Dating Thread 51 - 2025. New year, new start

[TwistedWonder]

The Rules:
• The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
• Develop a thick skin.
• Do not invest emotionally too soon.
• It's all BS until it actually happens.
• Trust your gut instinct.
• People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your faulT.
• Know your wortH.
• If it's not fun, stop.
• Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.
Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

It's so odd. Maybe they have weird sexting conversations with married women? Maybe it's a "I'm married and never want to meet" code that only cheating married people know about.....?

The hottest 🔥 guy has just liked me and messaged. Yummy 😋 but I rarely go for super hot guys as I find intelligence and humour more attractive. So I would never have liked him myself.

Just seen a man with Paul McCartney as his only photo 🤷‍♀️

Noe as much as I wouldn't say no to Paul’s ££££££ I’m not sure he’s at the stage of needing dating apps - plus I’m sure he’s married

I'm yet to have someone send me a seedy opening message, what am I doing wrong?!😄

I have accepted a couple of likes now on Hinge, no messages yet. A 32-year old and a 49-year old, the main reason for accepting the latter was that he's Irish.. have had such a good experience with my Irish FWB, so wondering if there are more like him!

@PeachyKeane how old is your hot man?

I'm yet to have someone send me a seedy opening message, what am I doing wrong?!😄

I have accepted a couple of likes now on Hinge, no messages yet. A 32-year old and a 49-year old, the main reason for accepting the latter was that he's Irish.. have had such a good experience with my Irish FWB, so wondering if there are more like him!

@PeachyKeane how old is your hot man?

He's smoking 🔥 in some of his photos.... late 30s. Oh dear, have too many I'm juggling atm anyway. Nowhere to fit him in 😅

I'm a sucker for an Irish accent. Or Scottish actually come to that.

@PeachyKeane same, if only there were a dating app only for men with Irish/Scottish accents!

My most disastrous date so far was with a Scottish man so that has put me off a bit, until then I quite liked it. But I'll take Irish anytime.. will have to see if this one messages, especially as Mr Tallirish is still poorly.
You really have a few of them at the moment @PeachyKeane, what's your secret?😁

@oldernotwiserffs Perhaps they should add a filter for this, alongside age, height and other essentials!

I think perhaps because I'm not that bothered 🤔 of course I'm also an incredible catch 😉

I've always got on well and easily with men tbh

I do like it on Hinge when they put a voice clip of themselves. You can tell quite a lot by hearing someone's voice i think. Where we are in the north, I know for example, if someone pronounces "bus" "buzz" I am not going to be attracted to them 😉😁😅

Okay someone from Tinder who I gave my whatsapp number to two weeks ago (he was out of town and I wanted to avoid endless messaging so I told him to drop me a msg on WhatsApp when he's back) has just messaged but on WhatsApp but he has a DIFFERENT NAME?!

This is a massive red flag, isn't it? What else has he lied about?!

Do I challenge him on it or just instantly block and delete?

You click on the 3 dots on top right of the post of the person you want to message, and option ‘PM’ should appear.

Also… you can pay for MN?! 👀

Have you thought about using a paid version of apps where you’re invisible and only swipe on guys/ nobody can message you unless you’ve approved them?

All that sounds deeply annoying and I’m wondering how I’ve escaped it… But now that I think about it, it’s probably by using the above method.

Ask the question. I’ve used my nickname on apps purely because I don’t want people to google, I also use other privacy methods to remain anonymous.

Could be innocent.

@Crushed23 I also use a slightly different variation of my name on the apps as otherwise people could quite easily find me online (LinkedIn etc). I would ask him rather than just block.

@PeachyKeane sounds like all those men certainly see you as a catch!
I also like the voice clip on Hinge, haven't recorded a note myself but have rejected many a man based on that!

No I’ve pays before and found it a waste of money so it’s easier just to delete. And this is on Bumble where they add a compliment to get round the only women can message first.

I only ever reactivate for a couple of weeks at a time tbh. I find the whole thing pretty tedious so I dip in, have a Quick Look and dip out again.

I think unlike most on here, I’m not looking for something casual do the actual pickings are ridiculously slim. Plus the awful cringey messages make good reading in my single ladies WhatsApp group 🤣

Personally I’d see lies in any shape or form as a red flag however I’ve seen some on here say they use a false name on dating apps.

Id feel same as you tbh, it just wouldn’t feel right

Not a nickname - a completely different name.

I'll ask him about it.

I'm not heavily invested and a bit worried that he might be too Type A for me (this is the high flying doctor). Also his height isn't on his profile which usually only means one thing. 😒

Where are all the straight down the line, honest men?! Why do they always have to lie about something?

@Crushed23 how do you see someone's real name on WhatsApp? I would ask him about it purely because I'd be intrigued to know what he will say!

You can put your name on your WhatsApp profile. When you click on the photo it takes you to the profile. That's where his real/fake name is.

He replied to say he uses his middle name on Tinder... then proceeded to tell me he had a dinner meeting this evening and asked how late I stay up, presumably suggesting meeting him afterwards. I go to bed early during the week so it's a No to a late night drink on a Wednesday evening.

@Crushed23 - absolutely, especially at this short notice!