A woman made a pass at DH - Need help writing a text

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I want to send a beautifully written text to the woman who touched and proposed a BJ to my DH last night. I want to say wtaf, stay away from any social gatherings we will be at and leave the WhatsApp group.

Hit me with your best ones please

This is why it's important to know whether the OP learned this information secondhand, or not.

If she sent half the messages being suggested here, the OP could end up looking a right twat, if it didn't happen exactly as described to her.

Telling someone they're lucky and should be grateful that their husband didn't accept a random blow job offer really shows how low the bar is for expectations of men.

Presumably OP was told by the first wife that she had been in this situation. How did she deal with it? Presumably OP’s husband is honest, honourable and not stirring. A pattern of BJ woman’s behaviour is emerging.
There will be “potentials” observing, unnerved and not happy to be friendly with her. Say nothing and watch which you can afford to do as your husband rebuffed her. If no one alienates her, is this group right for you?

OK this makes sense now. If she’s a friend or someone in your social circle it would be weird if you didn’t say anything tbh.

Don’t overthink just say what you feel in a text ,if that’s what you choose to do.

Personally I’d avoid swearing or threats and just get across to her that she’s bang out of order, has no respect for herself or friendship/girl code and that you and your partner are disgusted with her.

Do you let your friends treat you like that? It's a whole other separate issue to whether the husband rebuffed her advances or not. This isn't about the OP feeling threatened or not trusting her husband. This so called friend has no respect or regard for the OP. Not saying anything is making it look like you're afraid to stand up for yourself or that you put up with any old shit from people because you have no respect for yourself.

Completely agree. I find it bizarre this idea that no-one should challenge their friend if they hit on their husband.

If nothing else I’d say how hurt I was at the betrayal. It’s not about me thinking my husband might or did fall for my friend, it’s the fact she even attempted to ruin my marriage for 3 minutes of male validation.

I have to say though OP your friendship circle might be toxic if this has happened before and she wasn’t kicked out. I had friends like this in my 20s and got rid of them when I was around 26.

I now no longer have friends like this. If it did happen - and I can’t imagine that - not one of us would tolerate it and not just because we’re now in our late 30s, but because we have decent morals, respect other people’s marriages, and value our friendships.

That is exactly what I thought! I know my late husband would have kept her at arms length. I just wouldn't be friendly with her is all. She might be sorry now if she was drunk at the time.

Let it be.

I'm unclear here.

Are you wanting to message the woman directly and tell her to leave the WhatsApp group or are you wanting to message on a shared WhatsApp group, naming and shaming her, and then you'll leave the group?

(I'm not convinced either is a good option though)

It's interesting how the OP was ok to be in the WA group and attending social gatherings, after this woman tried it on with someone else's husband.

But now she's tried it on with hers, she expects the admin to boot her from the group and no-one to want her at future social gatherings.

If the rest of the group weren't outraged enough to ostracise her the first time, why would they do it now just for the OP?

It's for your partner to deal with, not you. And there is no point telling anyone not to attend social gatherings if you have no way of enforcing the prohibition.

How very Jeremy Kyle.

Just eat a big sausage next time you see her and smile

I totally see why you would want to say something, but I wouldn't group message it as it could open a whole can of worms. If you publicly say something, then she may lie and say it was the other way around. Desperate women do desperate things and she is clearly desperate.

You haven't said if she is single or if she has a partner and whether she does this when she is drunk?

I would say something along the following lines:

"I value our friendship group and want to maintain a positive atmosphere. However, I've noticed that some of your actions towards the husbands in our group have made people uncomfortable. I understand you may not have intended any harm, but it's important to respect everyone's boundaries. Can we agree to be more mindful of this moving forward?"

If she gets snotty or continues, then I would let her have it with both barrels.

She might be sorry now if she was drunk at the time.

This is no excuse. I’d go cold on her completely, I’d be ignoring her completely from now on. Bringing it up with her gives her a chance to pretend she’s sorry and put it behind her, and basically for there to be no consequences. Just freeze her out, she’s not your friend anyway.

"you toucha his dick I breaka your face" ?

I think your creating unnecessary drama. Your husband told her to fuck off. I wouldn't get involved.

If she’s someone you know, I’d probably just message her and say something like “dh told me what you said to him last night”

If you have to send a message make it this one. Might as well. Be explicit. 😆

Inspired by the current news I think I’d message the whole group:

”Very Blowy Weather Warning: Storm [Friend’s Name]

This is a public service announcement that you and your DHs take extra care out there as Storm [friends name ] continues to threaten to blow.

She offered at least 2 husbands of women in this group a BJ (including mine last night).

As predictably forecast, Storm [name]’s blow job were declined. However, as she’s now been turned down twice that sexual frustration is only likely to now be in full force and potentially wreak havoc on unsuspecting communities.

Take care to protect yourself from disruption and damage to friendships and marriage. Be careful out there.

End of public service announcement

I would deff text her, say, we were sitting here laughing at how sad and desperate you are to offer your services to my husband, also didn’t realise you had changed profession!!!

You might as well, thats basically what you're saying with any message you send her.

A woman in our social group made a pass at my Husband a few years ago
I wasn't at the party they all attended but I was at the next one

As I passed her I whispered in her ear 'not bending over this evening Pam and asking Paul to fuck you?'

Her face was a picture.......

She's not spoken to me since

Which is nice

This is brilliant 😂😂😂

I wouldn't do anything now, let her think you don't know. Bide your time, wait for the right opportunity.
Everything comes to she who waits.

I love this 😆😆