Cheating help - do I tell her again?

[Mamaofone20232023]

So I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months, we talk everyday, see eachother sporadically and he’s told me he’s single, turns out, I don’t think he is?
my friend messaged his girlfriend on Facebook ( profile picture with them together) and said I think your boyfriends cheating, she then deleted her Facebook.

He still swears he’s single and that it’s over between them two but they’re still living together.. he’s still seeing me on a regular basis, we message everyday but his texts die down after work and on weekends - I believe they’re still together, do I let her know again that he’s still cheating?

I said way back in the thread that I would leave it until after Christmas. Regardless of her situation. Christmas wasn’t a thought in your head? It’s in three days and you have a kid, you know when Christmas is. You could have waited a few days and you didn’t, that’s your choice. But don’t pretend you didn’t know this would be setting off a bomb at Christmas time.

I can’t even remember reading let alone replying to a message about Christmas time. No it didn’t cross my mind though even though I have a child because he told me he was single and I wanted to believe that.

to be fair I’m not sure why I’m justifying myself to you, because really my Christmas is also important and I don’t owe them both anything, I have my own happiness to think about and I can now go forward and have a lovely Christmas and new year myself, their problems are their problems, I don’t have any problems now 🤷🏼‍♀️

I never said your Christmas wasn’t important. But recognising that you’re the side piece and exploding someone else’s Christmas thoughtlessly is sad. You’ve both been played by him, I would have given her the next few days respite. You don’t have to justify yourself to me, or anyone, I would have just done it differently, which I’m allowed to say.

I agree you’ve nothing to feel guilty about. It appears this woman knows her partner is a cheat anyway, if shes been contacted before via social media about her boyfriend, then she ended up blocking or deactivating her account.

By the sounds of it she wasn’t even that surprised to hear about you or she’d be asking tonnes of questions or asking to get on a call like most women would if they were finding out for the first time they were being cheated on.

The fact that he tried to contact you immediately after to continue his lies may also indicates he’s not particularly bothered about her finding out. I suspect this is because she’s just sadly putting up with it. I doubt this will affect her Christmas to find out he’s with yet another woman.

Now was a good time as any to find out for certain.