HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

[Flowercandy]

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

@HeffalumpsAndWoozlesAreHoneyRobbingTwats you'll need to ask @Fencehedge
I'm interested to know too...

He's well known n liked on bgo he's does music and beat boxing just really nice person so it doesn't corn across that well on here as he's really liked by everyone on there, his name begins with V i can't tell anyone as people mite go in his live and say something

So what? Spend your money on your kid instead of a stranger.

This has got to be a wind up surely? No one can be this oblivious

It’s his job to come off as nice, that’s a streamers job, to come off as nice or funny or charming, this is like falling in love with a character an actor is playing, he’s putting on a performance.

Well, perhaps that's because people on here aren't impressed by some nobody getting you to part with money you can ill afford and send pictures you later regret.

@Flowercandy of course he's going to be a really nice person, he wants people to give him money, he's a grifter. He's hardly going to be a dick to people upfront as they then won't watch his stream or give him money.

He shows people what he knows why want to see the version of him that is public that people like isn't the reality of who he really is.

Please don't bury your head in the sand. You're an incredibly vulnerable individual and I suspect the others on his streams gifting will be too and he's identified that.

You need to find a safer space to pass time and to make friends that isn't that app or streamers.

Why are you letting a stranger play interaction games with your son? I noticed it on your other thread.

That's not adequately safeguarding your child and it's also building up a false sense of intimacy and closeness between you and the streamer.

It sounds like the best thing all round would be to disengage completely and have no more contact, but even after everyone told you that on your other thread you seem determined to keep talking to him.

It's a shame as it sounds like he's using you and you've previously gone without in order to gift him money then had to ask your family for help. That affects your son as well as you. Please don't waste any more time or energy on this bloke

Of course he's likeable most con artists are very charming if he wasn't nobody would watch or give him money. If he was a nice person he wouldn't be targeting vulnerable women. Most influencers make money from ads and brand deals not by manipulating vulnerable, lonely and desperate women.

Am I right in thinking that you've never meet him?

So you really haven't a clue at all what he is like!

He wants money & gifts from strangers.

How do you think he is going to seem?🙄

He might be well liked on there but he’s not on here after what you have told us about him.
He is an abusive groomer.
He has coerced you into things that have left you upset.
Anyone can have a nice face and way about them. Serial killers can be charm itself.

See PP

However it's not him it turns out, so don't want to derail. These horrors tend to have lots in common, though.

@Flowercandy you’re not hearing us at all are you? You vowed to stop sending all your money last thread, now you’ve promised this man to ‘gift’ him in two weeks when you’re paid. You have to stop. Please, please think of your child!

Do you work?

He hasn't invited you because you stopped giving him money, the ones he has invited will be giving him money still even if they say to you they aren't. He is only in it to get the money, he is not your friend, he is no ones friend on these live streams he is a performer earning a wage. Please block him and seek help.

He's not a nice person. You don't even know him.

Have you read ANY of the comments people have left you? You need to seek help. Your poor child.

He is not a nice man. Asking for gifts, nudes etc. Exploiting your ds and likely others'. it is all a game to make him money and fame . Stop thinking you are special to him, you are just a pawn and only useful if you give attention.

Of course he's nice- he wants your money. He doesn't like you. He doesn't fancy you. He doesn't want a relationship with you. He sees £ signs and you're giving it to him!

When are you going to wake up and protect yourself and your child??

Should have posted on AIBU to be told you are…for many reasons.

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Yes.

That's how someone convinces a mother to give them money that should be spent on her children.

Think I’m getting old as I have absolutely no
idea what the OP means 🤷‍♀️

@Fencehedge I'm just freaking out as I shared some private information about myself with him when I was considering using him as a counsellor. I was going to save up to have a session a week. If there's even a rumour he's like that then I'm no longer willing to engage with him! But I know it's derailing and I will shut up now. X

I am so sorry, @Flowercandy, but you are absolutely hooked on this man and your interactions with him.

If you are really not infatuated, then you need to stop completely - block his feed, block his number, stop watching him (or other streamers), no more live chat. If you need to find real-world help to beat this addiction, then please try to find it, but you need to see what the rest of us are seeing - an addict who says “Oh, I can give it up any time I want. I hardly do it at all, I can ignore his calls” etc, etc.

I realise you don’t want to hear this or acknowledge that there is even the smallest chance we might be right, but we are. P,ease stop all interaction with this man, including watching his stream - do it for some weeks, and then see if that space has allowed you to get more clarity on this situation.

Spend your time and money on your child - that is the most real and most important relationship you have.

I understand, it's a legitimate concern. I'm trying to remember the year it happened, definitely in the last 7 years or so. He blamed sex addiction and falling off the wagon. He didn't say it was ok but it absolutely happened. He admitted it on air / in his podcast. I'm trying to remember the year. You can prob find out on the Tattle threads about him. It was before he trained as a counsellor.

I personally wouldn't choose him as my counsellor, but it's an individual decision. He'll be signed up to a code of ethics etc now.

Being well-known and popular on a streaming platform does not in any way shape or form make someone ‘a nice person’.

I’d never even heard of bigo so just googled and clicked on it. The first stream (video?) I saw was a confused-looking woman in a hat miming to ABBA. Maybe I’m not the target audience…?

This is going to be one of those 'I got into huge arrears with my rent even though I get it given to be by Universal Credit and I didn't actually realise I hadn't been paying my rent because there was some mix up and I didn't check my bank account and now I'm facing homelessness, but my child! my child! wah wah! The council needs to help me!' scenarios, isn't it? So utterly fucking depressing.