A woman made a pass at DH - Need help writing a text

[GirlInterrupted]

I want to send a beautifully written text to the woman who touched and proposed a BJ to my DH last night. I want to say wtaf, stay away from any social gatherings we will be at and leave the WhatsApp group.

Hit me with your best ones please

If shes done it to other women's dh in your circle when why don't you and the other couple mention it when you are all together to shame her and tell her she's not welcome if she goes around seeing which husband takes up the offer .

@PalePurplePumpkin @13.20 . I too wondered this but suspected it was overlooked as a ridiculous one-off. Fair point though.
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If your husband doesn't think HE shoukd be the one needing to very curtly say he's taken and bsck off, there might be bigger problem. It's not on you. This isn't a women's fight - it's your husband's. Hopefully he's responded already.

Given that what she proposed would have had an effect not only on your husband but on you, your kids, the friendship group and probably a wider social circle, she was in effect trying to do something to all of you, and apparently didn't care.

So I think that you're perfectly within your rights to say whatever you want. In fact I think that anyone in that group is entitled to. Actually, saying something would have more effect coming from someone else in the group than it would from either you or your husband.

"You propositioned George and that obviously upset Georgina, and frankly the rest of us are pretty pissed off with you too. So stop it. Is that clear?"

Why would you bother 😆

This

"Hi BJ woman. Offside. You know exactly why."

Brilliant comment
There’s no need for any drama!
Get out of my pub😂

Sorry (her name) but mine is the only mouth which will be around hubbys dick so piss off

This would get my vote too. She's being so out of order that she needs calling out on it. In this situation I don't think I could just leave it.

I'd send something like "you need to stop. You're embarrassing yourself."

Is it drink that unleashes that in her, Girl? If so I suggest her friends, not you, speak seriously to her about giving it up otherwise she will do it again, and no doubt other things.

Dear Desperate Woman,

Thankyou for offering to give my partner a blowjob the other night, he was very grateful for the offer, but I think it’s only fair to warn you that he currently has a really bad flare up of his recurrent gonorrhoea and frankly the antibiotics aren’t touching it.

@GirlInterrupted

I'm the sort to think 'keep your dignity' and say/text nothing. Your DH turned her down sharply and in no uncertain terms and that's what's important.

If she's part of a friendship group, however, DH and I would 'send her to Coventry' and if anyone asked us why we wouldn't speak to her or walked away from a conversation she's joined, we'd tell them quietly and privately "She offered DH a blow job. We want nothing to do with her after that". I'm sure the word would spread on our behalf without me saying a thing. And the 'Coventry treatment' may very well spread once other 'injured parties' see you and DH doing it.

If you do send her a text, she's simply going to deny it. And since it appears that it's common knowledge that she's done this before, her denial strategy appears to be working. After all, it's 'her word against whoever she propositioned'.

Just curious, does she have a drink problem or something? Does her husband know she does this?

Classy 🙄

Yes but this woman sounds classy

Really? That’s your solution? The mind boggles!

May be of use in the future

I must be naive but I find it hard to believe that any woman would propose a BJ to a married man.

Ehhh??

Your life isn't an episode of Eastenders. Go classy. Don't engage with this nonsense.

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Just don't do it. Agree this comes from your DH or not at all.

If you do, she'll have ammunition to (essentially) groom him with eg. 'Why are you with her? She told me to stay away from you like you can't handle things yourself - do you really want to be with someone who patronises you like that? She doesn't own you.'

Sorry @Wishimaywishimight, I've basically repeated what you just said. But OP mine was an independent thought and I scrolled up to read recent comments afterwards, so I think we both have a point.

If this is the case then I get exactly why you feel the need to address it with her. It's not just a proposition to a random - it's an offer to start something illicit with a man whose wife she knows, and it doesn't sound like it's the first time she's pulled this stunt within the group.

I'd be telling her straight to not speak to you or your DH again and let her know she's getting a reputation within the group.

Tell the bitch to find her own man and don't let her try to weedle out with excuses of being drunk.

She sounds utterly vile and I'd want nothing to do with her.