Guy asked me my religion within 15 mins of first date! Bin him?

[LaBrasseria2024]

Hi all,

Dipped my toe in OLD about a year ago. It's been a year lol. 32 female.

I went on a date with a guy a few weeks back.

Perhaps my post would be better in Craicnet (I'm N.I)

The guy asked me within 15 mins of the date if I was a particular religion ( his religion) obviously hoping that I was.

I just think it's a bit rude and a touchy subject in N.I, especially one a first date.

I wouldn't dream of asking someone this as I don't feel it's appropriate and it doesn't matter to me. I wasn't brought up like that!

I brushed it under the carpet as I wouldn't want an argument on the first date. Apart from that we got on and I found other things he said very funny.

We have texted quite a bit since, second date arranged, but I had to cancel due to being sick.

But it has played on my mind he felt it okay to ask me this. He is a 35 year old man and should know better, ffs!

Am I being oversensitive? Or should I throw this one back?

I should have phrased it - you are neither Irish nor Northern Irish/British by default when you are born in Northern Ireland - you can choose to be either (or even both).

@StrawberryDream24
Legally, you are a British citizen by birth (assuming eligible via parents). So British by default it seems.

You can pay to revoke this if you wish.

You are also eligible for, and can pay, to get an Irish passport. You’re not automatically an Irish citizen, you need to do this.

You can then hold both Irish and British citizenship if you wish.

To compare, people born in ROI are automatically Irish citizens by birth (again assuming eligibility via parents).

That is not correct. If you are born in NI you can be Irish without doing anything. You do not need to get a passport to be Irish.

Irish citizenship is not automatic though. You have to "claim" it. You don't have to claim British citizenship because it is automatically given.

Ah, so I was initially correct.

The legal analysis I linked a few posts back says “Northern Irish born persons are not considered automatically Irish”.

That is the legal position, the GFA notwithstanding.

I agree with you that it should be otherwise. The fact remains that it’s not.

Exactly.