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Humiliated by DH

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TheMossEnthusiast · 05/01/2025 19:40

We were having a lovely dinner out to celebrate my recent promotion and we decided to share a dessert.
I asked for 2 spoons for the dessert but my husband pointed out that there were already two spoons set out on the table.
The waiter (a man) chuckled and left.
I felt so stupid. My DH could have told me when he'd gone. Aibu to feel humiliated?

OP posts:

applebee33 · 06/01/2025 19:40

Oh give it over ffs 🤦‍♀️

WeCanOnlyDoOurBest · 06/01/2025 19:47

arethereanyleftatall · 05/01/2025 20:54

So. You made a mistake. We all do it, and it matters nothing. But your solution to it was that the waiter should completely waste his time bringing duplicate spoons to the table rather than it be pointed out? That's really entitled of you,

arethereanyleftatall…
“That’s really entitled of you”… that is a nasty statement, and a completely unhelpful thing to say to OP.
I don’t think for a moment OP was even thinking about the fact that the waiter would waste time bringing spoons. Yes her reaction of feeling humiliated was OTT, and clearly unusual, but not for a moment did her actions demonstrate a sense of entitlement from her.
Let’s remember, first and foremost we should offer support, let us all think of ways to help, it wasn’t necessary to take the knife out of the block and OP’s post didn’t warrant that level of vitriol.

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