Cheating help - do I tell her again?

[Mamaofone20232023]

So I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months, we talk everyday, see eachother sporadically and he’s told me he’s single, turns out, I don’t think he is?
my friend messaged his girlfriend on Facebook ( profile picture with them together) and said I think your boyfriends cheating, she then deleted her Facebook.

He still swears he’s single and that it’s over between them two but they’re still living together.. he’s still seeing me on a regular basis, we message everyday but his texts die down after work and on weekends - I believe they’re still together, do I let her know again that he’s still cheating?

Oh no! At least you found out, and at least you know you weren't being paranoid so your instincts are spot on.

You think you really fell for him, but the person you fell for doesn't exist - he's just a piece of shit x

What’s he been saying?! Is he still trying to deny it all, or has he at least tried to be honest?!

I just let her know who I was, my name and I said I’d been seeing for the last 6 months, explained that I knew they were living together but he’d said he was single, I mentioned how he disappeared on an evening and a weekend.

she said that they were still together and they were expecting their first baby in June, she also thought he was still messing around but that that she wants to try and move forward for their baby.

I completely respect her reply, both will never hear from me again, all I could do was wish her good luck and I sent a few recommendations from what I found helpful in the weeks after birth

He’s admitted it, said they’re still not together but she will remain living there to be a part of the baby’s life. She’s said otherwise and that they’re still together and she wants to move forward.

all I can do is respect her now, he’s lost all my respect but she’s innocent and vulnerable

No OP, more fool you.

This poor woman must have no self respect and is utterly desperate. It’s bizarre she’s talking about “moving forward” while he’s still putting it about with you and others, but anyway that’s her business and not for you to concern yourself with.

Well done for walking away and closing the door.

Strive to be better and smarter next time and to not ignore the red flags.

I was talking to a guy once and during the first conversation he was vague about his living situation. I kept digging and the minute he mentioned he lived with his “ex” I blocked him. I didn’t ask any questions or try and hear him out it was a straight block and I’m glad I did. I knew I’d be signing myself up to a life of deception and smooth talking if I went any further.

Steer clear of men like this. He is a cheat and a liar, remember - you’ve had a complete fraud in your living space where you child is.

Men like this are very dangerous, they lie about their whole life, so you don’t really know them at all. I treat them like unhinged strangers. Block and stay away.

I hope you’re able to block this vile man tonight. Don’t delay!

Love bombed? Is that code for you can't make your own decisions, women can't blame men when they can't think for themselves

You made your choice own it and stop seeing him and work on your self respect

How could you be bothered with all that drama.
Get shot of him,block , move on.

So sorry to read this OP and you’re so kind to offer tips to this mum to be 🥰

You sound like a wonderful person with honest good and true values. He’s taken you for a ride but perhaps he was what you needed to stabilise yourself and now you know, you’re better off without him.

It’s a good lesson for the future, spotting cheaters. Painful but necessary.

Good luck with mending your broken heart and perhaps at some point finding someone much much better. X

If you're honest you know it's likely they're together and your goal in contacting her is to split them up, so he comes running to you.

If she's been told once, why else would you tell her again? I'm pretty sure it's not her that you're concerned about......otherwise you wouldn't be shagging someone who you suspect to be her partner

Hope all goes well for you x

You cannot read the 10-foot high writing on the wall, or you are deiberately looking the other way.
You are being utterly selfish. End it until you know the full picture. You are the OW, probably just one of many.

@CyranoDeBergerQuack
It's very easy to filter to just the OPs posts. You'd then see this has moved on already

A girl he's living with? You've been saying a year and you've never been to his house?

I asked her and I now have the full picture, she’s 3 months pregnant with their first baby and she wants to move forward with the relationship for the baby.

hes said they’re not together even though he now knows I know about the baby but I’ve cut all contact with him now, onwards and upwards for me

Yes that’s exactly what I was saying but she’s 3 months pregnant with his baby I found out so he’s now history.

Well I did contact her and she’s pregnant. 3 months to be exact so it answered my question didn’t it about them still being together. He’s now history time and the only thing is I wish her well and healthy baby

Christ, that poor woman. What a dick - not just cheating, but cheating on his pregnant partner.

He’s admitted it, said they’re still not together but she will remain living there to be a part of the baby’s life. She’s said otherwise and that they’re still together and she wants to move forward.

He's not really admitted it tho has he? He's been caught out as you now know they were still a couple and having sex 3 months ago.
She's saying they're still a couple now and he's denying it.

He's not admitting anything other than the parts he can no longer lie about (as it would be biologically impossible).

No you’re right in what you have written however it doesn’t matter what he is saying to me because I’ve ended it, quite obviously they were still sleeping together, a baby is now on its way due to this and I’m not going to be part of anything anymore.
ive removed myself from this situation now and it’s done, it’s what I said I would do if I found out he was lying and he is and I’ll never speak to the man again 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yaaaaaay

I’m sorry for both of you, probably more for her being pregnant and hearing this three days before Christmas, I would have held off on contacting her for a few more days. Definitely block and focus on your future.

I’m sorry I didn’t time my message around the Christmas holidays? I didn’t expect a pregnancy and I was hoping for a response that said they weren’t together if I’m completely honest. Christmas wasn’t even a thought in my head why would it?

hopefully he will now focus on her and make the rest of her pregnancy an enjoyable one or at least the best it can be given the circumstances. She doesn’t need to worry about me and I did say that to her that even if their relationship was to end tomorrow I wouldn’t even look in his direction due to the lies and deception, I hope she can take my word for it and know I’m not interested anymore.

whether he can remain loyal to her now? That’s a him and her problem and I hope he can but I can’t stop him, I can just ensure I’m no part of it