Guy asked me my religion within 15 mins of first date! Bin him?

[LaBrasseria2024]

Hi all,

Dipped my toe in OLD about a year ago. It's been a year lol. 32 female.

I went on a date with a guy a few weeks back.

Perhaps my post would be better in Craicnet (I'm N.I)

The guy asked me within 15 mins of the date if I was a particular religion ( his religion) obviously hoping that I was.

I just think it's a bit rude and a touchy subject in N.I, especially one a first date.

I wouldn't dream of asking someone this as I don't feel it's appropriate and it doesn't matter to me. I wasn't brought up like that!

I brushed it under the carpet as I wouldn't want an argument on the first date. Apart from that we got on and I found other things he said very funny.

We have texted quite a bit since, second date arranged, but I had to cancel due to being sick.

But it has played on my mind he felt it okay to ask me this. He is a 35 year old man and should know better, ffs!

Am I being oversensitive? Or should I throw this one back?

Why do you have to have the same religious beliefs to date?

Yeah. Like what school you went to 😁

I'd suggest it's more the other way round.

If he's not religious, why did he need to ask that? There's far more subtle ways of finding out, if you care!

Exactlyyyyy lol

Well, my gf was catholic my gm was reformative church. This was over 100 years ago. Controversial at the time, but that was 100+ years ago. Just weird to ask especially in NI. It’s 2024 not 1924.

"Normal"??

That's quite offensive!!

It's got nothing to do with religion and everything to do with background (I.e. Nationalist or unionist).

I don't know why you are commenting on this thread as you clearly haven't a clue

@Ladyoatcookies - yes exactly! Similar to Glasgow, lots of sectarianism from people who are not even religious!

Yep. Extremely offensive.

@OchonAgusOchonOh -exactly. If there is a certain amount of bigotry, his attitude is probably similar to his friends/family. So I wouldn't exactly ever recieve a warm welcome from them! What would be the point in us dating I guess

How do I get it moved to Craicnet?

Yes, but nowadays, fewer people care about that shit.

I think u report ur first post

Some pretty offensive posts on here! How do I report?

I’m from NI, although I moved away a long time ago, I do understand the issue. My main concern would be thinking he was a bit thick rather than sectarian, as surely everyone in NI can ascertain someone’s background very quickly without asking directly? What school did you go to, what sports to you watch/play etc etc. Although I was brought up JW which used to confuse people! I was asked once if I was a Protestant JW or a Catholic one once, although that was in primary school. I would think an adult asking so directly was a bit crass at least.

I won't sin my soul two days before the big day...happy Christmas you ignorant pr*ck, hope Santa brings you a bit of wit

ill-informed and provocative response @ThatWarmQuoter you've just proven you are "not normal".

The goddamn tragedy that was perpetrated!!

I'm not from NI, but my best friend moved there about fifteen years ago and I have some idea of how fraught conversations about religion can be. If you're not comfortable with him then I would probably move on!

This, very much so.

I wouldn’t date someone that was overly religious as I’m an atheist and our values wouldn’t align for me and I imagine it could cause tensions.

That's even more offensive.

I would just say I'm an atheist but then they ask if you're a Protestant or a Catholic atheist 😀

I'm from NI so I get it. I can understand why some people ask and if that's important to them then they can crack on.

But for me if they ask in a way that flags up that it's important to them then they're not my kind of person.

P.S. I'm single OP 😀