Domestic abuse but nowhere to go?

[Chloe8909]

My boyfriend is extremely abusive, but I have nowhere to go if I leave
I have a dog too. It has got really bad recently,I have had black eyes and bruises all over but I have no idea what I can do

On Christmas day I took too long walking my dog,so he held me under a cold shower

I had my own apartment before we met but he convinced me to move in with him. I have been so stupid
I don't have much contact with friends anymore and no contact at all with my parents.
He stopped all contact with my family after he asked my dad for a loan for a business and my dad said no. He know my dad has plenty of money,so took this really badly.

I cannot contact my mum or dad for help as I haven't spoken to them for months and bf texted them pretending to be me telling them I want nothing to do with them and many awful things.

I'm stuck with nowhere to go. I can't leave my dog
He's away for a stag do until late Sunday
What can I do ? Just try and save a little money to leave eventually?

I know it's late but I cannot sleep

Hey I hope you're OK. This sounds truly awful. Please contact womens aid - also check out their website. Do you work? If so you're going to be just fine.
Speak with womens aid and reach our to your parents and explain everything- they will understand.
Now seems a good time to leave if I'm honest. It's only going to get worse! Any children?

Contact your parents. They won’t care that you’ve not been in contact. Tell them the truth.

Also/or, contact women’s crises lines.

Contact Women's Aid. They have safe housss. Now, while he is away, is the ideal time to leave. Alternatively call rbe police while he is away.

If you were my daughter I would want you to call me in this situation, and I'd move heaven and earth to help you and keep you safe.

Call your parents.

I'm so sorry you are going through this OP. Agree with PP, please ring your parents and talk to them and ask for help. Ideally tomorrow before he returns. Is going to them and staying an option, or do you have a good friend who can help?

I do work yes,no children.
I would love to contact my parents but I feel awful about what has been said

My parents have plenty of space for me to stay, but not sure if they'd want me now after everything. We were very close before

Your parents will be overjoyed to have you home. Please call or text them.

But you weren’t the one who said it! If you were my DD, I would want you safely home with me no matter what might have been sent from your phone in the past. Please, please give your parents a chance to forgive you and help you.

I would take the chance OP and talk to them. If you were close before they will probably leap at the chance to help you. I would assume that they already suspect things are not quite right in your relationship.

This, your parents are probably waiting for you to see through the a-hole and come back to them.

Women's aid and the police. Get out of there ASAP writing this shows you're ready for a new life. Lots of love from Dublin xxxx

You weren’t the one who said those things to your parents though. Tell them the truth, I’m sure they would have you home.

Oh OP, please contact your parents and tell them the truth. If I was your mum, I wouldn't care what had been said previously or who had said it. I would just want to keep my beloved daughter safe, and I would do anything and everything to help you.

You're their child and they love you. They will want to help. But women's aid or the police will also help if you don't feel ready to contact your parents yet. When are you back at work. Do you have a supportive boss that you could confide in?

Call your parents right now. My sister was in this situation and after months of him messaging us horrible messages on her phone, she called and we answered. She text at 1am and we were there.

Call your parents, please. All they can say is no (and they won't). Failing that, the police.

Before this man kills you.

Please do contact your Mum and Dad @Chloe8909

As a parent, there is absolutely nothing that my children could do that would stop me from loving and always being there for them.

You say you were close, trust me, they will know that your relationship was not perfect and they will be hoping that you will reach out. Contact them first thing.

You're awake, so pack up all your belongings and leave before he comes back.

Thank you For all the messages. My parents don't know I didn't send all those messages.
I would love to contact my family and go home,I'm just scared that they will be angry with me

Did you have have a suspicion that she didn't send those messages?

Please contact your parents and tell them the truth, even if it's really hard.

I have an old friend in a bad relationship, and even though she has done some bad things because of him, I would jump at the chance to help her escape from him. We all would.

Go back to your parents whilst shithead is away.im sure your parents will be devastated at how you've been living and what you've endured.

Contact your parents, explain the situation. If that was my daughter I would understand and you would be welcomed back. Your parents will likely already have an inkling it wasn't you/you were influenced by him. Do it tomorrow - contact them and get somewhere safe.

Please, please, please contact your parents and tell them the truth ie that you are living with a violent, dangerous man who has physically attacked you. Your parents will want to help you, it's likely that they already know something is very wrong.
My friend ended up in hospital with broken ribs and a punctured lung because of a violent abusive partner, please, please get away from him before he does this (or worse!) to you x

If you were my daughter I'd want you to come to me and I would bring you home in a heartbeat.

I'm sure they have been desperately hoping you would call.

It is classic abuse to deliberately isolate you from anyone you love or who loves you. I'm sure you know deep down that when abusers physically, mentally and emotionally abuse things are not going to improve.
Please leave this abusive man this weekend before he comes back on Sunday and takes your dog with you.
You say you were close to your parents. They won't abandon you. How far away do they live? If you can, go now, tonight. If not go in the morning.
I can't think of any reason they wouldn't help you, especially when they know it was he, not you who sent the abusive messages. Even if he has made you send them, caring parents will understand you were under his control.
Hopefully you can have your dog there as well or in a refuge if not going to them. If no one can take the dog you can put him in kennels until you make your mind up about whether you can keep him or maybe a friend can help you out with this temporarily. If you have to re-home him eventually it is still better than either of you staying with this cruel. Man. It is hard I know but you would be doing him a kindness rather than staying. There is no advantage what so ever in for either of you in staying because of the dog. As you've had a good relationship with your parents before him, I'm sure they would welcome you both with open arms. If you are working you will be ok financially and there are top up benefits if you need them for housing later. If you are not working you will receive money to support you. If your parents can't help ring the police to get you out and into a refuge. If they won't help (I think they legally have to) go to a Premier Inn for the weekend and declare yourself homeless and in danger of violent abuse on Monday when Social and County offices open. Get out while you can this weekend. Good luck going forward