Would you tell his wife

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Colleague that I don't work with now. Told me his marriage was over. Confessed feelings for me..slept with me twice. Ghosted me. Wife still seems in married bliss on Facebook.

Work friend showed me messages of him chasing her. But she's also informed me that another woman is debating telling his wife about a thing with her too.

Would you message the wife or let karma deal with it.

Karma...

Tell her.

This lying, cheating, awful man is pretty much the town fucking pole - everyone is swinging off his dick.

She needs an STI test, urgently.

I'm sorry he lied to you also, OP. What a shit he is, to all of you.

100% this - the poor wife deserves to know she’s married to the local alley cat who dips his dick into anyone who stands still long enough.

I agree, always tell.

Well I would as she deserves to know.
But you aren't going to come off well, you knowingly slept with a married man? Separated is not divorced. Next time I'd suggest digging a little deeper to make sure they are eg, no longer living in the same house.

Don’t say anything. It’s highly unlikely she doesn’t know already given how prolific he is.

Of course you tell her!

This drives me nuts. We see so many women here every week, with stories about how they've discovered their husbands cheating etc, and for months, maybe even YEARS. We need to show more solidarity and LESS pearl clutching, because you might well be the bearer of bad news, but your knowing and not saying anything, is really cowardly.

I really wouldn't want to get involved with the kind of drama that would involve in telling her.

I'd tell the wife if you can. I wouldn't want to get involved in anyone else's fallout, so I'd probably do it anonymously. She could turn on you and you don't need that
Sorry this happened to you, steer clear of married men they're usually lying when they say their marriage is over. Especially if they still live together, they should get their shit sorted if that's the case before they look elsewhere

He's played you, he's playing his wife, getting involved with a married man never normally ends well... classis scenario here where he is living a double life, pretending to his current lover he is a man in an unhappy marriage thats over, whilst playing happy families at home! I feel sorry for his wife.

You could tell her, but just be prepared that you may not come off well in this scenario either.

He played you and you fell for it. Tell the wife, I would want to know

Are you doing it out of spite, or because you genuinely feel for her being cheated on?

I can’t understand how people can do this, knowing another person will get hurt. Right before Christmas too 😔

That poor woman. No sympathy for either of you, just this poor woman. Hope no kids are involved here.

Wait until the new year if you’re going to

I think consider why you fell for the oldest trick in the cheats script and was happy to jump into a bed that wasn’t even cold?

Are you wanting to tell her out of genuine concern or spite?

“Slept with me” - and you’d no part in it, no?

It sounds like you’re annoyed at him and want to punish him via his wife. You didn’t give a shit about her when you slept with him, twice, so why ruin her Christmas?

Tell her!!

Yes tell her. What she does with the information is up to her, but she has the right to know her husband is a scumbag.

And so does op sti test for sure.

Ask yourself, would you want to know, he is making a fool of her , tell her.

I'm going to echo some other comments... Why do you want to tell her? Is it because you've discovered he is in fact very married (rather than separated/divorced) and you're angry with him? Or because you are genuinely concerned regarding his wife? Very often the only reason the OW wants to spill her guts, is purely for revenge on the man and using his wife is very convenient! I understand he lied to you, but you didn't check the information you were told either! Being separated, is vastly different from being divorced, and I'm not sure from your post, he even said he was separated, just that 'his marriage was unhappy'. He ghosted you because he got what he wanted - sex - and then moved on to the next woman. By all means tell her, but you're not going to come off well and she may not believe you. Don't do it before Christmas - it's bad enough as it is, don't ruin her Christmas (and that of any children) as well.

Maybe a nice, picture postcard.

So you had no issue sleeping with a married man but now that he's chasing other women, you're aggrieved on behalf of his wife?

I wouldn’t tell and I’m not sure I’d want to know.

Lesson learned. Get to know someone thoroughly before sleeping with the twice.

Given he seems to be putting it in every readily available hole I wouldn't shame myself into admitting I was one or many so if I were you I'd just move on with your life and tell your gossipy friend you don't want his name mentioned again.

Yes, tell her. Treat her with the respect that her husband should be treating her with. She has the right to agency over her own life and should have the information to make decisions about her sexual health and her future.