Humiliated by DH

[TheMossEnthusiast]

We were having a lovely dinner out to celebrate my recent promotion and we decided to share a dessert.
I asked for 2 spoons for the dessert but my husband pointed out that there were already two spoons set out on the table.
The waiter (a man) chuckled and left.
I felt so stupid. My DH could have told me when he'd gone. Aibu to feel humiliated?

What's really going on because this isn't about spoons?

To your DH - "Oh, thank you for showing me DH. I hadn't noticed them up to now."
To the departing waiter - "No need - DH has shown me that there are already spoons hiding behind the water jug on the table."

Then move on.

Maybe it’s a reverse? And DH has freaked out by OP pointing spoons out…

Normally people laugh off duh moments so I'm guessing there are underlying issues - or are you normally over sensitive? Any other examples?

How did he say it? Is this a one-off or a bit of a pattern?

Why on earth would you be humiliated by that?! I would have laughed at myself

Honestly what's the big deal? There were already 2 spoons so your DH was right to point it out.

Most of us would gave said Duh! So there is!
and thought absolutely no more of it.

I think the waiter laughing at you probably didn’t help but it would be unfair to blame your DH. Did he speak to you condescendingly like you were three or was he using his normal tone of voice and expression?

If there is a backstory it would help if you share it.

That isn’t humiliation! He was just pointing out something you may have missed and not giving the waiter an extra job.

Seriously OP this is a non issue minus 1000.

Huge back story?

If not then YABU and hugely sensitive.

The waiter was wrong to snigger but if this isn’t something your husband does regularly I don’t think it’s too bad, after all there would have been no point in saying it after the waiter had left and gone to get another spoon

Oversensitive much?

I’m amazed some MN’s manage to get out of bed in the morning.

OP what made it humiliating? I'm not dismissing you but as an isolated thing, said politely or in good humour, humiliation is a very strong reaction.

If he said it in an overly piss taking way, scathing, or making a big deal of it, or picks up on your every tiny error, that may be different.

It was, I think the right thing to do to point it out as it saved the waiter a job and you didn't need to massively save face, you may have easily missed them, but in a kind way.

Are you a drama queen. Your poor husband.

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..................................nope. There's so little in that, I can't think of anything to say about it.

I honestly don’t understand the issue

YABU if nothing else is going on. Is it?

Based on your OP...yabu and there is nothing to be humiliated by.

But I am guessing that to be pissed off about something seemingly trivial there is more at play?

This is just a normal, non-event, in life.

Why is this humiliating? Why ruminate over this much later? This is a huge overreaction.

Nothing wrong with your husband pointing it out and don’t know why the waiter being a man makes a difference. You are being way too sensitive

Posting this non event on here is more humiliating than the non event itself.

Has he done many things which have upset you @TheMossEnthusiast?

This is a joke, right? I hope.

Oh how I wish the worst thing that someone ever said to me was that they pointed out there were already spoons on the table.