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Boyfriend following "Anti feminist" women on Instagram and twitter

158 replies

Applepop · 06/01/2025 18:31

Would that worry you? We've been together 3 and a half years.
He has only just started following/ sending me stuff from these people.

We are supposed to move in together soon and I'm a little concerned about it, it's not Andrew Tate level ( he says he hates him)
I'm not sure if I can put the accounts on here ?

He's never he has never expressed anything misogynistic to me before

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XChrome · 07/01/2025 20:13

labamba007 · 07/01/2025 19:54

Oh does that mean he pays for everything then? Buys you a house (of course you're on the deeds though) and he can work and pay for everything you need?

From what she's said it sounds like he's a hypocritical cocklodger who doesn't want to pay for himself, let alone for her, yet he champions traditional sex roles. It's good to be King I guess.

Winterskyfall · 07/01/2025 20:14

"He has only just started following/ sending me stuff from these people."

OP he is telling you what he wants from you before you move in. I know you are speaking to him about it but I have to say there is no chance in hell I would let him move in. It's unbelievable that he wants to be anti-feminist yet leech off you at the same time. Looks like he could be the worst type of man who despite believing a woman is inferior he still expects to live off her instead of paying his own way.

whathaveiforgotten · 07/01/2025 21:10

Hilarious that now you're going to the next level he starts to send you content all about how men and women should be in 'traditional' roles... all while he wants to leech if you by moving from his house share into your place while you pay most of the bills 😂

God my vagina would have absolutely sealed itself shut for a variety of reasons!

PhilomenaPunk · 07/01/2025 21:22

Crikeyalmighty · 07/01/2025 18:11

@PhilomenaPunk can I add in 'usually wanting a flash SAH lifestyle but with good holidays and plenty of spending money on tap in exchange for sex, cleaning and cooking - not usually interested in the average gamer bloke on modest money who needs his partner to work - '. often the kind of guy that buys into this shit too

But the funny thing is that it's these 'traditional' women who are earning the big bucks on social media. They call the shots. They are usually the breadwinners. They are cashing in on an ideal that they themselves do not actually practise. And idiots like the OP's boyfriend lap it up. Because in reality what they actually want is a woman that will perform all the 'traditional' women's roles whilst also bringing home the bacon so they can sit on their arses.

I was listening to one podcast where a woman talked about her last relationship where her ex said he wanted a 'traditional' woman who 'understood' the importance of her role in looking after the home, the children and him (including, apparently, sex every night), but he still wanted her to contribute 50/50 to the bills! She asked what she got in exchange for that and he said she would get a man who worked full time. So he has one job and she has five. Fuck that.

PhilomenaPunk · 07/01/2025 21:23

whathaveiforgotten · 07/01/2025 21:10

Hilarious that now you're going to the next level he starts to send you content all about how men and women should be in 'traditional' roles... all while he wants to leech if you by moving from his house share into your place while you pay most of the bills 😂

God my vagina would have absolutely sealed itself shut for a variety of reasons!

Lord give me the confidence of an unemployed man looking for a meal ticket!

Crikeyalmighty · 07/01/2025 22:52

@PhilomenaPunk you are so right-!!

nonbinaryfinery · 07/01/2025 22:54

Do NOT let him move in with you, get rid of him.

Alalalala · 08/01/2025 11:46

@Applepop How did it go?

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