HE ASSUMED I COULDN'T GO

[Flowercandy]

Hi i been watching a streamer for about 6 months got to know everyone in his lives etc all his gifters and new gifters i also gift occasionally. He's set up a group meet for everyone. He assumed i couldn't make it due to living 3 and half hours away but also didn't invite me. Just said shame i couldn't go but i wasn't outright asked. Is this a excuse that he didn't want me going. However none of us live bu each other where all dotted around the UK. I found it weird that i wasn't asked even if i were to say i couldn't go.

Fgs. Listen to the many, many, many replies.

YOU ARE NOT ALL FRIENDS.
He doesn't like you.
He likes the money.

Good fucking god.

And you've got your child involved in this situation?

Honestly, it blows my mind that people need to be screened and jump through hoops to adopt a dog, but can have children without any sort of interview.

None of really makes sense does it , if you've been ignoring his calls maybe that's why he didn't invite you. Regardless he doesn't see any of you as friends he is making a living out of you and others like you so really there's nothing to be upset about is there? It's not personal. Please look for help to find better things to occupy your mind 🙏

This man just wants to get as much money as he can out of you and other people. Why can't you see that? He doesn't like you, he doesn't like anyone he's dealing with this way. He thinks you're all suckers. I'm sorry to be so harsh but you are giving this useless man money time and again. You need to stop it.

Yikes.

Well, @Earlofoats says (which I didn’t see or didn’t remember from her other thread) that the OP says she has a support worker from MIND, which suggests there’s more to her vulnerability than just being gullible to an online dopamine hit via attention from a streamer. Though I don’t disagree it’s depressing.

So why didn't you tell him you can make it?

I think you should stop gifting him. This whole gifting strangers on FB and tiktok has gotten out of hand. Would you walk past a stranger in the street and hand him £20?

Jesus this is a hard read.

OP, there’s no ‘fear’ from him. There’s no feeling at all. Nothing. He doesn’t care. He’s just trying to get free stuff from you. ‘Gifts’. That’s all he wants. He’s very likely laughing at you, all of you.

Please save your money for you and your son. Don’t give what little you have to this man.

Is this man more important to you than your son? You’re certainly acting thst way. I remember your thread. You put yourself in abject poverty when you gave the last of what you had to this man. Think about your child. Because what you’re doing is horrendous.

You know why he hasn't invited you, you live too far away from the meet up and don't have any way of getting there. You are choosing to believe you haven't been invited for some other reason.

You need to stop obsessing over it and step away from this streamer because it's not healthy for you.

Why aren't you listening?

You're just wasting everyone's time.

Do what you're going to do

This is so sad, and reminds me of a vulnerable young woman who used to post on Digital Spy, back when they had a showbiz gossip section. She had a huge crush on Declan Donnelly and spent heaps of money attending every BGT audition and waiting outside TV Studios.

He never engaged with her though, unlike the man in the OP who is taking advantage of someone who is gullible and naive 🥲

I’m getting serious “baby reindeer” vibes here.

You are delusional
You refuse to listen to any advice given to you
You keep repeating yourself over and over, this is an unhealthy obsession.
You are nothing to him but a boost to his viewing figures. Even if you're not gifting, just by watching the streams you are funding his lifestyle.

You need to seek help. Immediately before any real damage is done. The fact you have involved your child is frightening. It's a massive safeguarding issue. I cannot believe you gave a stranger online your phone number. You do not know this person. You only know the personality they put out on social media.

I know I'm effectively talking to myself right now, but I write this on the hope that collectively these replies will eventually trigger something in you.

Seek help, no one should be this obsessed with someone online (or otherwise). You sound extremely vulnerable and easily manipulated and this will ultimately be your downfall.

This ^^

This man is not real 'friends' with you all, he is nice to you so you'll send him money. That's all he cares about.

wtf so you just repeat the same mistakes then repost about it again. Op you need to just unsubscribe from this streamer or whatever it is. Focus on your bloody child

HE HASN'T ASKED YOU BECAUSE HE DOES NOT WANT YOU THERE. HE ONLY TALKS TO YOU AS THAT IS HIS JOB.

I'm being blunt because i think you need it, but i'm genuinely sorry that you are living your life like this - please get the help you need x

There will be your tribe out there who want to be with you for you and not your gifts, but this is not the person.

HE DOESN'T WANT YOU AT THE MEET AND THAT IS WHY HE HASN'T ASKED YOU.

You're not listening to any of us.
Stop giving money to and interacting with this person. They are a scammer. How much more plain can we all be about it?

Is it Iain Lee? If so beware of dick pics!

How old is your son?

This is a very worrying thread.

The very definition on an obsessive love disorder is to keep in contact with the subject of your affections. Ignoring personal boundaries. Behaving in a controlling manner with the person you love. Feeling extreme jealousy of other relationships the person you love might have with others.

I think this describes you OP.

Sadly the OP is not engaging with any of us. OP I hope that you are continuing with professional help for your mental health. (This was mentioned up thread). You know that you need to emerge into the actual world don’t you. Good luck.,

Please, please get some medical help

You know I'd never heard of this until Mumsnet opened my eyes!!
To me it feels like being scammed - only the other way around - you are encouraged to send money or gifts in return for someone giving you a bit of attention or 'friendship' You are buying this person's friendship.
In the real world real friends want you for your company and friendship and don't charge you a few quid for doing so. Real friendship comes without obligations of any kind. This is such a bizarre concept - perhaps a real friend would tell this person in the kindest way possible - get a job and stop leeching off strangers.

You’ve already been talked into sending him nudes OP so don’t say you only like him as a friend. He’s completely using you.

I know. It's sad though.

Please get help @Flowercandy 🙏