A woman made a pass at DH - Need help writing a text

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I want to send a beautifully written text to the woman who touched and proposed a BJ to my DH last night. I want to say wtaf, stay away from any social gatherings we will be at and leave the WhatsApp group.

Hit me with your best ones please

No, no, no! Do you want her to think you are desperate and insecure because that is what you are saying! You’ve been listening to too much Dolly Parton!

Maybe it was a joke? In our house we call it "Doing a Greg."

That’s a dreadful response!

What's the joke?

You don't need to message her. Your DH has already told her no, and presumably other people have to.

I once watched a woman try to kiss my DH in my garden when she thought me and my friend were still out purchasing wine. He removed her from him, stood up and told her to piss off and asked her to leave. I literally gave her a cheery "bye bye!". Then our mutual friends dropped her like a hot rock.

That was enough. Long rambling texts aren't going to change her mind. Some people have no shame. One day she'll do it to the wrong person, and the wife will give her a dressing down she'll remember - but it won't be in the form of a text! Apparently that's what happened to the garden-kisser woman.

I was initially in the camp of why do you need to message her but I get it now. I would send something in the group to publicly shame her especially given she has done this before with someone else's husband. It's despicable that she will make such a proposition to her friends husbands.

I will say be prepared for the friendship group to breakup, I would expect everyone to be on your side against her but sometimes people react in funny ways.

Joelene 😀

If your message wasn’t meant as a joke, (and I’m sure it wasn’t), please note you are going against the rules of this site. You have no right to correct me and I am disappointed that you would even have the nerve to try! The nerve of it!!

"Please stop embarrassing yourself by repeatedly making passes at other women's partners. If you can't act like a normal person, stop showing up at social events. Maybe you should leave this Whatsapp group too."

I’d approach it from a friend perspective.

Hi Janice, I really valued our friendship so I was gutted to hear you made a move on Bob last night. What on earth were you thinking? I can’t believe you value the friendship so little you were prepared to wreck it for the sake of giving Bob a blowie. Surely you can’t be that desperate.

I would post in the group @ her saying I’m sure you got the message from DH last night but I would appreciate it in the future if you didn’t offer him blow jobs when I left the room. Thanks

Sally, I'm seriously fucked off with you offering Steve a blowjob last night and no longer want to socialise with you so please keep away from us. Kate.

Sometimes the beauty is in directness and simplicity.

Also, all the Annabelle's get Belle or Bella

Sorry, wrong thread ffs !!!

Oh, I would actually go to her doorstep, at a time her DH was going to be in, and confront her and tell her DH what happened.

Let your DH deal with her - you’re not his gatekeeper. 🤷‍♀️

”So… Is there something you need to tell me? I’d just love to hear your explaination for this.”

I like that tbh.
And I’d let other people in the group know too (because clearly if you start refusing to have anything to do with her, it will be visible)

MNers used to be so much much more fun. In the old days posters were so much better at coming up with extremely well thought out and often witty responses to send while supporting the OP.

Now it's all "Why bother" and "He ended it", while talking down to OP like they are an idiot for asking.

You would all be screeching about running to the police if it was a man who had done this to a woman. Sexual harrassment etc etc.

Don't you mean "Doing a Gregg"? (Apparently, he's very precious about that second g! 🙄).

Dear ex-friend,

DH has made me aware you made a pass at him and offered him a BJ at X. It is already well documented within the group that you have already made attempts on other husbands and I will not be keeping your actions on X towards my DH secret. So next time you're wondering if everyone is talking about you, they probably are.

Kind regards,

OP

GregG. It's important the extra 'g' is emphasised.

To answer the OP's question, thinking of outrageous messages you could send may be satisfying but I really do think dignified silence is best, and that your DH is not your property.

Reading through this thread (yes, it's interesting) there are two issues here, not just the one.

Slapper propositioned a friend's husband.
Whether she was drunk, secretly fancied him, or just fancied an illicit sexual encounter...who cares?
He dealt with it, so his part is finished.

The more important issue is this woman had so much disrespect for the wife, who is a friend, she would have happily been content to wreck her marriage.
That to me is why this wife has every right to address the woman in person.

Not by text....face to face.

Alternatively you could wait until there's a Kareoke night and you all attend

You could take the Mic and warble 'stop right now thankyou very much my hubs refused a BJ from Karen... what a slut'
And point right at her