Hubby brought up the "body count" question. Should I lie? After years, I don't know what's worse?!

[AthenaGals01]

As title, I'm not ashamed but I have no idea anymore these days what counts as "high", fear I am even though with him a while (faithfully)! Don't know how to respond? What have you all said?

He didn't actually mean how many people you've killed did he? Are you both assassins and it's a performance review. Or is he leading up to a confession that he's been killing people. It's quite worrying, to be honest.

We all have a past personally I don't think any good can come of discussing numbers and if it gets into the nitty gritty of what did you get up to that can cause problems.

That's because it is - more sexual partners is associated with all kinds of negative behaviours and characteristics such as drink, drugs and poor mental health.

So the OP’s DH is asking a diagnostic question? Right.

I think I would say unless he thinks either of your numbers have changed since you married there’s no need to discuss it.

IDK, you'd have to ask him what his motives are.

In 25 years married my ex and I never discussed this - either his ‘number’ or mine. I haven’t with current partner either. Not important and no one’s business.

I hope this relationship works out. Pretty creepy at 25 but if you're single again and still looking for "virgins" as an older man you have no chance. Most women will get a very serial killery vibe from you. You know that though, don't you.

I’m 35 and would have no interest in a virgin. My ex husband was when I met him, never again.

Can’t understand why in adulthood anyone would be seeking it out. I’d also think it was strange if anyone got to my age and was one - where‘ve they been!

How does numbers equate to risky sexual behaviour? You could sleep with 50 people safely or someone could sleep with 2 with no protection. The only question you need to ask is are you up to date on your sexual health testing

Are you Andrew Tate? 😂

You mean Lily Phillips.

Most women (I’m assuming) wouldn’t be having sex with 30 year old virgin males. My ex was 25 at the time and that was weird enough.

I’m fairly sure male models manage to find sexual partners perfectly fine, and overweight women definitely can and do end up in long term relationships.

Now that we’ve covered some of that ridiclousnesness - what are you doing on Mumsnet?

Good lord, this is disgusting. I’m surprised you managed to convince someone to be with you.
You see women as property, as objects, basically, and you don’t see anything wrong with that? Ok. Move along. You’re absolutely repulsive.

Wife up 😂

You’re either 17, or brainwashed.

I'd just tell him it's not something you want to discuss. You don't care about who he was with before you because that's the past. You only care about being the only one since you got together and in the present and future.

I’ve had a lot of sexual partners and not ashamed of it nor regret it. I also have a professional job, my own house, only drink socially (preferably Bollinger),, don’t smoke, don’t do drugs and have good metal health.

None of the above things relate to the number of people l’ve had sex with.

Because if you’ve slept with 50 people you don’t know them well - it shows very poor judgment to willingly put yourself in a very vulnerable position, alone in a private place with a man you don’t know well.
I’m not a believer that all men are awful frightening creatures, I often defend them on here but even I can see that is dangerous - you can’t guarantee safe sex as a woman we can protect against pregnancy only it is only men who protect from infection and can you trust a relative stranger to do that? I know I wouldn’t it’s not hard to take of condom without a woman noticing.

No nice guy I know would ask.
Ask him 'do you write a list?'

Also what counts does a blow job but not piv? It's such a weird question and no answer would they 'like' if it's above 3

Only if you married in your early 20s! After that it's fucking rude to ask and anyone asking would give me the giant ick.

”If your a respected business man”. “Your”?????? Your what?

lt would appear that you want a trophy woman by your side. What about if you’re a respected business woman. First and foremost you want someone who treats you as an equal by your side.

lt would seem to me that you don’t regard women as equal and you find confident assertive women frightening. MN is not the place to be disrespectful to women or their sexuality. There is another site, quite famous of late, for that, which would suit you better.