Humiliated by DH

[TheMossEnthusiast]

We were having a lovely dinner out to celebrate my recent promotion and we decided to share a dessert.
I asked for 2 spoons for the dessert but my husband pointed out that there were already two spoons set out on the table.
The waiter (a man) chuckled and left.
I felt so stupid. My DH could have told me when he'd gone. Aibu to feel humiliated?

I think this promotion has gone to your head stop being such a knob

Non event. What’s really wrong OP?

My DH could have told me when he'd gone.

No, in this situation he was right to tell you before the waiter had gone to save him the trip.

It's very unusual to be humiliated by something like that. Did he say it in a very mean way? Do you have social anxiety?

I don't get why it's humiliating. I also don't get why the waiter laughed.
You didn't notice the spoons. That's not embarrassing. You asked for spoons. Not embarrassing. Your husband pointed them out. Also not embarrassing.

I don't get why waiter thought it was funny. There must be more to it?

Sharing a dessert is quite romantic some think .
Or others might think "No get your own bloody dessert "

My DH would;ve said "or why don't we just use the two spoons that are already here then"?
I wouldn;t have felt humiliated . Might've said "Ahh the ones you've hidden" ? and made a joke of it .

Are you a journalist fishing for a Daily Mail article?

Lighten up and learn to laugh at yourself.

You need to fill us in. Does your DH often belittle you in public? Or is this a reverse?

sounds like he was just trying to be funny, but failed.
ignore all the man haters who make out there’s SO MUCH MORE TO THIS and LEAVE HIM NOW.

You sound really entitled if you wanted the waiter to point it out instead, or for the waiter to get another spoon for no reason? Your husband was just trying to save the waiter unnecessary work - you didn’t notice the waiter already gave multiple spoons.

This is such an absolute non-event. What has gone on in the background to lead you to view this as humiliation?

Then she needs to say so in her OP? We aren’t mind readers

You really need to work on your self esteem if you think the example you gave was a put down leading you to feel humiliated.

You hope she’s ok? Seriously?!

I'd imagine it was just a polite chuckle like staff members due in shops etc also. Often the customer does a chuckle even though it's not funny...like a 'oh silly me' reaction and then the staff member does the same back.

The absolute bastard, pointing out a statement of fact, get the lawyers in.

Yes, a normal reaction to someone who is distressed and behaving irrationally is concern.

You are clearly a very sensitive person.

I wouldn’t have given something like that a second thought!

Maybe he wanted to save the waiter having to go get some when you already had them? Couldn’t get worked up about this unless there is a huge back story.

Does that mean < grow a pair of balls like a man>?

I hate being wrong. Like narcissistic level hate being wrong, particularly in front of strangers. However even I wouldn’t feel humiliated by this. I think this might be a you issue.

Other people have managed to consider that there's possibly (probably?) more going on. It hardly requires a mind reader.

You have got to be joking 😂

At face value, all seems OK but I wonder if the humiliation was all in the tone of voice and body language. E.g. if your husband rolled his eyes and shared a look with the waiter as if to say 'women are so silly' and then the waiter laughed, then I could understand feeling humiliated.

Unless there’s a huge drip feed coming, I cannot possibly see that this is a reason to be humiliated