Humiliated by DH

[TheMossEnthusiast]

We were having a lovely dinner out to celebrate my recent promotion and we decided to share a dessert.
I asked for 2 spoons for the dessert but my husband pointed out that there were already two spoons set out on the table.
The waiter (a man) chuckled and left.
I felt so stupid. My DH could have told me when he'd gone. Aibu to feel humiliated?

Yeah YABU. Guessing there is something more going on here?

I think you’re reading way too much into it, and why would he wait to tell you once the waiter had gone to collect the other unneeded spoon?

Seriously?! 🙄

Is this an isolated thing or part of a bigger issue in the relationship as on its own it's really not a big deal?

That's supposed to be humiliating?!? I think you're being very over sensitive.

It's important to be able to laugh at yourself when you have duh moments!

I don’t understand what the problem is here.

This would not be a thing for me. Are there other things going on making you feel undermined?

If he has to continually point out the obvious that's a red flag on OP.

I think I’d have felt more embarrassed if I’d had the waiter bring me the spoons, only to realise afterwards it was a pointless trip. So to me you’re reading far too much into it. Is there more going on?

Yes it's ridiculous to feel humiliated over him pointing that out. Surely you'd just laugh it off?

Why would this be humiliating?

You asked for something that was already there, your DH made you aware, the usual respond would be, "Oh, so it is!" and move on.

I can't imagine even being aware of it outside of that moment - let alone thinking my OH was trying to humiliate me. What would be the point?

Are you generally very reactive and over sensitive?

Or is there something else going on?

Wtf, are you being serious? What a ridiculous thing to get worked up over. Grow a pair and laugh it off like a normal person

You sound really hard work with an overly high sense of self importance.

If that humiliates you then you have an extremely fragile ego.

Is there more to this?

If there isn't I think you are the red flag and your DH must be sick of walking in eggshells.

Most people would feel a bit of a tit but be able to laugh it off.

I don't think piling on the OP is helpful here. This isn't a rational reaction so clearly there is something else going on. OP I hope you're okay.

How was this humiliating? Bringing the pudding and excess spoons would have been odd.

Insanity to think this is humiliating.

I reckon a reverse and you have a volatile husband who thinks you humiliated him…..??

I think you have just felt embarrassed and as a defence, projected anger at your dh. I get that maybe it might have felt condescending ad you were feeling embarrassed, but I don't think he meant it and humiliated does sound a little dramatic.

How is that humiliating?

Not a healthy response to feel humiliated over this OP. Congrats on your promotion btw!

Eh is there a back story?

The waiter was a twat, you're a little over sensitive. Is there more going on with your relationship with your husband or are you seeking attention?

Humiliated is a rather strong reaction