So yeah I'm kinda convinced that I'm going to end up alone. I'm a 33 y/o M who achieved my dream job and living in NYC.. I never had a relationship, I have lots of hobbies, in good shape, good looking, and really trying to go out.... No luck.

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So yeah I'm not desperate for a girlfriend, but I'm pretty much convinced that I'm going to end up alone as a 33 y/o M who never had a real relationship in the past. I Really don't know what to do. I have hobbies, I pay for classes I have interests in, I try to go to social events... In the meanwhile I've been trying to do things on my own like go to movies, dinners, jogs, etc.... I've been trying to talk to girls and just to get to know them but all the girls whose numbers I gotten, never amounted to a single date.
I know I'm suppose to focus on making myself the best version of myself, doing things alone, not to be desperate, and all that..... but tbh I don't feel like its working.
I've tried online dating and that isn't working either, 0 matches. I struggle to even find girls I like and my standards aren't that high.
I just give up.
TL;DR: I'm a 33 y/o M that never had a gf, never had a real kiss and I'm trying so hard to even go on a date and get into a relationship and its useless.

never said I'm all that, but I'm pretty confident with myself and I'm only trying to improve myself.

You are refusing to say if you have ever felt attracted to anyone or what you like in a woman

I'm pretty good at spending 1 on 1 time with people.

The issue isn't that they're not interested. It is that OP is not interested in them

The end

You've dated two girls but never had a kiss? So do you mean you've been on a single date with 2 different girls?

Look mate, not being funny here but if you are good looking, charismatic and socially competent you would have met many women. Something is wrong with your assessment of yourself. I think maybe try a therapist or counsellor just to talk it through. Not to get therapy but to have someone face to face you can get thoughts from

Did your mum post here yesterday?

Well do you fancy women at all? Are you attracted to anyone you meet?

Do you have any female friends?

I think you just need to sign up to an app and date as many women as you can - have one or two dates a week and see how it goes.

What didn't you like about the two women you did go on dates with?
Their looks?
Their personalities?
Their interests?
What they want out of life?
Political views?
You need to decide exactly what you want from a partner and what you can compromise on. Are you not making any matches on online dating because you are too rigid?

Maybe though your target market is off. So perhaps you’re a 7 and you’re aiming for 9s.

I would personally be v put off by anyone trying too hard. Do you try too hard?

Maybe chill and try a few 6s or 7s. They may surprise you.

Is the problem with dating apps that:

A) no one is swiping right on your profile and so you have no matches
B) People swipe right but you don't want to date them
C) in the middle, but you just can't move from the app to a real world date?

are you really short?

So you have women interested in you but none that you think are worthy of you?
Maybe you are aiming too high

Are you a catfish looking for marks on mumsnet?

lol

I doubt this thread is real

I think you could possibly have a different view of yourself than others do. Often friends aren’t completely honest to save hurting your feelings.

I’d park the idea that you’re good looking with charisma as it doesn’t seem to match up with what’s actually happening and it might not be doing you any favours. Good looking people get lots of matches on dating apps and that doesn’t seem to be happening for you. Your charisma isn’t drawing the ladies in either.

I don’t think I’ve heard anyone I like describe themselves as good looking and charismatic, only the ones who aren’t either!

What are your interests? Can you go to a local group or event? You seem to be doing a lot, somethings that level of intensity can be perceived as desperate or intense and you could be giving off those vibes?

Post a pic and we’ll give you our honest opinion 👀

A good looking, charismatic, sociable doctor wouldn’t normally have problems meeting eligible women

Indeed.

A goodish looking single solvent straight male doctor in his thirties in NY should be swimming in so many offers that they can barely breathe.

Something not adding up here ..

Unless you look like George Clooney, I'm out lol

You haven't said what you want from the thread, just posted a statement, no question?

If you are getting women interested in you but you don't consider them good enough, and the women you consider good enough aren't showing an interest in you, then the logical conclusion is that your expectations are out of whack with what you're offering. That's a rough place to be, but not insurmountable. Like others I wonder whether therapy or counselling might help with perspective. You also seem a little vague about what you want from a partner (for example, you said you're looking for both casual and marriage, which seems contradictory). Perhaps the counselling could help you with that, too. It will surely be easier to find happiness when you have a clearer and more realistic idea of what will actually make you happy.