Humiliated by DH

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We were having a lovely dinner out to celebrate my recent promotion and we decided to share a dessert.
I asked for 2 spoons for the dessert but my husband pointed out that there were already two spoons set out on the table.
The waiter (a man) chuckled and left.
I felt so stupid. My DH could have told me when he'd gone. Aibu to feel humiliated?

It sounds very minor, OP.

Is there a bigger thing worrying you?

YABU

This is a joke, isn’t it?

Might be a reverse?

Did he say it in a mean or mocking tone? Why do you think it was humiliating?

what??!!!!

It's obviously part of a bigger picture.

Whether that picture is him continually mocking you, or you being oversensitive remains to be seen.

This is a non event on its own.

I wonder if your partner will make a post. "My OH is upset about a spoon".

Is this real?

In what world is this humiliating??

Did you really want the waiter to go and waste his time bringing you spoons that were already there?

Why would your DH pretend he didn’t see them and not say anything?

I’m not sure what the relevance of the waiter being a man is.
I too would have chuckled and walked off.

What did you expect him to do?
Shake his head and scold you like a child?

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You wanted two spoons. You had two spoons. Your DH told you about the two spoons, confirming you had what you wanted and saving someone an unnecessary trip to collect an unneeded spoon. Where's the issue?

Yes I think it is.

There have been at least 2/3 threads today which are highly likely to be reverses/trolls.

I think that counts as a little jokey spouse ribbing episode, tongue in cheek and unless there is a back story. it sounds pretty innocent to me. So yes, I think you are being over sensitive.

He’s not humiliating you, he’s just stating a fact. If your ego is so precious that you can’t handle that you make tiny mistakes then you need some extensive therapy.

OP you are absolutely allowed to feel how you feel. None of us here can truly know how he said it, the wider context, etc.

Listen to that voice of yours inside, it’s telling you something. Either there’s more to the story with DH, or it reminded you of something from your past.

Do you feel like you can discuss it with your DH?

This is a wind up, surely?

Absolutely feel like this isn't about this at all. For this to be humiliating, there would have to be something fundamentally embarrassing about not spotting the spoons that were already there. There isn't. You just didn't spot them. Husband pointed them out, waiter smiled, end of encounter. Unless your husband and the waiter were both literally pointing and laughing their tits off at you, I'm not seeing the opportunity for humiliation.

You must be mortified.

Hardly humiliating OP.

(We've only shared a dessert once in our nearly 50 years of marriage; I just knew he'd drawn an imaginary line across it - his face when I put my spoon in his half...)

Snap out of it op and grow up.

No, I wouldn't have felt humiliated. Surely it's a case if "oh yes, so they're are, ha ha" and move swiftly on?

What a strange post, especially the “The waiter (a man)” bit. YABU unless there is more to this as I can’t believe you’ve got this far in life being so sensitive

This incident wouldn’t register as an incident in our marriage.

Seriously?
Get a grip