can afford, giving this man so much head space and obsession,, posting pictures to him) is so far beyond the realms of healthy, regardless of how little or much you're currently donating. This is such an unhealthy obsession and with unhealthy addictions, people aren't like dip your toe in and out, the normal and most useful advice is to go cold turkey. Block this man, uninstall bigo, use blockers on your phone and computer to stop yourself going on and live a life that is not a streamer obsession, or continue down the path that you're currently on which is unhealthy for you and for your child, and we'll see you back in a couple of months for another ridiculous update. Please don't choose the latter, it is such a waste of life, to be obsessing over this parasocial relationship, with a man who just sees you as someone to exploit for money or pictures or whatever else.

Has he ever done anything nice for you? Because it sounds like all he does is take your money and bully you into sending nudes. How is that nice?

Fucking hell I give up.

Again, your poor child.

I think people need to stop commenting on this pointless thread now.
The OP is living in an complete fantasy world and nothing anyone says is making her step back and think about any of it.
And if she can't consider putting her child first, then nothing we say will get through! SMH

Because we've all seen it before there's thousands of them on tiktok every night being "nice" being gifted by vulnerable women. A nice person doesn't take vulnerable people's money. There was actually a lady on tiktok about a year ago just like you became obsessed gave the influencer more then she could afford lost everything and then ended up ending her own life. His response was i never asked for money she chose to give it and this was his apology speech. Taking zero responsibility of how vulnerable these women are i bet he wouldn't even remember her name if he was asked now.

What, "helps them" send photos they don't feel comfortable sending? "Helps" separate them from what little money they've got?

OP, you are behaving like you belong to a bloody cult. The fact you are a grown woman with a child is frightening.

I agree it's feeding op's obsession. Am hiding it.

He says what you want to hear.

He is laughing at you behind your back.

Some of the women in the chat may also be in on it and encourage the ones like you to keep liking him.

None of them are your friends. A

I was sympathetic at first but now I can see that you are being deliberately stubborn and are defending him.

My sympathy only lies with your child.

You are wasting your life watching him and engaging with him and the other women.

You are missing out on making real, meaningful relationships.

Unfortunately, you don't seem to care and want to continue as you are.

This might be the maddest thing I've ever read on this website. I got through pages of it assuming OP was a child only to find out she's a mother.

Genuinely speechless. I mean this in the kindest possible way but OP you need to seek out professional help, and you need to stay away from these people until you get it.

Cunty cunty wanky wanky bollocks cunt...y...

OP I think you need to tell your MIND support worker about this. It's exploitative. He's taking advantage of your vulnerability and you need someone to step in and advocate for you.

@MoonWoman69

I agree. I won't be posting anymore as the op falls into the category of 'None so blind as those who will not see'.

Absolutely shameful that her child is being brought up in this mess.

I don’t know why this thread has upset me. Maybe I know young women the same age and would hate to see them exploited like this.
OP posted this on her other thread after this man had been online/call to her at 2 am coercing her into
sexual stuff which she was involved in and in her own words, he just sat there.
It actually makes me feel sick. And to hear this young woman talk, it’s like the previous thread never happened. Because she did come to some realisations on that one.

as @WillowBed said... He is not nice. Not one bit nice. He takes money from vulnerable people.
Your life revolves around this online sales man.
"Want a few flattering comments? That'll be £10 please. Next."
That's all he offers.

I hope you do get counselling, but please don't pay him as a counsellor as you've previously mentioned. The idea is to find someone to help you come to terms with your addiction to this man. Please get a proper counsellor. If you cannot find one ring the Samaritans and ask them.
Your time should be focused on yourself and your child in the real world. Your child deserves your attention, not this online guru.

There isn't one person on this thread who has said... "He sounds great, keep streaming and paying him." Please read this thread again, even though it may be hard to hear.

I'm bouncing between sad and angry that the Internet makes things like this possible. That poor child, having less food sometimes if his mum decides to send 'a nice man' some money. And no professional organisation to complain to. OP, please listen to everyone here trying to warn you. And ask a trusted person to discuss it with you in real life. I've read a lot on here and am impressed by the help women give each other in awful times but this man you gifted to makes me feel almost hopeless. Please take care of yourself.

Lord there is no hope. I feel so sorry for your child.