So yeah I'm kinda convinced that I'm going to end up alone. I'm a 33 y/o M who achieved my dream job and living in NYC.. I never had a relationship, I have lots of hobbies, in good shape, good looking, and really trying to go out.... No luck.

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So yeah I'm not desperate for a girlfriend, but I'm pretty much convinced that I'm going to end up alone as a 33 y/o M who never had a real relationship in the past. I Really don't know what to do. I have hobbies, I pay for classes I have interests in, I try to go to social events... In the meanwhile I've been trying to do things on my own like go to movies, dinners, jogs, etc.... I've been trying to talk to girls and just to get to know them but all the girls whose numbers I gotten, never amounted to a single date.
I know I'm suppose to focus on making myself the best version of myself, doing things alone, not to be desperate, and all that..... but tbh I don't feel like its working.
I've tried online dating and that isn't working either, 0 matches. I struggle to even find girls I like and my standards aren't that high.
I just give up.
TL;DR: I'm a 33 y/o M that never had a gf, never had a real kiss and I'm trying so hard to even go on a date and get into a relationship and its useless.

Reading your OP mate I'd say you are gay.....

That's what I'm wondering

Try:

• a wider range of dating apps. Are you a particular religion? Ie if Muslim there are specific Muslim dating apps

No I'm spiritual

• go to meet-up groups based on your hobbies or try a book club
• socialise with your colleagues

I go to meet ups nearly everyday.

• are you looking to date for a while in a casual way or are you looking to date for marriage? If its the second, then be more upfront about your intentions - a man who wants to be in a committed relationship that leads to marriage can make up for a lot of other things that are traditionally seen as harming a man's relationship potential (ie height, wealth).

I want both.

• when you say you have your dream job, what do you do? Does it pay well? Are you on the housing ladder?

I'm a doctor, I make good money.

• When's the last time you were on a date? Have you had any feedback as to why the other person didn't want to continue?

I went on a date about 2 years ago. Well I didn't want to continue. I didn't like her ultimately.

• have your friends offered any insight or given any advice?

I think friends think highly of me and only recommend for me to be positive.

most aren't free, I mean I do stuff with friends but not things I'd want to do in a more intimate or one on one setting

So you've never ever had a relationship or kissed anyone at age 33 but you're sociable, intelligent, good looking, charismatic?

Are you looking for something that doesn't exist?

LOL. That name was totally random, no I'm not gay.

no I'm not

What is it you don’t like about the people you have had dates with? List the issues.

Cinema or eating out is hardly 'intimate' or 'one on one'! Is part of your issue your rigid thinking? Do you never go out with friends to parties or bars or to activities where you just meet people?

Have you even been on a date with a woman where you wanted to continue dating her but she declined?

If so, have any of those women given you any feedback?

Is it your hours as a doctor that might be putting off prospective dates?

I've been going to lots of social meet ups to meet people.

what did you not like about your previous dates?

When I did on line dating I knew I wasn’t really interested in a relationship and so none progressed.

Are you dismissing too early? Are simple things putting you off? What are you looking for?

I didn't want to continue dating any of the girls I was dating. I dated a total of 2 women in my life and didn't really like them ultimately.
no I don't think its my hours

Not wanting to come off sounding rude but if you are as you say good looking then you would be getting hits on online dating. Online dating starts out first off on looks as that's all anyone has to go off. So if you are have decent looking you would be getting initial likes.

If you aren't then maybe you are not as good looking as you think. This maybe means you misjudge many things. Not just your looks.
This isn't trying to be mean. I'm just doing a bad job of trying to say maybe you have a poor read on things: reading social cues, communicating well, being interesting and interested etc

Have you ever fancied a woman?

Doesn't sound you like women that much. 'Standards aren't that high'.

Women are very good at picking up on these things

Perhaps you’re not all that. Are you punching above your weight? Have you figured out what you want and like?

Why sis you come to Mumsnet which is predominantly a British forum?

Are you hopping to meet Samantha from Grimsby or Daphne from Dagenham on here?

I disagree, I go by what people tell me in my life. I am good looking and I do read social cues and communicate well and I'm a pretty sociable person.

Are you bad at spending quality time with people 1:1? Maybe you should start inviting friends (of both sexes) out to casual dinner, comedy gig, movie etc and see if you can develop some deeper friendships. That will help your relationship skills top.

Send us your dating profile and we’ll help you tweak it.

I think perhaps OP just doesn't think k anyone is good enough for him. He isnt attracted to anyone because they're not good enough?